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you HAVE to tell an adult, this is not something you can handle on your own, she is a threat to herself and others
she can get help
this is not ur fault

adults do know. They got her a depression med that was approved for children under 18 but its not helping.

does she see a psychiachtrist

do they know that it isnt helping

she went to see a therapists a couple of times but not continuously. She’s told people it doesn’t help. adults i mean

Chances are she will never be like her “old self” again. Something as dramatic as losing your mother at such an age is not something one can usually escape from unscathed. But people do change, and high school is a big time when that happens. Don’t try to change her, but continue to give her your support. Keep trying to help her and don’t give up. If her depression medication is not working, she needs to go back to the doctor. She also needs to be seeing a counselor or a therapist. She is severely depressed and not thinking straight. Simply because she cannot show her appreciation for you, I’m sure it is there. She has a lot going on and all she needs is your support. Eventually she will appreciate it. So just be there for her.

i think she needs to get back into therapy and maybe you should invite her over for a fun weekend

she’s not going to though i know she wont. As for the fun weekend, i know it doesn’t make a difference she’ll be ok for a couple days then she’ll just stay home from school a couple days later and cut herself more. I know i shouldn’t be angry … but even in person she thinks that she has the right to take advantage of people like teachers because her mother died.

maybe she doesn’t care anymore since life gave her that big **** for present.
it’s hard to care when you get punched so hard.
but that’s just a maybe.
maybe she doesn’t care because she didn’t care in the beginning…

One thing is for sure, you can’t force people to do anything.
and if she’s doing something, and doesn’t want your help, you can’t do much about it.

I would suggest you to not let it drag you to the bottom with her.
I tell you that because it happened to me, and the way out is painful and not even wort it.
not even wort it.

Tell her you liked the joyful her not the loner her. And that you miss that about her.
Just tell her how you feel… If she doesn’t get that or doesn’t even care , well, then, you might get a hint to what to do next.

Take care.

thank you so much.

I know a girl who’s mom died before i even met her 6 years ago and it has left her very bitter. she STILL is not afraid to lash out at people when she’s annoyed at people…and that’s often…

It sounds like your friend does need a lot of support right now and that you are being a good and true friend to her.
I have also know someone who cut themselves. This person did recover but they needed support from good friends and a good therapist in her case it was a councellor more, than medication.
One of the main things for you perhaps is to know that apart from being there and reassuring her, there is little you can do. And antonio is right you can’t forget to look after yourself in the process. At the end of the day she needs to recognise that what she is doing is not serving her and only she can make the decision to get help, to choose differently.
In my friends case ‘ the death of her mother was out of her control and after, the world seemed different. No longer predictable and potentially dangerous and out of her control. She started to cut herself. It was one thing perhaps the only thing she felt she could control.
Keep your chin up lovely and know that you can only do what you can do, by being a friend to her, not encouraging her behavior but supporting her and encouraging her to get professional support. And reasuring her that she can get through it. You can’t do it for her though and you cannot be her councellor or therapist.
Most importantly remember to support yourself also.
Best of wishes for you and your friend