Love help: My divorce was final on Monday, but I still love him! - Help.com

Honey let him go, you don’t need that kind of pain. Of course you love him or you wouldn’t have married him in the first place. It’s hard to forget all the good times but you need to think about is this:

“…for every time I spent laughing there were two times that I cried…”

If that’s true then find someone you can always laugh with.

Good luck.

OK i understand that after leaving an abusive relationship is kind of like quitting an addiction..u might feel the need to go back to him but its just longing for ur “norm”. stick it out and ull b fine. and honestly i hate to sound cruel but i have to: SUCK IT UP PRINCESS! there are hundreds of women that would love to be in ur place…getting a divorce from an abusive husband is a dream far from coming true for them. so stick to ur plan, stop urself from contacting him, and count ur blessings…Good luck and God bless

Take time to reflect, and move on. The sooner you move on, the sooner you’ll realize as much as you might have loved him, he didn’t love or respect you enough to treat you like a husband should.

Divorce is not an easy thing been there done that. It’s going to take time & honestly I think you’re more afraid to be on your own than you do love the person. We as women tend to hold onto a unhealthy relationship out of fear of being alone. We endure things we normally would tell our friends not to but when it comes to ourselves overlook or make excuses.

I was married for 3 1/2 yrs. I tried to make it work because I don’t believe in divorce but my husband cheated & could not love or treat me the way I deserved to be, therefore, separated & eventually divorced. It wasn’t easy but I had great friends that helped me thru it.

I thought that was hard but my next relationship was worse, not only did he constantly cheat, lied and was verbally abusive and was in that for 11 yrs. I knew he was not good for me & continued going back up until I finally realized he would never be the man I thought I loved & knew….enough was enough & finally found the strength to let go and move on. I love myself more now and will not allow a man to define or hinder me anymore. You need to remember you deserve better and if a man treats you any less is not worth a ****! Don’t settle for less.