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Aww, Thats harsh, Whats her problem? haha.

And be carfull it could be TOTM

Hey man dont talk about your mom like that, my mom has made me feel the same way.

were all a little mad but you went to far

give her a box of ferrero roche. They always work. Or buy her a ticket to a ladies evening. They work too. Or you could take her to dinner at a nice hotel…They all work for me!

well, if you make her nice it would work. if you are lyk 20, u could pack a suit case and get the cheapest flight outta britain.

Commander Ikari wrote:
Does your mother say your worthless, and only ruin things?

My mother calls me names on a regulaur basis, she once told me that she gave up her life for her kids,and we were all useless, she threw me out before she’s hit me and tried to beat me up once… and she once gorged my arm with a spoon because I used her rice pot.

And for some odd reason,

I still love my mom and would do anything for her.

Just what you need, Will! A cheap flight out of Britain!

Commander Ikari wrote:
Does your mother say your worthless, and only ruin things?

I am a mother,
What do you think brought this on?
How do you treat your mother on a regular basis?

well how old r u

Yeah, but my mom was going through something prettyy bad.

but still Ikari, I dont know what you deal with, so is she always this way?

How old are you?

nante and ikari are both 13

im 13 and if I were u apologize 2 ur mum bout what ever u did and sit next 2 her and give her a hug :)

Sorry she’s being mean, Ikari. Is she always like that?

jenny_lighthoo wrote:
im 13 and if I were u apologize 2 ur mum bout what ever u did and sit next 2 her and give her a hug :)

Haha, I tried that with my mom once and she called my dad and said I attacked her.

Commander Ikari wrote:

jenny_lighthoo wrote:
im 13 and if I were u apologize 2 ur mum bout what ever u did and sit next 2 her and give her a hug :)

Why should I apologize again?

YOU DONT

wanna know what I did?

14*

because mums dont be mean 2 u unless u have done someting wrong or they are going through a pretty bad phase

Penguin Boy wrote:
14*

Not me, I’m 15

Or unless shes a druggy?

i meant ikari and nante are 14

I was going to say maybe she’s going through a tough time. Some people can’t deal, and take it out on others. I’d give her the benefit of the doubt, like Nante does with his mom.

Appreciate her now, you’ll miss her when she’s gone -_-.

well your age has lots to due with your feelings. At 13/14 you are in an emotional stage. I am willing to bet she is not mean, but just reacting o your up and down moods.

well i heard he was 14, i guess u lean somthing new every day

exactly my point talk to her ask questions

Hey, Ikari. Guess who brought you into this world! She could have thrown you out right then. It’s because of all she’s done for you that you are here right now and can enjoy this wonderful planet!

Be nice to the person that supports you, and love you

I just was trying to say that she might not be trying to hurt you intentionally but lashing out because she can’t deal with her own feelings.

You’re a ******* **** sometimes. Forget this ****.

Commander Ikari wrote:

☼₦ḭṤă☼ wrote:
I was going to say maybe she’s going through a tough time. Some people can’t deal, and take it out on others. I’d give her the benefit of the doubt, like Nante does with his mom. Appreciate her now, you’ll miss her when she’s gone -_-.

Well my god, I should just talk it all! she’s going through a hard time! Bless her heart, she doesn’t mean it, she can’t help it!*Wipes away tears*

Come on, guy! Relationships are a two way street. You actually owe your mom more than she owes you. You gotta put SOMETHING into it to make it work!

libragirl12 wrote:
well your age has lots to due with your feelings. At 13/14 you are in an emotional stage. I am willing to bet she is not mean, but just reacting o your up and down moods.

Mmm, Yes Yes Yes Teenagers are demonic monster from planet Angst.

But Has Anyone here ever took into concedertation what you have said?

Like none of you have said You Couldnt stand your mother, Or You this shes bad.

It seems like a room full o’ hypocrits to me. Maybe His Mom Just Needs Some Kotex? It is possible for the MOM to the be the Angsty Mean one, its not ALWAYS the childs fault. To Heck with her was a bit harsh, But you all act like you treat your mother like a queen.

