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I feel like I’m obsessed with my boyfriend…

currently i’m in school. i live in a different city than my boyfriend and fortunately get to see him on weekends.
my school days are long days.. 630am -6pm with transit .. by the time i get home i just wanna chill out ..relax.. and talk to him or my friends….
i’ve been seeing my boyfriend since last march but just seriously started dating in the middle of august.
i feel like i need a hobby or something but by the end of the day i’m so exhausted i dont want to get out and do anything. nor do i have time. i have dishes, laundry and all those great house keeping things to do when i get home not to mention making my supper for that night and lunch for the next day….

when my boyfriend gets to go out and spend time with his friends i seem to be resenting him for it lately and i feel like i’m obsessed with him.. with knowing where he is.. making sure he’s not cheating on me.. even though when i talk to him i can tell he cares a lot for me…

suggessttionns for this crazynness??

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ju_babe offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (6 minutes after post)

People, when they get into relationships tend to depend too heavily on the other person making them happy. You need to live your life as though you were single, without dating. Do thing to keep busy and that you enjoy. Then when you are with him you’ll have a lot to say and you can actually enjoy each others company.

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Help me with: I’m not married, I’ve given up on that too.
BizWiz offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 3 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (7 minutes after post)

Not crazy, you miss him. Try setting up a few dates to go on. Set up times to see each other. Be careful not to get to clingy though, wanting to keep him all for yourself usually is because you have a weakness. I have been there. Honestly, I hope he wants to see you just as much. That would really help things along. :)

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Help me with: In a good mood, someone make me laugh!
sl62 offline Verified User (8 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 Add Friend #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (4 months after post)

I know exactly what you mean. My advice is to spend time with your firends. Make sure you take some time out to do other things so you dont depend on him for your happiness. I’m in the same situation..i feel like its a one way thing for me. he doesnt help me and would rather “do he’s own thing” Just have to get out the habit of almost controlling him. the more you stop him goin gout the more he will want to go! x

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An Unknown Location | 5 months, 3 weeks ago (6 months, 3 weeks after post)

im completely the same i struggle so much i want to be with him all of the time but sometimes he wants his own space from me which is fair enough but i just cannot seem to understand why i want to spend all of my time with him but he likes to have time on his own ..?

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (11 months, 1 week after post)

girls trust me i am in the same boat…i call him everyday, we spend almost everyday together, and when he tells me he wants to go out with friends to a club or something i feel sick inside, i get hurt, mad and then i try to make him jealous by flirting with other guys and pretending guys are calling me in his presence so that hed appreciate me…. its sad. and im like this in every relationship, they start reealising that im vulnerable and then take advantage of me… people please help me stop this obsession. i dont wana lose him

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