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I need some opinions on something…

and some wisdom (the kind that come with age and experience). I’m in love with a man. My heart is his entirely. But in our case i just don’t know if love is enough. I have to be realistic about this. He’s very ambitious. I on the other hand have dreams… but i can’t seem to get my act together. i’m not sure i ever will. i’ve just started therapy so hopefully i’ll get some motivation or something. He is so far ahead of me in his success vs where i am, and he is only a year older. i just feel we are in two different places. and i don’t want to hold him back. he is about to accept a big responsibility on his road to great success. i’m also afraid of being left behind. i’m afraid he is going to get wrapped up in his work and feel that what he is doing is far more superior to what i’m doing… i’m afraid the crowd he is going to be surrounded by will be completely unfamiliar to me. we also come from two different cultures and races. and there are so many issues there as well. like i said… i just dont know if love is enough.

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bencaterha offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (3 minutes after post)

“we also come from two different cultures and races” why does that matter

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (5 minutes after post)

because his parents don’t speak the same language as me and family is very important to us both. and i’m not sure if we get married if i want his parents living with us.

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bencaterha offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (7 minutes after post)

Im really sorry but thats quite a situation! i hope someone else can help you on this

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wil offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (8 minutes after post)

You should voice your concerns to him.

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veg_head offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (13 minutes after post)

Is having a successful career important to you? You seem to put a lot of stock into being on the same level as him.

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (14 minutes after post)

if i’m not i’m not sure how i will fit into his world

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bencaterha offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (15 minutes after post)

i agree with wil

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (16 minutes after post)

i have. we talk about it all the time.

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wil offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (17 minutes after post)

So what has stopped you from reaching a conclusion?

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skyy offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (33 minutes after post)

Thats how i feel all the time.. You put all my feelings and thoughts into your post. This is one of the main reasons im terrified to be in a relationship

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khaos777 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (42 minutes after post)

If you truly love him, love will prevail. Regardless of what happens, you will both find a way to fix it.

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