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I don’t want to sit alone anymore, but I’m too scared of people…

Most days I get to sit with my friends. But usually one day a week I have to sit alone. I feel very lonely and I’m afraid I look like a loser. How do I gain the confidence to go sit with other people? This really is a big problem for me… Last year I had like four days a week alone, and I don’t know what I’ll do if that happens again next semester. Plus, all my senior friends will be leaving at the end of this year, which increases my chances of being alone. I also have this problem outside the lunchroom. If we’re asked to work in groups, I’m too scared to go get together with anybody, so I end up standing around like an idiot. I seriously need to get some self-confidence…

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Daksha Cromwell offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

i used to be the same way. i would only hang out with certain people and never get to know anyone else. eventually, me and my friends got in a fight over them doing drugs and so i left.
just look at the people around you and try to find someone or a group who looks like you would have fun with. just start talking to them and get to know them. soon you will be friends.

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1 year ago (7 minutes after post)

Talking would be another problem… I can’t talk. I’m not mute, but I have a hard time talking to people I don’t know. It feels like my throat is constricted and I get this extreme fight-or-flight response.

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Daksha Cromwell offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (11 minutes after post)

same here. here’s how i overcame that problem. you and whoever you are talking to have to have common ground somewhere. just talk about something that relates to both of you. it will take awhile to get comfortable with it but talking to other people is just like talking to your friends.

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