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Should I do it?

There’s a boy I met on the bus two years ago, and I had a hard time figuring out if he wanted to be my friend because I had (and still have) Social Anxiety Disorder, and I wasn’t sure how to interpret his actions. A year later, we ended up in the same science class after not seeing each other the whole time, and now I see him every day. Sometimes he talks to me, and I’m still not sure what to make of it. Now, I’m wondering if I should send him this message on facebook and see how he reacts:

Hey _________, I wish I told you that I have Social Anxiety Disorder, and that’s why I am uncomfortable around people sometimes. I can be a really skeptical, cynical person and that could make me hard to be around. I know this is probably more information than you bargained for, but because of the things we talked about on the bus, I feel like I should explain to you why I am the way I am. I wonder every now and then if I should tell everyone that I am socially anxious and depressed, but it’s really private information that can bring unwanted pity and make people change the way they act around me. I don’t want that to happen, so PLEASE don’t tell anyone what I told you. I also don’t want you to feel sorry for me either. Since I told you, you don’t have to guess why I can be hard to be around. And, for whatever reason I become too socially awkward, you can just tell me; I’ll know why, I’ll be fine and I’ll leave you alone. I’d rather be around somebody who genuinely wanted to talk to me than someone who’s faking it to me all the time.

Should I do it?

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