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Life is Going to Beat Me.

I lost my ex, only see my daughter twice a week, can’t seem to find a reliable job (partly because criminal background companies have false information because of a problem when I was younger), have 15,000 dollars in debt, creditors are calling me,bank account is negative, car is breaking down, and rent is due in 15 days. I am so stressed out. My motivation is fading. My will to continue trying is almost up. I don’t want to be homeless. I want to provide for my daughter. I am running out of options. I have a diploma and some college. My family can’t help. How can this happen?

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BizWiz edited this post 1 year ago. Read the previous text »

Life is going to beat me.

I lost my ex, only see my daughter twice a week, can’t seem to find a reliable job (partly because criminal background companies have false information because of a problem when I was younger), have 15,000 dollars in debt, creditors are calling me, car is breaking down, and rent is due in 15 days. I am so stressed out. My motivation is fading. My will to continue trying is almost up. I don’t want to be homeless. I want to provide for my daughter. I am running out of options.

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BizWiz offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (14 minutes after post)

ok, I was arrested for a felony in 2000. I was never convicted, instead the judge said that if I completed some community service and did a few weekends in county jail, he wouldn’t convict me. Well I finished the terms of that probation and the charges were dropped. Well somewhere along the lines the background companies updated there data bases (only done once a decade most times) and show that I was convicted of a felony. I have since gone in front of a judge concerning this matter and I have a court order that states that I was not convicted. The problem is that I can’t convince an employer to take my word for it. They tell me to take it up with the background company and these companies have a whole month to “check my status”. I need a job now, not in 30+ days, and usually in that time the position I was applying for is filled and I am out anyway.

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BizWiz edited this post 1 year ago. Read the previous text »

Life is going to beat me.

I lost my ex, only see my daughter twice a week, can’t seem to find a reliable job (partly because criminal background companies have false information because of a problem when I was younger), have 15,000 dollars in debt, creditors are calling me,bank account is negative, car is breaking down, and rent is due in 15 days. I am so stressed out. My motivation is fading. My will to continue trying is almost up. I don’t want to be homeless. I want to provide for my daughter. I am running out of options. I have a diploma and some college. My family can’t help. How can this happen?

Wyco offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour after post)

I think you should join a church organization or something. There are a lotta people out there and some of em may own small businesses in need of an employee. I can’t help you too much cause I’m still just a HS kid but from my point of view, seems like you’ve hit the bottom of the well and the only way to go lower is to die. And you can since your pretty much on the bottom you can only go up. I believe everything’s gonna work out for you just keep trying.

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mihrei offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 50 minutes after post)

i myself have been in the same boat i was arested for alot of things i didn’t do from a place i used to work in. I was so so lucky that my family had a really good name. so i got a second chance. But i left my family some yrs back and since i have been arrested for murder which i didn’t commit but again i was lucky cause i had built my own good name part of that was jioning a local church that gave me a chance with all my faults members of that church gave me jobs hee and there to do till i grew to the point were i was head hunted. so ther is alot of trueth in what wyco says.. If church is not ur thing ther is lots of groups out there to join even if its only volintary work to start with. all i can say was there was a time when i had nothing rent over due and the money just seemed to come from nowhere

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1 year ago (1 day, 8 hours after post)

Try some government assistance. Food Stamps, Hud, something, I have no idea which ones help with rent but there must be one!!

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Times' gone mad offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
Silver Spring, MD, US | 1 year ago (3 days, 21 hours after post)

Try contacting the local courthouse for the place where you were held, and performed your sentence. Ask them—because in the end, so will the company that is looking for your background. See if they have any record, and if it was the judges decision NOT to convict you, but give you a PBJ (probation before judgment) make sure that you record is straight and if you have to, ask to have the information expunged. Sometimes you HAVE TO (ask for info to be expunged/removed) even after you served your probationary period. Then get another copy of your record—and present that to the company (you want to hire you) or to the background check company.

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1 year ago (5 days, 12 hours after post)

Call the local Courthouse or the states department of corrections offices. State/Distict attorney, Actually the Public Defender may be able to help you more then the others try there.

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