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I need help with a neighbor who has kept on going to far.

I am in CT and need to know of laws and such. My neighbor keeps vandalising my belongings and now has sliced open my sitting chair I keep on my side of the porch. But I do not see her do these things, but she has also thrown juice at my grauge, messed with my lock on it, sliced my mothers tires, cut my back window mesh to shreads, screamed at us though the wall, tried to break in (the mesh) and her fiance threatened our lives. The police keep comming and telling them to stop, and because we dont see them that there is nothing that they can do….. but we know that it is them! We have no beef with anyone else in the building and know no one else that can or would do this to us. What is it that I can do to stop them? Im afraid to go to school in the mornings incase they break in and set things on fire or something.

This is so wrong in so many ways, is there no justice!?

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (3 minutes after post)

Get a webcam set up with a detection system, catch her in the act.

http://www.supervisioncam.com/

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WashuChan offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

Sorry Ikari-kun… lack of money…. sucks for me. I just cant believe she is getting away with this! And shes a felon! And got arested for doing this to someone else too! Insane….

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malori* offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (5 minutes after post)

well invest the money and then sue her. press charges and she’ll have to pay you back for the damage.

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (5 minutes after post)

Hm. The software’s free, try borrowing a webcam.

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BizWiz offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (5 minutes after post)

Keep calling the police first of all. Having reports on paper will help in the courtroom, then try filing a civil suit against her. If you don’t have the money sign up for Court TV.

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WashuChan offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (6 minutes after post)

Ive had the police here 4 times….. but because I cant see her do it, it could be someone else… they told me.

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Neutra offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (7 minutes after post)

I was also going to say the camera thing also, but what about florensics, like the police could take prints from the scene and can prove that it was them.

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WashuChan offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (8 minutes after post)

She does it at night! When we are sleeping! Its insane!

They dont do nothing here but go over and ask them if they did it…. like they are telling the truth!? siiiigh.

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WashuChan offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (9 minutes after post)

They dont leave anything they touch either. LIke the knife they just slashed open my chair with…. no wepon, but I did get pics, and pics of the last couple of times too, but nothing that ties them in with it….

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (13 minutes after post)

Catch her in the act, wait all you have to, with a camera.

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Neutra offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (16 minutes after post)

Call the police in the morning when the scene is still fresh. And most of the time a crime weapon dosen’t get far from the scene and the police usually find it.

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (16 minutes after post)

Neutra wrote:
Call the police in the morning when the scene is still fresh. And most of the time a crime weapon dosen’t get far from the scene and the police usually find it.

Most likely, she would take the knife back with her.

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WashuChan offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (17 minutes after post)

Oh, my mom is calling tonight. Though I know what they will do…. go over and ask them if they did it, then thell them to stop harassing us, its insane….

I need to get a camera soon, to capture vids on, so I can catch the b**** in action!

::Nod nod:: I agree Ikari, she did it with the tires too.

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (18 minutes after post)

Leave out an easy target one night, have a cheap disposable camera, wait…

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WashuChan offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (19 minutes after post)

Hmmm…. interesting.

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Neutra offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (19 minutes after post)

If you can, you should get the ones that flash when they detect movement, but not the ones with a flash so that it won’t get detected by them.

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (20 minutes after post)

Then, with your picture, take it to the cops, and end your neighbors destructive streak.

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WashuChan offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (23 minutes after post)

Its the whole money issue too, I have absolutely none, I have a kodak digital camera but nothing else….. I hate her so much, Im calling the police right now. Im not waiting untill my mom gets home.

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Neutra offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (24 minutes after post)

Would say you could try to hide somewhere and wait for them to show up, but then again that sounds alittle risky.

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mihrei offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (24 minutes after post)

web cam with the right software will do the trick. call the police with every incident. But word of advise the video evidence will not stand up in court cause it won’t be licensed the same with picture. The whole system is feck up cause u can’t use video evidence that a person is damaging ur property case its evasion of that persons privacy. if in uk u can apply to the information commissioner and put up signs that cctv is in opertional.

If money so tight put up the sighns and dumy cameras.

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (24 minutes after post)

WashuChan wrote:
Its the whole money issue too, I have absolutely none, I have a kodak digital camera but nothing else….. I hate her so much, Im calling the police right now. Im not waiting untill my mom gets home.

