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man, it sounds like youve been through a truck load in recent times.
you really need to take some time for yourself to heal and start dealing with stuff.
have you thought about checking into a clinic for a bit, to get some help and get your head sorted?
or even just taking a holiday, away from all the crap?

i would never resort to killing yourself. never. you ARE more important than you think you are to the ones that love you. i know your sadness is overwhelming, it sounds like, to the point where decisions could be clouded and emotions flood you. i would seek in-patient treatment for depression. yes, it would cost you money, but it would be the best money you invested and it would be in your OWN happiness. i would also, to help with finances, read Dave Ramsey’s “Total Money Makeover”. My husband and I had much debt and it seemed as if we were always living from paycheck to paycheck IF that…and we both make good money. Focus on YOU right now. On your sense of self, your core-consciousness. Read, turn to Faith and God if you believe. Devote as much time as necessary to you, b/c you deserve it. I would be selfish with my time and emotions if I were you and figure your life out. Once you have done that, all of the pieces will fall into place. I wish you the best of luck and while I don’t know you, if you can make it through all of that, you are certainly stronger than you believe!=)

Hello tp2011,

it is really unfortunate what happened to you but I want to say from the beginning: the best way to atone is by living.

So now to you… its really bad how your (ex) wife treated you, what you had to go through because of her.
Its also really sad that your family isnt a support to you but just care about themselves.

But you seem like an intelligent man and you are surely able to work it out, as long as you try and dont give up. Do little things for yourself to cheer you up, and search for a better job maybe? It all will take its time and it wont change from today to tomorrow but if you keep a calm head you’ll make the best out of your momentary situation and it’ll get better, thats for sure.

I hope things will work out soon for you,
keep going on!

my advice to you is to take control of your life until you can afford some outside help. this means deep self reflection. pulling yourself out from the rut your in… b/c if you depend on others, they may not always be around if it is to happen again or you feel down. read read read… seriously, it will help you in so many aspects of your life… some reads:

Everyday Life Bible (if you have faith in God. it takes you through the bible and how it relates to your life day to day)
Dave Ramseys “Total Money Makeover” or “Financial Peace”
Dali Lama “The Art of Happiness”
Dr. Phil McGraw “Relationship Rescue” (for extreme self reflection and what may have gone wrong in our relationship. very good)

if you do not take the advice, then how good is the help? if there are excuses, how will you get help? if you do not believe in yourself to get help, what good is it for asking? you have to choose your means of help… and if nothing else, you can pray anytime, anyplace, any amount of time to God for help. if nothing else, that will not fail you.

Set smaller targets for yourself. Part of feeling successful is to learn to acknowledge small successes. Sometimes, making a list of what we want to achieve in the day and aiming to do 25% can help. For example, instead of “finish my project” split your target down into smaller units … “spend half an hour on my project”. Instead of “sort the bedroom” try “sort one drawer in the bedroom”. This may seem trivial, but achieving small things helps to give you a sense of success.

Try getting out and about for fresh air at least three times a day.. set those times and make them part of your routine. Just a ten minute walk helps you to reoxygenate and can give you a bit of boost.

Look carefully at your diet. Cut out all additives and sugary foods to avoid the highs and lows that they can bring.

By chipping away at some of these lesser things, it can make your burdens just a little easier to bear.

good call mumstheword

You need some quiet time too. Your life sounds hectic.

Try finding some time to do something creative or relaxing.

One way of finding time is to check out some time management ideas to streamline what you have to do each day. That really worked for me, shaving off a couple of minutes here and there by doing things in new ways allowed me to “find” the half hour a day I needed to get myself recharged.

Stress is a huge cyclical thing.. you have to break the circle. Force little improvements into your lifestyle to help break that circle.