Well this might not work for you, but my mom would always kick me out, and I would always just come back when she went to work, but after the whole hug thing, IO was finally done with her, so I went to live with my dad, in about a week she felt bad and told me to come home, but I didnt, in about a month she cried and apologized and I went back home.

Commander Ikari wrote:

☼₦ḭṤă☼ wrote:
I was going to say maybe she’s going through a tough time. Some people can’t deal, and take it out on others. I’d give her the benefit of the doubt, like Nante does with his mom. Appreciate her now, you’ll miss her when she’s gone -_-.

Well my god, I should just talk it all! she’s going through a hard time! Bless her heart, she doesn’t mean it, she can’t help it!*Wipes away tears*

?

You think thats what I did?

Look, I love my mom for who she is, she has alot of good qualities, but in all honesty she is a tyrant, she will take her anger out on whoever is there, untill she is on her own.

When she is on her own, I guess she realizes the only person she can blame is herself.

Hows things with your dad?

how do you all get along together?

Okay, maybe you and your dad should go out more together, if your not there for her to take her anger out on you, and your dads not there to agree with her, maybe she will finally deal with whatever it is she needs to deal with, and realize how important family is

(sorry if thats corny)

but seriously, my mom really turned around after I left.

Ahaaa.
Woo.
Ikari is online.
(:
To Hell with my mom too!
*cheers*

Yeah, I figured you’d think that, thats what I thought.

Just remember, you dont have to let her insult you, if it gets to that point just go for a walk.

Nante wrote:
Yeah, I figured you’d think that, thats what I thought.

Just remember, you dont have to let her insult you, if it gets to that point just go for a walk.

Ha I wish, Id Get Yanked back in that door fast enough to get whiplash.

Commander Ikari wrote:

ashleyyy;*tastrophy. wrote:
Ahaaa.Woo.Ikari is online.(:To Hell with my mom too!*cheers*

Suppose this makes makes all the advice I’ve given to you be hypocritical, huh?

Noo.
Coming from a person who has truly helped me.
You’re advice will always work.

Jen Masterson wrote:

Nante wrote:
Yeah, I figured you’d think that, thats what I thought.Just remember, you dont have to let her insult you, if it gets to that point just go for a walk.

Ha I wish, Id Get Yanked back in that door fast enough to get whiplash.

yeah, well good point, I guess thats the diffrence, my mom may be strong, but she isnt fit enough to stop me hehe

\
poor gal…

sorry if you find my advice stupid dude, just throwing it out there…

Commander Ikari wrote:
I found your advice to go out for a walk good nante, sorry if I seemed sarcastic.

(:
Taking one now, then?
Enjoy your walk hun. (:

Commander Ikari wrote:

ashleyyy;*tastrophy. wrote:

Commander Ikari wrote:
I found your advice to go out for a walk good nante, sorry if I seemed sarcastic.

(:Taking one now, then?Enjoy your walk hun. (:

Nah, not now, the fight is over, she’s not bothering me, all is well once more.

That’s wonderful.
;D

pah parents, I dont always get on with my mum, i even got abused by someone and she said i shudve moved out for not telling her and said I shudve known it was going to happen what they did.

one way that makes me deal with it better is to remember that parents are never perfect and are human like everyone else. they also do and say stupid things and they cant always be the best influence in life in at least some ways. you just have to learn and find ur own way to deal with things at times.

no eye contact…. lol

Its not stupid, just dosnt work for me…Well if I wanted to I could run fast enough to get away but when I got back.. Well, I would be practicly omish, No Tv, Computer, Phone, Internet, Or anything (and im homeschooled so no friends) Most likly for abotu a month or so.

has it always been this way?

when I was little my mom went crazy due to all the shizz that happened to her as a kid. Crazy = not a good mom
she even landed in the phsyc ward a couple times and she regularly ran away
but she got a phsycologist and got better, and (until this year) all has been good since. (she acts like a 13 year old girl, these days…sad when your 3 teenage daughters are the mature ones in arguments..)

in fact, I hardly remember my mom being a part of my childhood.

