How can I say no to a stubborn habit?
How can I put the past behind me if I don’t forgive myself for what happened to me? How can I live with these feelings? I am tired of feeling trapped. What should I do? Can someone give me some advice?
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Everything happened to me. I’m not at that point where I can say what happened to me. Just think about everything that can happen. I think of what comes to your first you are most likely right.
If you want to talk about this really where no one else can see what is hurting you then go to Facebook.com and look up Danielle Musel. Whatever is hurting you has probably happened to me.
“When you’re drowning, you don’t say, ‘I would be incredibly pleased if someone would have the forseight to notice me drowning and come help me.’ You just scream.”
-John Lennon
You are not responsible. This did not happen to you for a reason and it is not your fault. It’s okay to cry about this, it’s okay to wonder why, it’s okay to want to die but remember that this isn’t because of something you did. This is because of what someone else did. I have been there. I have walked alone where you are walking alone now. Talk to me, I promise it will help.
Scriptease wrote:
you said “forgive yourself… for what happened to you”You are taking the responsibility but are you the responsible party? You can put the past behind you, correct your ways (if in fact that is whats necessary), and cleanse yourself of the pain. Ofcourse, you can, it is alot of work and it’s not easy, but you knew that. as long as your alive, we are given that opportunity. Do you want to share more of the specifics? Its up to you
What specific information do you want to know? Just list them and if i feel okay to answer your questions I will.
I understand. It doesn’t have to be yucky and hard to get over. You have the power and ability to focus on things which cause you joy. Be you. Appreciate the great parts of who you are. It’s easy to focus on the negative, and I’m not saying ignore it or pretend it didn’t exist, I’m saying focus on the little things that you love and you will begin to see why life is a gift, and watch new, positive habits start to emerge.
Scriptease wrote:
I asked.
were you actually responsible for what happened to you?
is there some error in your ways which caused the past problem, and will cause more in the future?
Lets start there
I am not responsible for everthing that happened to me. I do know that the stuff I did have control over is most likely its my fault.
daniellemusel wrote:
If you want to talk about this really where no one else can see what is hurting you then go to Facebook.com and look up Danielle Musel. Whatever is hurting you has probably happened to me.“When you’re drowning, you don’t say, ‘I would be incredibly pleased if someone would have the forseight to notice me drowning and come help me.’ You just scream.”
-John Lennon
You are not responsible. This did not happen to you for a reason and it is not your fault. It’s okay to cry about this, it’s okay to wonder why, it’s okay to want to die but remember that this isn’t because of something you did. This is because of what someone else did. I have been there. I have walked alone where you are walking alone now. Talk to me, I promise it will help.
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Scriptease wrote:
well if you had control over something then it was your fault.but “not forgiving yourself” and “having awful feelings” over the part of whatever that you did not have responsibility foris useless. do you agree? that was question #1are you going to continue doing whatever it is that you did? this is question #2please answer both of them
I didn’t have a choice for the stuff I didn’t want to happen to me. I was 15 at the time and I never told anyone what happened to me. Just keeping it in is killing me. No one will every understand what I went through. I am stupid for not telling someone that could of did something to help me. I am tring not to do the stuff I did. Thats why I am asking for help.
Scriptease wrote:
ookk. you said you should have told someone that could have done something. can you tell someone now? will it help for the future? and lessen the likihood of doing it again?
I don’t think I can tell someone what happened. I waited to long to tell. I don’t know how to tell. I am scared that they might come back for me.
I am a little of everything. Paraniod, stress, scared, everthing you can think of.
Will you help me not to feel this way? I really do want to tell someone but I am scared. I don’t want anyone to look or see me any different from how I feel about myself.
You won’t hear any judgement from us. Maybe it’s a start to be able to tell someone while you’ve got the advantages of anonymity?
I know you guys can’t promise me you can help, but I hope that you’ll try to do your best. I know I may need to see
a therapy to talk to someone that can help me put the past behind me and to forgive myself for what happened. I am a feeling disappointed, helpless, uncomfortable, confused, nervous, frustrated, depressed, useless, regretful, hopeless, rejected, guilty, embarrassed, frightened, unloved, angry, hurt, lonely, trapped, and threatened. I feel this way because I was force to do some stuff and an living this life feeling trapped because I didn’t report what happened to me. I could of told someone who could have help me but I didn’t. I don’t know what to do anymore. I am glad that someone is concerned about me.
I didn’t hurt anyone. I was hurt by someone and its been 6 years and I can’t for give myself at all. I am ready to heal. I have to heal.
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