Love help: Soulmates can’t exist - it’s not possible, right? - Help.com

Just date him, you both seem to get along extremely well!

May I ask what you broke up over last time?

Sounds like love to me. Not at first sight, that doesn’t work. A mutual understanding and kinship through sharing of self, that is entirely possible.

I am sorry but love is real and cannot be made between just any two people. It is a special connection, which you seem to have formed. Why not run with it and see what happens. You could be happy for the rest of your life. :D

Well… lucky you.

Ya know, love doesn’t exist. There’s only attraction. And it’s slightly dependent on someone’s physical statue, but mostly on someone’s personality.

Anonymous wrote:
Well… lucky you.

Ya know, love doesn’t exist. There’s only attraction. And it’s slightly dependent on someone’s physical statue, but mostly on someone’s personality.

Love does exhist! People love their kids, and others who they care for dearly.

well dating is out of the question at the moment - i just broke up with someone a short time ago and i always avoid any sort of involvement for a month or two after anything like that..

we broke up for a real stupid reason minnie, we were both just in a bad place - last night we even talked about it, and both admitted the way we acted had very little to do with each other, we kind of just acted out - like, i took stuff out on him, resentments i still had for bad treatment from a different guy.. he said something similar..

oops, wanted to stay anonymous! forgot to click box :D

too late now.. lol

I don’t beleive in soulmates either but I can believe that two extremely compatable people can meet and fall in love. You’re lucky to have a second chance to be together; maybe the timing wasn’t right the first time and maybe it isn’t right this time but there are people who accept that if they are meant to be together fate, or coincidence, will bring them to eachother again. Don’t jump into anything with him if you aren’t ready but don’t try to stop it either.

It certainly is too late now Luckette, we know it’s you! I’ll pretend i didn’t see it if you like?

Well you can stay in contact and go out for drinks/ coffee or whatever you both prefer whilst you both sort out your feelings? If it’s going to happen it will if you’re both doing things together. :)

yeah he was like, we really need to spend more time together, and i was like, yeah, even when i hated you, i still thought you were really cool, and then i was like, we’re gonna be really good friends! and that was my subtle way of saying, that’s all i want right now.. y’know? and since he can totally see through me, i assume he got that…

Well as you two have got that special connection you talk of, he’ll cetainly have got the message!

When you’re both a bit more involved, you talk more frankly about feelings can’t you?

we can talk now! that’s the weird thing. it’s bizarre.. that’s the only word for it, like, we were talking about what happened before, and we were so cool about it we were even able to talk about the night we spent together - it was only when i got home that i realised, that should have felt so inappropriate, why didn’t it seem like it?

luckette wrote:
we can talk now! that’s the weird thing. it’s bizarre.. that’s the only word for it, like, we were talking about what happened before, and we were so cool about it we were even able to talk about the night we spent together - it was only when i got home that i realised, that should have felt so inappropriate, why didn’t it seem like it?

It didn’t seem wrong because you’re both soo right together silly! You are clearly a pair to behold, lucky girl. It’ll work out for you, I know it will. Best wishes :)

i dunno.. i’m just… especially after last time and it going so wrong, i always felt, that anyone who goes on about instantaneous attraction - like i used to - was an idiot - like i turned out to be (at least, that’s what i thought)

i’m afraid i’m getting carried away, too. y’know how girls can do that. especially after a break up! what if i’m making more of this than it is..?

rrrgh i’m just so confused. and my usual cynical, analitical mind is like, fried, cos this makes no sense at all..

(re: what minnie just said)
haha.. i hope so.. i suppose all i can do is wait and see…

I know for a fact the the amount of time spent with someone does not affect love

really?

by the way, thank you Bogdan, Veg, anonymous and minnie for your comments… very kind of you to take the time to reply and your opinions really help.

luckette wrote:
really?by the way, thank you Bogdan, Veg, anonymous and minnie for your comments… very kind of you to take the time to reply and your opinions really help.

directed at me?
yes

well, it was, yeah, and im not prying, but i just always thought you have to grow to love someone. it takes time. and not necessarily a LONG time, it can be weeks, months… but we’re talking HOURS here… it was mere hours before i felt the connection the first time round. which is ridiculous!

luckette wrote:
well, it was, yeah, and im not prying, but i just always thought you have to grow to love someone. it takes time. and not necessarily a LONG time, it can be weeks, months… but we’re talking HOURS here… it was mere hours before i felt the connection the first time round. which is ridiculous!

the one I love I knew I loved the minute i saw her
we never hung out, we never really talked outside of school business, aside for the rare hello.
yet, 10 years after i still have feelings for her

I anonymously saved her life, twice.
the first involved me stepping in front of a car

wow, and she doesn’t know?

perhaps it would not have killed her, but it was better not chancing it.

luckette wrote:
wow, and she doesn’t know?

not at all
to my knowledge

soul mates exist, they just aren’t as they are expected to be.
they never go as planned
never like the stories

i dunno… i guess i’ll just.. run with it.. like bogdan said.. but i’ll take things slow, not mental and fast-paced and desperate like last time.

yea, go for it.

It could be that they exist for some people, but sometimes they don’t. Some people may not be destine to be with someone, as if someone who dies young, unknowingly they aren’t destine to be with anyone but may believe that they were to be with someone in life. It dosen’t matter if they lived, for if they did, they still would not have found love. Some people’s destinies are different then others.

Then there is this possibility. It could be that there are people meant for other people but they can’t be together for various reasons. For example time, one person could be compatable with another but there is a big time gap, like if one person was born 50 years earlier then the other, it could be if they were born around the same time things could had worked for them. Similarly, another factor is location, some people can be compatable with each other it they got to meet each other but live far away from each other like if they lived on two different continents but can’t meet each other, but if they did, they would be perfect for each other.

This was just to awnser the question to the post’s title.

I think there is such thing as soulmates. I believe that every person out there is made for someone.

Soul mates exist. I met mine.. but we cant be together. There s a religion problem. Both of our parents are very conservative and they think hat it might be a problem if we get married.Im 22 and I ve never felt this way before in my entire life even though he has had a couple of girlfrinds before. We tried to stop it a several times but we cant stop talking to each other.. its soo addictive. :)lol
well for u i think u met yrs. just dont ever let tht person go. give it a try n c :). Its ammzing to knw taht u have some one hu will be there with u for the rest of yr life. :)
gud Luck