Love help: ohh goodness, problems with boys… okay so i have a bit of a dilemma. - Help.com

LOL i know EXACTLY what you mean i have been in the same boat. Just wait and he will find you

just try to be natural like when your with a guy you arnt attracted to i mean tht seems to work a treat dont try to impress just be yourself n if they dont dig it then move on :) good luck

I dont think she trys to impress she just probably dont want to make a fool of herself but it comes off as being shy or boring. At least thats how it was in my situation

oh okay well just be urself :)

exactly!! i don’t know why but when an attractive guy is around i just shut down and come off looking really dull! but when i’m with guys i’m not into, suddenly i’m the life of the party!! but you’re both right, i should just try to be myself all of the time, and i hope mr. right will find me! lol

Lol you should choose one of the guys and strictly be friends with them so you can feel more comfortable around guys. By you hanging out with him will cause you to be yourself in many situations you will normally find uncomfortable. In my case, i befriended a guy in my class and now im WAY more comfortable around ppl and find it easier to just be me regardless of how cute the guy is. Now we are more than friends, which is always a plus :).

I know we are different but it might work in your favor as well

butttt that always seems to lead to some issues. when i start to form a really close relationship with one of my guy friends, they usually end up trying to make us ‘more then friends’, you know. then when i say no i come off looking like a jerk for ‘leading him on’… and our entire friendship is ruined.

Oh i know LOL i even made a post about this before i met my special guy friend
http://help.com/post/189039-guys-that…

haha oh wow!! i guess we have a lot in common then!! or at least we used to back when you were sad and single like me lol. its just a rough time, just about all of my girl friends have recently gotten boyfriends, so i’m feeling a bit left out and am starting to think that something must be wrong with me!!

I know what you mean all my roommates had boyfriends in the beginning of the school yr now two of them do (i have 3). I didnt care for being single because to me it only brought drama and stress in your life. I still think it brings stress in your life but im working on compromising so things. Dont think that all my problems were solved because i have a long way to go. I have many walls, am very opinionated, defensive and the list goes on. So he is helping me grow as a person by being very patient with me.

It might be a while before you find someone but dont think something is wrong with you because i thought that and still do from time to time. But in reality there isnt anything wrong with us. Guys just have to work harder to win our hearts :). Btw if a guy is willing to be patient with you and go at your paste then he is a keeper. So many move quick and miss all the little things that miss out on getting to know YOU. Cute guys arent that interesting anyway. Find someone who you are satisfied with and you will be ok (not who you think your friends will find attractive but you)

holy smokes i think you just hit the nail on the head!! i didn’t even realize it, but i’m definitely on the look out for someone that my friends will approve of, not necessarily just myself. wow, i’ve got a lot to think about haha. but i’m willing to wait, a little longer anyways

u jut need to find a guy that isn’t too cute, that u can b cool around. find someone that shares your common interests.

aww but i want a cute guy!!

u can get whom ever i think that first u should try to step up ur confidence…what i did was i just acted more hyper (like i do wit my friends) but cute, when i saw how guys reacted to it i felt more comfortable.
Or this is all happening because soon ur gonna meet a guy that’s dif. from all the rest and ull fall in love and all that…

I know exactly how you feel, this always used to happen to me. You should try meeting guys online, friends of friends kinda thing ;) I know it sounds silly but then it’s easier to be yourself. Honest!