I don’t know if any of that will help you, but for some reason I felt like I should tell you, so maybe it will.

you know I think you jsut inspired me to make a post about MY mom…

i’m glad my mum isn’t like that.

she used to have her bouts of madness… she was an alcoholic.. still is I suppose. But instead of wine she drinks vodka… apparently it makes her less crazy.
but anyway, the turning point for her was when she twisted my little sisters arm round so much she nearly broke it.

she walked out for like a night, then came back.

i guess it shows people can change once they get the wake up call.. but then again, my mum is my hero, my inpiration to be alive. she’s the one who has helped me through everything.

its a **** shame you can’t view your mum like that Ikari.

but you’ve got us :)

Yeah, who needs mothers when you have help.com?

:D

Commander Ikari wrote:

.:Hasta Iguana:.^_^ wrote:
has it always been this way?

when I was little my mom went crazy due to all the shizz that happened to her as a kid. Crazy = not a good mom
she even landed in the phsyc ward a couple times and she regularly ran away
but she got a phsycologist and got better, and (until this year) all has been good since. (she acts like a 13 year old girl, these days…sad when your 3 teenage daughters are the mature ones in arguments..)

in fact, I hardly remember my mom being a part of my childhood.

I don’t know if any of that will help you, but for some reason I felt like I should tell you, so maybe it will.

What happened this year to her?

I have no idea. I’m baffled. She’s acting like she did when she was pregnant when she had my two baby sisters…but if she was I would be able to tell by now….

refer to my new post if you want more details

Bah, you’re right, to hell with her.

Don’t take her sh*t. Express your anger, cold shoulder for a while. Hold a visible grudge and tell her exactly what’s up. This is war.

In many countries a fourteen year old is considered grown. I think you should consider yourself to be. Your mom has her own problems.

Commander Ikari wrote:
Yes it is. The quiet after the storm.

I wish my mom was like that.
I’LL TRADE YOU! xD

Scriptease wrote:

*=Adam=* wrote:

Don’t take her sh*t. Express your anger, cold shoulder for a while. Hold a visible grudge and tell her exactly what’s up.

I cut out the parts I thought went too far. but expressing yourself, standing up for yourself, and letting her know what’s up, would be a real growing experience and she is very likely to respond to you as a man instead of take you for grantide.

Wise editing, you did there. I was just being melodramatic. How did I do?

Commander Ikari wrote:

ashleyyy;*tastrophy. wrote:

Commander Ikari wrote:
Yes it is. The quiet after the storm.

I wish my mom was like that.
I’LL TRADE YOU! xD

Don’t think it works that way. ;)

Sadly.
D:

Commander Ikari wrote:
Simply a tragedy.

such an ash-tastrophy.
Isn’t it?
:D

Commander Ikari wrote:

ashleyyy;*tastrophy. wrote:

Commander Ikari wrote:
Simply a tragedy.

such an ash-tastrophy.Isn’t it?:D

lol, perhaps.

:D

Harsh..

Joy. wrote:
Harsh..

You haven’t met my mother, have you? xD

perhaps you should tell her what you don’t like that she’s doing. I did that to my mom via email and it worked…for a few weeks

but they were a WONDERFUL few weeks! ;)

show her how she’s in the wrong

a common human trait

ok, what the hell is this about?

absolutely

thats the abridged version?

Your mom is a (insert insult here). Even if she was in a bad mood she has no reason to be a (insert insult here). You are amazing and she has no reason to dislike you.