Why call? You’ve done it before unfruitfully. Wait until you have more evidence to get them with.

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mihrei offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (25 minutes after post)

its still invasion of a persons privacy to hide and take a picture

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (25 minutes after post)

Hook up an airhorn, if you hear someone outside, blow it, scare the sh!t out of them.

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (25 minutes after post)

mihrei wrote:
its still invasion of a persons privacy to hide and take a picture

Not if they are on your property.

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mihrei offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (28 minutes after post)

yes it is trust me its 1 of the things i do for a living is provide secruity inside ur building i.e. house is ok but if pointing outside with an outward view then its against the law

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WashuChan offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (28 minutes after post)

Hahahaha! Yes unfruitfully but this is the multipul occasions, I have pictures of ones we didnt call, and I seriously cant handle this anymore, Im afraid for my sons safety.

They are on their way….

Commander Ikari wrote:
Hook up an airhorn, if you hear someone outside, blow it, scare the sh!t out of them.

Hahahahahaha!

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mihrei wrote:
its still invasion of a persons privacy to hide and take a picture
Not if they are on your property.

Its not our property, I know you have to put up a sign saying you are using a camera when you do servaliance.

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (29 minutes after post)

mihrei wrote:
yes it is trust me its 1 of the things i do for a living is provide secruity inside ur building i.e. house is ok but if pointing outside with an outward view then its against the law

Where do you live?

And if would depend how the camera was angled, what if it was looking toward your house?

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WashuChan offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (30 minutes after post)

Commander Ikari wrote:

WashuChan wrote:
Its the whole money issue too, I have absolutely none, I have a kodak digital camera but nothing else….. I hate her so much, Im calling the police right now. Im not waiting untill my mom gets home.
Why call? You’ve done it before unfruitfully. Wait until you have more evidence to get them with.

We have no other people who want to get us! None! We know no one here but my aunt, uncle, and cousin. No one in the entire building has any problem with us at all, its insane I swear! But because there are kids upstairs, it could be them…. yea, cause their mother lets them out at 7 with knives.

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (31 minutes after post)

WashuChan wrote:

Commander Ikari wrote:
WashuChan wrote:
Its the whole money issue too, I have absolutely none, I have a kodak digital camera but nothing else….. I hate her so much, Im calling the police right now. Im not waiting untill my mom gets home.
Why call? You’ve done it before unfruitfully. Wait until you have more evidence to get them with.
We have no other people who want to get us! None! We know no one here but my aunt, uncle, and cousin. No one in the entire building has any problem with us at all, its insane I swear! But because there are kids upstairs, it could be them…. yea, cause their mother lets them out at 7 with knives.

Their mother is kinda messing up with her parenting…

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mihrei offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (32 minutes after post)

i would pu up the signs there is no law against the sign and dumby cameras. they do work wonders…

why call the police cause it builds a picture of what is going on till some1 is caght doing something

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malori* offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (35 minutes after post)

WashuChan wrote:
yea, cause their mother lets them out at 7 with knives.

you make it sound like their mother realeases them from the house at seven with knives, like she stands at the door and hands out machetes… “bye kids! have a nice day!”

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WashuChan offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (35 minutes after post)

Oooo dumby cameras! I can do that! :D Its cheep too!

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WashuChan offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (36 minutes after post)

Malori In Love ♥ wrote:

WashuChan wrote:
yea, cause their mother lets them out at 7 with knives.
you make it sound like their mother realeases them from the house at seven with knives, like she stands at the door and hands out machetes… “bye kids! have a nice day!”

Hahahahaha! All they have done is spraypaint, and thats it, their mother is really nice and besides that they are pretty well behaived, but because they are kids, they could do it. Thats the excuse.

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mihrei offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (36 minutes after post)

and if it get t a point that its so bad the police then have to put in ther own cameras without notices or warning signs. so keep calling very time something happens it all goes to build a picture.

But its really sad that u can’t protect ur own property with a camera with out the law coming down on the side of the person doin the damage.

