friends help: i feel like a 3rd wheel with my friends.

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i feel like a 3rd wheel with my friends.

although they tell me 2 go with them i dont go by myself with them with out they insisting on the invitation wht should i do to lost this feelin of being a 3rd wheel?

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bencaterha 4 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 7 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Talk to them both about it all. tell them your concerns. if they are good friends they will understand

Mrs. Hasta Pianoman 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 7 months ago (8 minutes after post)

tell my about it, man!
my two best friends just got together and now I have to just up and down upside down waving my arms and yelling to get their attention sometimes

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veg_head 6 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 7 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Try spending time with both of them individually, instead of as a group. That way it won’t be like you only are friends with one of them. And accept their invitations to go out! They probably are wondering if you are avoiding them!

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Anonymous #
4 years, 7 months ago (16 minutes after post)

veg_head wrote:
Try spending time with both of them individually, instead of as a group. That way it won’t be like you only are friends with one of them. And accept their invitations to go out! They probably are wondering if you are avoiding them!

It’s not that i wanna avoid them it just feel wired, when they are like doin some couple thingi, people look at me in a wired way as if im stuck like glue on those 2 people :(

bencaterha 4 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 7 months ago (17 minutes after post)

yeah you really need to tell this to them both

bowlofsoup 2 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 7 months ago (20 minutes after post)

Is it only ever the 3 of you doing things together? Could you try to involve other friends and make it more of a group thing instead of couple +1?

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Anonymous #
4 years, 7 months ago (22 minutes after post)

i tired but they have succesfully pissed off all of our commen friends :D dont know why they keep me around :P

bencaterha 4 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 7 months ago (23 minutes after post)

if they are gonna treat you like **** i dont think you should be friends with them

Anonymous #
4 years, 7 months ago (25 minutes after post)

i dont think they treat me like ****……i wonder weather i should get a G.F. just not to feel like this :(

bowlofsoup 2 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 7 months ago (26 minutes after post)

Sounds like you’re the only one they’ve not pissed off…yet! Still, no reason not to be friends with them just don’t let them use you. Don’t feel too obliged to hang out with them if they make you uncomfortable but try telling them you find it weird.

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Anonymous #
4 years, 7 months ago (28 minutes after post)

k….thnx people :)…..feelin better i swaer it bugged me like s***!!! :) thnx for the time :)

shining-wis #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 2 months ago (1 year, 4 months after post)

Sometimes it’s not intentional….Just discuss with them what I like to call Third Wheel Terms. Make sure they know of your feeling and discuss what you are not allowed to do, or ways to make sure you don’t feel so uncomfy.