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i told the guy i’ve loved to bits for 2 years that i love him and he doesnt like me back.

i feel kind of dead inside now… the only time i feel halfway alive is when i see him and then thats just because i know that he’s thinking of me, even if its just “eww there’s vicky. don’t make eye contact. don’t make eye contact.” i thought that telling him would help me to get over him but it didn’t… i still love him just as much as before i told him. i just don’t know what to do i can’t get over him and i feel so sick inside can someone help?

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R.A.M offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (3 minutes after post)

Well,
You did try your best… now according to me the best suggestion is to move on with your life and find activities that will take him off your mid as well as forward your goals…

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1 year ago (5 minutes after post)

i’m trying and i’ve been trying for the past year but nothing works… and i was able to stop loving him for a week but i just fell back in love…

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R.A.M offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (8 minutes after post)

Dont try stopping loving him!
Just accept it that you do love him and that he knows it…
Keep about your work and with time you may get used to the fact that you care bout him but have a chance to care about many other things and people as well…

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (8 minutes after post)

wait my dad is about to shut off the internet, the bastard. won’t listen when i say its important. if i stop talking thats why…

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (9 minutes after post)

K!
All the best and would suggest being a little more respectful to your folks…

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seas light offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (11 minutes after post)

Sadly we can’t force others to feel the same way about us.The only thing you can do is try to find that special someone, who you will be loved and appreciated from. He isn’t it. Things of the heart are always devastating when we can’t control how we feel. You can however, realize that he’s not the only one around, and it is his loss and someone else’s gain when the right one comes along.To avoid those old familiar feelings, from taking over you, try to go to new places and avoiding him. Walk a different route whatever, as seeing him will only hurt. When you do meet the right one , you’ll look back on this and say, what did I ever see in him lol… All the best to you :)

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omeganenglo offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (40 minutes after post)

well if he dont like u back is ok
is better to see someone u loved and not it at all
so live life while your at it move on
but deep inside you’ll find someone that will love u back

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freespirit_money offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (7 hours, 27 minutes after post)

relax dear… u’ll will find someone who wud love u more than anything in life… whatever happens, happens for good… someone whos more worth for you wud come to you… u just need to sit back and hold ur breath for a while… till then make urself busy with other things… try not to look at him when hes near… and it will all fall in place !!!

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (1 day, 22 hours after post)

i know but i’m falling apart…. he was being really antisocial for a few months and i was really worried for him but now apparently he’s back to normal, but still ignores me. i’m crying as i write this right now my best friend (the one he’s talking and flirting with now) has no idea how much it hurts they do it right in front of me and she already HAS a boyfriend. i logged off chat where i was talking to her and she thought it was becuase i was SCARED. SCARED. she has NO idea how i feel!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (1 day, 22 hours after post)

i’m pleading her to help me but she wont she just says “idk”. she really deoesnt care does she

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freespirit_money offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 day, 23 hours after post)

nope …the case ur tellin me… in this case she wont help u either coz they r goin out together u see… i know what it feel like when u love someone and dont get it back the same way… but this world isnt small… i can give u a tip… start ignoring him and u’ll see him comin to u… try it if he doesnt then there are so many options for u lady… gor for em’…. a girl is never short of faithfull lovers… believe me… even im tryin to do so… and im movin gud… true!!!
i have been seperated from the one i love and he loves me more than me… but im livin in a hope to see him again …. we live a couple of blocks away but still cannot see or tak to each other… it hurts but we need to be strong …. shout me when u feel like takin to anyone i promise i’ll answer everything u want :)… and dnt cry hes not worth of ur beful tears k? cheer up:>

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An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (2 weeks after post)

ive been in love with someone for two years and i cant work up the courage to tell him. He flirts with everyone around me and im just cold around because im trying to hard to not love him. I realized his friendship would be a great compromise for me, so dont just ignore him, it only pushes him away. Guys can be as sensative as girls. In the long run he will realize you were always the one there for him. It hurts like hell i know, to have him not love you back, and although there are many other fish i the sea, i dotn want them. I couldnt settle for anything less, but unfortunately it isnt up to me. Id say tell him how you feel but id be a hippocrite. If you already have then good for you. Lifes too short to go unheard. Just put yourself out there and be YOURSELF because when trying to be all these other thigns he wants sets you up for failure if he were to ever give you a chance. Otherwise, im at the same questioning point as you asking myelf what to do every second of the day…

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Anonymous #
12 months ago (2 weeks after post)

he’s started talking to me again now :) we’re talking right now, just about random stuff though. i mean he doesn’t like me back, and we’re still friends, but now i ccan’t let go of him no matter how i try. so right now i just want either for him to love me back, or for me to stop loving him. does anyone have any ideas how to stop loving him, or at least to let go?

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