Hey there. I’m a mom of a 15 year old. And have lots of friends who have teenagers, and we all compare notes. Also for whatever reason, a lot of my daughter’s friends like to talk to me, so I hear things from their point of view, too. The first thing I want you to know is that parents are not perfect. We make mistakes, we say stupid things - it happens. Sometimes we may have an excuse, but sometimes not. Obviously, there are degrees here, because some of us mess up more than others, but we are ALL going to get some things wrong. I think that’s hard for a teenager, because when you are little, you are more inclined see your parents through rose colored glasses and think they’re perfect. As a teen those glasses come off, and you see your parents for who they really are. It would be normal to be disenchanted and disappointed when people don’t live up your expectations. Second, I believe it’s programmed into parents and teenagers nature to start “getting on each other’s nerves” at that point. From a civilization standpoint, I think the purpose of this is to give the teen incentive to leave and go out on their own. The problem is that in current society, a 14 year old is NOT equipped to be out on their own.

You’ve got to know that it’s OK for teenagers to feel frustrated and not “like” their parents sometimes. But regardless, your parents (with a few, aggregious exceptions) deserve your respect. In other words, think all that stuff in your head about what a pain they are, but avoid being disrespectful, because that just makes the situation worse. And if a parent is really being unreasonable or wrong, don’t be afraid to call them on it. But DON’T do it when either of your are “raw” or emotional. Cool off first, and then calmly bring it up again, and explain the logic behind why you believe they are unreasonable or wrong. This usually means wait a day or two at least before addressing the subject again.

Also, you should know that the way you feel right now about your mom may very well change in time. My dad and I saw eye to eye on NOTHING, while I was a teenager. We understood nothing about each other and I dealt with it by avoiding him as much as possible. But that did change - by the time I was in college, things were better. Just keep those doors open.

Also, I read an article recently that said that teens experience emotions (good and bad) at double the level of a mature adult. And remembering back, I think this is absolutely true. What we adults believe is drama or angst is very real to teenagers. But we have to inhabit each other’s world, so we just have to make the best of it. And having people to go to and vent about it all is really helpful - this is a great site, isn’t it???

my mom and i arfe best friends! but sometimes since we’re so close, when we fight it hurts even more. just take a deep breath when she insults you. let it go. you don’t know everything that is going on in her life. and she doesn’t know what all is going on in yours. don’t sweat the small stuff dude. let it go and try and put it in the past.

are***

sorry!

I like your attitude Ikari

Don’t worry.. I’ll adopt you ;)

Parents now days just need to realise, Their Teenagers are smarter than them.

I mean they learned algebra as a freshman in collage, we learn it as middleschoolers

Its Sad, but true.

They just can keep up, and with the internet on our side, We’ll, Thye dont stand a chance.

As soon as they realise were *generally* smarter they will be ok.

Teenager will rule the world one day…mark my words.

BTW, dont think for one second youre the only one. youre not.

Adds bacon to her adoption list…

mumstheword wrote:
Adds bacon to her adoption list…

ADD ME!
:D please!

Oh what the heck.. why not. Just need a bigger shoe house is all.

i’m really happy with my momma… but if y’all need a nice aunt to take you shopping i’m definitely your girl!!

Jen Masterson wrote:
Parents now days just need to realise, Their Teenagers are smarter than them.

I mean they learned algebra as a freshman in collage, we learn it as middleschoolers

Its Sad, but true.

They just can keep up, and with the internet on our side, We’ll, Thye dont stand a chance.

As soon as they realise were *generally* smarter they will be ok.

Teenager will rule the world one day…mark my words.

Really, no offense at all, but back in their day they also had proper spelling and grammar. The internet at the same time makes us more knowledgeable and more lazy and careless. I scarcely know how to spell, I rely on firefox to check my spelling. Back in their day, they had to spell correctly.

Anyway, I really don’t think that we are smarter than they are. On the new issues: The internet, technology, and maybe even general knowledge, we have the upper hand. However, they have years of experience and general learning on their side, and I think that at the very least this makes us break even.

However, in 10 years? 20 years? We’ll be smarter than they ever were. We just need time.

Oh, and I’d never trust my judgment. I’m way too temperamental.

Adam.. you just got adopted! :)

No! I like my family! D;

This is abduction, this is. I’m calling the cops.