Love help: I don’t know what i want, everyone i know thinks i am the happiest person; but i dont care about anything. - Help.com

You over-analyze everything.

Stop that, stop worrying about it, and lose the attitude that you know everything, and you’ll be far better off!

http://depression.about.com/cs/chat/a… Please check out this web site. Sounds like you are dealing with depression. The fact that you just don’t seem to care about anything, and you loose interest quickly, could be the signs of depression. Hopefully, you may find some help and support here. Hope this helps :)

i agree i have an attitude….very hard to change
i over-analyze because it gives insight greater than a basic look over.
and because i think that analyzing will give a better answer than the absolute.

Wow, those talents are very cool. Apathy is a horrible thing to deal with. I would recommend that if you have, or find something that can make you happy, grab it and hold on. Work for it and work hard.

Anything worth doing is worth doing well.

For the love problems. I cannot say. In retrospect it isn’t good at all to be looking for love period. I recommend trying not to find someone to “love” at all (loving here refers to someone you’d spend the rest of your life with in marriage) and if you really want to love to wait for it. It may sound corny but the best things come from waiting, and often fall from the sky. That’s how I met my wife, and before I felt just like you do now. So in many ways, she saved me from me. :D My best wishes to you sir, and I leave you with this: The hardest wars to fight are the ones in your head (since it’s always one vs one-hundred), you say your good at many things, now be a good tactician.

Regards,
Argentum, A

You’re wrong about the analyzing.
Most people will only over-analyze a situation when it becomes perplexing.
You’ve made it part of your everyday life.

I agree it is very hard to change. But it’s so much more difficult to change the world to your way of thinking, isn’t it?

Learn to be content with the simple things in life, like a friend’s smile, a walk in the park.
These are the things that need no explanation.

i feel i need explanation on everything, anything that cannot be explained to me almost useless…the fact isn’t that i want love…its that i want emotion…i want to feel remorse, or any sense of lust or “puppy love” i guess you could put it. I have no hobbies, because hobbies require interest….i lose interest in anything within hours of doing them…..

A desire to feel emotion? Now that brings back memories.

They’ll come.
Don’t you worry, emotion will come. Just you wait.

Good you hurt.. You describe yourself as if you were perfect, you sound conceited. Basically get over yourself and find things to do for others.

i am no where near perfect…i never said once that i loved myself….so i am obviously not conceited….i act so nobody asks questions. i am only living for others…..so i am way past myself sir.

The funny thing is, you know what’s wrong. You want to change it. Yet when we give you suggestions, you’re fobbing them off.

It will take a supreme effort on your part to change. It will feel like it’s not worth it so many times, but it is worth it.

Go out and walk in the woods, alone. Listen to the noises, the bird calls. Try to identify them, and enjoy the experience.

That would be a good start.

i do appreciate the help and suggestion.
i just always feel the need to defend myself
i apologize if my writings were read unappreciative.
i respect the help, why else would i be on here. =)

No, don’t feel bad about it. I was just stating how it is.
We see so many people here with similar situations to yourself.
At least you realise there’s something wrong.

The need to defend oneself is part of the problem. Overcome it and things can change.

mhm thanks

There’s always someone here who will take the time to chat with you.
You’re welcome.

sounds like something i have heard of before…hold on here…

a sociopath…someone who is great at social situations and is also great at showing that he has feelings, even when deep down it does not feel as real or sometimes, feels completely fake. or “aspie” -that is one i am unfamiliar with. all i can say is keep trying to feel that strong raw emotion, because it is a wonderful thing. dont worry about finding love until you can really connect with that word called “love” good luck and i feel for you…mwah.

This is a long post you have with many great replies (sorry i have not read them).

But i read your post and you said you know there is something wrong but you would like to do something about it. Love is never forced upon a person. You would feel love and you would be able to love back when the right person comes. I just hope that you don’t tell these girls that you love them when you don’t feel it in the first place.

Anonymous wrote:
i do appreciate the help and suggestion.
i just always feel the need to defend myself
i apologize if my writings were read unappreciative.
i respect the help, why else would i be on here. =)

I just found this above. There is no reason to defend yourself really but people are trying to spot anything that might help you realize with anything. Opinions differ but it should not be taken as if it seems like people don’t appreciate your being communicative now.

You need help and we are here to listen. As a long time member in the site (i’m just guessing) you know people shoot different ideas hoping some hit some parts of the nail’s head. :)

thank you

Anonymous wrote:
i am no where near perfect…i never said once that i loved myself….so i am obviously not conceited….i act so nobody asks questions. i am only living for others…..so i am way past myself sir.

if u r living only for others then u cannot say that u dont care. otherwise u wouldnt even be living for others in the first place. You say you are lost… Lost from wat? from having a social life? academics? family? u cannot be lost from nothing… and then hurt from nothing… either you really are just over reacting to something. or u just like to show off that u get girls easily. Cuz really if u needed help u wouldnt be posting things like “having many girls love you and you not feeling anything for them” cuz really.. if you didnt feel anything for them then ur just proving that you dont live for others. I feel sad for your wife. If your gonna marry her then later on tell her u feel nothing for her… You should just shut up or otherwise talk to one of the MANY friends that u have..

and if u know secrets to be successful in anything then why dont u BRING OUT the SECRET that makes u not hurt. what a loser. really. if u dont care about anything then why would u post at a place for help. You’re just saying that you dont care so if you come here for help. and we advised help. basically you’re not even gonna care…

ijust saw this post an i av also ben wondering what is wrong with me..cos most time i date a girl i feel it si necessary not that i really some thing out of the ordinary i’d feel for a friend nd when it is ended i dont even bother….i just thought i am cold to relationship but when my last broke up with me and i tried finding out what the matter is not out of love but curious asto what prompted the decision..i noticed i have really hurt her with ny shallow feelings for her.this made me go back and reflect on my other relationships and then noticed i have been leaving trail of broken hearts..but the thing there is i just want to feel that special thing called love cos it has only been shown to me not felt by me and i cant reciprocate what i dont feel..but thanks to you all nd expecially u that posted this and argentum cell…to u odas Your reply was really enligthening..i hope to God i find these on time…i am sort of hmmmmmmmm speechless..thanks to you all