CCTV systems cost from a few hundred up to 1000s. if in the uk i could recomend a few that really cheap

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (38 minutes after post)

mihrei wrote:
and if it get t a point that its so bad the police then have to put in ther own cameras without notices or warning signs. so keep calling very time something happens it all goes to build a picture.But its really sad that u can’t protect ur own property with a camera with out the law coming down on the side of the person doin the damage.CCTV systems cost from a few hundred up to 1000s. if in the uk i could recomend a few that really cheap

Not Closed circuit tv’s, webcam with software, about $20…

And are you talking UK law, or what?

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WashuChan offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (38 minutes after post)

Wish I was somewhere other than here…. UK sounds really nice right now. siiiigh.

They can put their own cameras up?

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mihrei offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (42 minutes after post)

pity u didn’t live in northern ireland where i live kids don’t get away with **** like that. I know of 1 case halloween kids firing fireworks at certain houses 1 being my girlfriends at the time her mother compained to there parents all they could say was its halloween wht u expect i arrived round turn the hose on them as they threw the fire works and hosed them down the parents complained to me. I just said its halloween what do u expect. to finish the story they threw the fireworks at the wrong house aswell they where taken out the next day and given a hiding 2 left in hospital ncluding the dad

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mihrei offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (43 minutes after post)

WashuChan wrote:
Wish I was somewhere other than here…. UK sounds really nice right now. siiiigh. They can put their own cameras up?

only on own property sorry

but in the US u can shoot trespassers???????????????????

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (44 minutes after post)

mihrei wrote:

WashuChan wrote:
Wish I was somewhere other than here…. UK sounds really nice right now. siiiigh. They can put their own cameras up?
only on own property sorrybut in the US u can shoot trespassers???????????????????

Generally, yes.

Very much depends. If they are breaking into your house you can, just on your lawn, no.

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mihrei offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (48 minutes after post)

i have a case that i’m working on at the minute that involves a guy videoing a nieghbour destroying his car with brake fuild. it won’t stand up in court but the guy is able to sue for invasion of privacy for being video taped destroy a car. anothe case same sort of thing the police advise on the system and even paid for it to be put in.

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (50 minutes after post)

mihrei wrote:
i have a case that i’m working on at the minute that involves a guy videoing a nieghbour destroying his car with brake fuild. it won’t stand up in court but the guy is able to sue for invasion of privacy for being video taped destroy a car. anothe case same sort of thing the police advise on the system and even paid for it to be put in.

Your in Northern Ireland?

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mihrei offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (51 minutes after post)

yep in northern ireland

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (52 minutes after post)

Hm, in the US I’ve never heard of a case like that.

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mihrei offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (53 minutes after post)

police have to act or something else happens over here

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WashuChan offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (54 minutes after post)

mihrei wrote:

WashuChan wrote:
Wish I was somewhere other than here…. UK sounds really nice right now. siiiigh. They can put their own cameras up?
only on own property sorrybut in the US u can shoot trespassers???????????????????

Hahahaha! Yup! The beauty of it, though renters get squat.

BTW, She just left. Did I mention that she has a police scanner in her home too?

They just got in the car and zoomed off. Good thing though, shes driving, without a licence.

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Commander Ikari offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 129 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (55 minutes after post)

WashuChan wrote:

mihrei wrote:
WashuChan wrote:
Wish I was somewhere other than here…. UK sounds really nice right now. siiiigh. They can put their own cameras up?
only on own property sorrybut in the US u can shoot trespassers???????????????????
Hahahaha! Yup! The beauty of it, though renters get squat.BTW, She just left. Did I mention that she has a police scanner in her home too? They just got in the car and zoomed off. Good thing though, shes driving, without a licence.

It’s your civic duty to report her, for the public good of course ;)

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mihrei offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (56 minutes after post)

report her for that

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WashuChan offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (56 minutes after post)

Hhahahaha! public good! wah ha hah a ha ha! i will.

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mihrei offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (56 minutes after post)

btw in northern ireland people can can get knee capped for that sort of thing

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Vampire King offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 6 hours after post)

Set up security cameras around your house and yard. Catch them on tape doing these acts and then call the police so that something must be done!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 18 hours after post)

They got away with it again…. and keep doing things like this, its okay though, because they got an evitcion notice yesterday and have to be out soon, so no more worries. Thanks for all your help guys!

::Hugs!::

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