Love help: when someone is a liar and they don’t want to be - Help.com

Pathologoical liars need psychological help. It costs a great deal of money but is often times covered by health insurance if a medical doctor determines that the treatment is a dire need. However, pathological liars cannot be trusted, obviously, and one should do whatever possible to get far away from these people until they are completely treated. Staying close to such a person will only lead to mental and emotional pain and frustration. Honesty is the bond on which loving human beings rely and trust is the primary quality of any good relationship. When it comes to human being, trust is it. Personally, I don’t trust anyone or anything. Except for that one person….

Please advocate that they get professional, medical help. If you are strong enough, see them through the treatment. Make sure that it is clear that you know about the problem they have with lying and deceit. If they understand this, they will understand the struggle you will suffer by sticking by them. But make sure they seek treatment. I don’t know much about you situation but psychiatry or some other form of mental help seems to be necessary. Otherwise, toughen up and find someone else. But they may be more difficult. Unfortunately, we never learn anything without suffering.

You both seem to be struggling. That will either make your relationship stronger, if you are both willing to make sacrifices and still maintain the love. Or, you both will be devasted (or just one of you…). Let him know there is a breaking point, and you are only willing to bend so far for him. Trust is the only foundation for a relationship. Without that, it is hard to tell you to be optimistic. I hope for all the best.

Only time will tellif these treatments will work. . He is getting help with this. He couldeasily refuse I assume. Givehim the benefit of the doubt. If you dont trust he’ll change,then you need to get out now.Otherwise, give him the support he needsright now to succeed.If heis worth it to you, then you have to grant him this benefit to change, and trust that he will from now on. All the best to you :)

i know its different but my daughter is a pathological liar and she was in therapy for a long time but it didnt help her. not trying to discourage you but ive been there with my kid when she turned 18 and finished school she left havent heard from her since july. getting help is a start but if they have been that way from birth they can kind of change but they are wired that way from my personal experience you will always be lied to no matter how much they want to change.thats what they know its not their fault they are just wired wrong

im not trying to discurage you. that is something i have come to relize wiyh my daughter and only my opinoin and i know others who are like that. only you can decide what you want and if you can deal with every thing.let your heart lead you most of all.