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My job or my boyfriend?

I have been offered an amazing promotion, but it will require me to move to NYC. This means leaving my boyfriend of two years, who has ties to Atlanta and can’t come. I want this job so bad, it would be wonderful… but I love him and it just hurts so bad to leave him. I will also have to leave my family, my friends, my entire life. Please help me…

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elusive_creature offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 minutes after post)

Well you can always go back to ATL if it doesn work why not give it a shot :)

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liv_192 offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

Sometimes you have to make sacrifices in your life to follow your dreams or heart. I can’t tell you which one you have to sacrifice unfortunately :( you have to decide that yourself.

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¿ThatKid? offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

I would always chose people over other stuff but it really depends..
If the job is your dream it would hurt letting that go too but if it isn’t really you should deffinetly chose for your boyfriend, familly and friends.
I know for sure I’d even let go of my dreams cause I can’t stand life without the people I love.

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lazy offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (23 minutes after post)

one job for money, or a thousand jobs for free?

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wozkonn offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (53 minutes after post)

It’s definitely a tough decision. If it truly is a job you could see yourself loving, take the job. Though it will be hard, you and your boyfriend will work something out to stay together and support each other. The job and time in NYC could be amazing. If the it’s terrible, then you know you have a place to go back to. With your relationship, either way there is a risk; you could lose him by moving but you may also resent him if you stay and feel you held yourself back to be with him. Like I said, tough decision! Have a heart to heart with boyfriend, get your friend’s and family’s opinion (if you value their opinion) and good luck!

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dylanjesse offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

Do you know how many boyfriends there are in NYC?!

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WashuChan offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (3 hours, 3 minutes after post)

Is there any reason to why you cant have a long distance relationship?

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An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (5 months, 1 week after post)

Speaking from experience, most men are usually not worth sacrificing your career over, especially if having a successful career is important to you. If the one you are with is one of the rare good men, then he will support you in whatever decision you make and try to make things work inspite of the distance. If he doesn’t, then you have your answer right there.

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