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i feel so hurt and lied to.

im dating a guy and he puts zero effort into the so called relationship.

he txt non stop…and i know for a fact they are all girls. i am going to break up with him, but it still doesnt change how hurt i am.
i just got back from his hockey game…i was SOO excited to see him play for the first time, i even convinced my mom to come and watch. imagine my surprise to see him sitting in the stands..not playing. i felt like such an idiot in front of my mom.
i dont think im heart broken…but i get sick to my stomach to think abou it.
i just need some courage or something.

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BizWiz offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (0 minutes after post)

may I ask how old you two are?

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Joy. offline Verified User (3 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (3 minutes after post)

Believe me..Being the bumper is easier(emotionaly) then being the bumped. (unless you actually care about that person)

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (6 minutes after post)

19 and 18

and i do care….i just dont think he does. and im not a jealous girl, but talkin to other chicks makes me feel so in the dark.

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Hybrid Theory offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (8 minutes after post)

you just contradicted yourself. Apparently you are jealous.

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Hybrid Theory offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (9 minutes after post)

was he sitting in the stands or on the bench? is he actually on the team?

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Hybrid Theory offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (9 minutes after post)

How did he lie to you?

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lyn_9 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (15 minutes after post)

in the stands with the rest of the players that dont play that game.
i ‘feel’ lied to…as in things just dont add up.

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BizWiz offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (15 minutes after post)

does he ever show his feelings for you the way he expresses them in his texts?

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Hybrid Theory offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (17 minutes after post)

lyn_9 wrote:
in the stands with the rest of the players that dont play that game.
i ‘feel’ lied to…as in things just dont add up.

so, you’re dissappointed in him because his coach didnt put him in the game?

And because you’re so suspicious of him and his texting that you think hes lying to you without any proof?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (21 minutes after post)

he hardly ever txts me anymore…we made plans to hang out earlier today, but he sorta stood me up.
we had a conversation the other day and he acted like he didnt want to break up and that I was one who didnt wanna try and when i said i did want to try he kept asking: are you sure, are you sure?…is that like a reverse mind game meaning he really does wanna break up

im pissed cuz he said DIDNT tell me he wasnt playing….the players know well in advanced if they wont play
and when im right there and see sarah…kelly….and jessica in his inbox i call that proof…i think

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Hybrid Theory offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (25 minutes after post)

so he has lots of girl friends, you’re his girlfriend. Unless you get proof of him cheating or wanting to break up, dont get so jealous.

I have a girlfriend, and most of my friends are girls. I only want her. The rest are JUST friends. Dont over react. Im not saying dont break up, its your choice, but maybe you should talk to him about it before you do.

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BizWiz offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (28 minutes after post)

leave him. the only role of any boyfriend is to make you happy. so, if he is failing. leave him. he will crawl back.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (56 minutes after post)

i think i need to write that down and read it over and over, cuz its true. im not the best with being the dumper…but its better than the dumpie. thanks

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 19 minutes after post)

just give him what he wants,
let him go txt all those girls without compromise.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (5 hours, 18 minutes after post)

If the other does not put effort as much as you do, then you do need to get away from it fast before you get hurt too deep.

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