friends help: I feel so lonely, I just need to tell some people and communicate in some way with other adults! - Help.com

Why don’t you start some sort of activity where you can meet other people. You know like sport lessons. Or any kind class… some stuff you like

omg i can only imagine how hard it is for you, but do start by appreciating the hero you are being everyday by outliving all that, and yell at yourself not for not living up to what everyone else would ask you for, but for not rewarding yourself as well as a person like you really deserves, your deserve very good care and the only person in the world who actually CAN give that kind of care is you and only you, so please consider starting YESTERDAY taking better care of yourself, of your inner child that is being held responsible for all those things that aren’t your fault, look for a good therapist even if it means cutting down on your food to pay the sessions, write down your hopes on a paper and put it somewhere where you will see it everyday and not be able to forget about it, and remember this: the best thing you can do for your kids, the best thing at all, is to have your life the best way you can hope for, i.e. be happy, trust me on this one! oh and, you’re great.

Hi Jen,

Im going to have to be a little bit harsh with you here but I hope you understand. I hear about a lot of women with difficult relationships and I think sometimes it is their fault. You are giving your ex the best of both worlds, the drung that he loves and a relationship with no responsibilities from his part. You must draw a line, if you tell him that you will not see him again unless he stops taking drugs and starts helping you with your children, he might change, otherwise things are going to be the same. It must be really difficult to be a single mum and I really feel for you. At the moment your children needs you more than you need him and that you cant change but you should try to find sometime for your self, enter a dancing class, any type of activity you like and meet other people and enjoy life a little bit more. Unfortunally things will not change overnight but when you least realize things will change. Be happy.

i bet there’s many people besides you and me who have actually entered this site because of loneliness, in addition to all the other problems of course, so feel free to find even if minimal but existing comfort in the company of the other site members who might have a lot more in common with you than your hometown people and of course, be able to talk about your problems to people who will in no means judge you the way your town has been… and my therapist told me the last time i had to leave town for 4 months, that simply locking yourself with a pen and a piece of paper and writing your thoughts down will definitely help when therapy isn’t possible, so do consider that!

whoa! it sounds like we have a lot in common there, it’s really hard to take the right steps with him, but eventually you can be his friend without letting him increase your feelings of loneliness with the way he treats the relationship & life in general, actually you will find yourself to be a better friend to him when you set things right and don’t give him a chance to be a sloppy boyfriend, it will be like giving him a chance to improve, because by treating him the way you do, not only are you mistreating yourself, but also giving him the space to be the careless person he is and this way you’re not helping him at all, so in a few words, setting things right will help you both… tiago had a god point there :)

my mom lost her sense of self and trust me, you do not want your children to grow up watching you lose THAT… get up on your feet and start being nice to yourself, give the great mommy a chance to be a happy one too!

Im sorry if I judged you without knowing the whole story Jen. But I still think you have to be strong. Make it clear to him that you love him but unless he cleans his self up you are gonna have to be apart. It is a very difficult situation for you specially when you are from a small town and we all know that many people are really good at giving destructive opnions and instead of helping each other. So the best scenario would be to have him back with you, the whole family together and the only way thats gonna happen is if he stopts taking drugs. Try it for a few weeks and see what happens. Personally I think thats the only way. I hope every thing works out for you.

Hi, A lot of your problems could be taken care of once you get over the people pleasing thing. your opinion of yourself and Gods is the ONLY opinion that matters.Opinions are just a persons own perception from their own experience.That does NOt make them truth.What you believe is YOUr truth.What they believe is Their truth.If you want to tell me more I can shed some more light on the subject.