Love help: How can one not love the perfect guy?

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How can one not love the perfect guy?

I’ve met lots of jerks in my life (hasn’t everyone??) and as much as I like boys, I was getting really tired of dating them. I met this really cool guy and although I wasn’t ready for a relationship since I’m still very depressed about something that has nothing to do with him, we ended up dating and he ended up being there for me everytime I’m way too sad to fake a smile. He’s awesome and lovely, he’s pretty much a dream guy and I just don’t seem to fall in love with him. I love him, don’t get me wrong, but you know, the butterflies, the helpless songwriting, the clumsyness and all… it’s just not there… do you think it’s because of the depression (it’s clinical, but I don’t want pills), is there something wrong with me or should I just let some lucky girl keep this little wonder???

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Srinh 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (8 minutes after post)

i think its the depression. give it some time. you deserve happiness too. *o*

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (12 minutes after post)

i agree, it’s probably the depression :/

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (13 minutes after post)

stay and battle it out - he’s willing to be there for you. i think the combined will of you two can get through this! :)

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Alkaline! 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (14 minutes after post)

Thank you so much :) I hope I can make it work

Mez 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (16 minutes after post)

Keeping fighting the depression. That’s what I reckon it is. Keeping dating him for a little while. He seems really nice and supportive of you and that’s the type of person you need.

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Alkaline! 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (24 minutes after post)

We’ve been dating since may, but I feel a little bad he met me as the jolly girl I usually am, then I started to get really sad for no apparent reason, and I went to the doctor, I don’t want him to get sick of me crying all the time, or sometimes something he says makes me cry even if it’s not a bad thing… I don’t want to bore him. I guess I don’t know for how long can I keep dating him without screwing up, I don’t know for how long will I be depressed :(!!

Mez 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

If he loves you, he will stand by you and will no if it isn’t working and tell you at an approiate time, not when your depressed…

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 16 minutes after post)

I feel ya on that actually, I usually find love through those situations by embracing the feeling of being loved. Or atleast using it as big a crutch as you can.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (9 hours, 2 minutes after post)

i wish I had a dream guys… instead, I have a guy who spits in my face.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (9 hours, 3 minutes after post)

not GUYS, just one dream GUY sorry.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (2 months after post)

i have the same problem with u….i thought i was in love with him but i m not….he is the dream guy.i luv him and he loves me too.he is REALLY perfect but i don t feel the butterflies as u and i don t know why…i m steal with him because i know that he respect me n care for me….

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (2 months after post)

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An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (2 months, 1 week after post)

I was in the same situation. I was with the perfect guy but did not have the butterflies or signs of love for him ever. I also got depressed sometimes and thought it was me… then I realized it was because I was not truely attracted to or in love with this person. Therefore, the repression of my true feelings and attempting to constantly love someone whom I had no innate love for was causing my depression. I have broken up with him and feel much better now and have met a new guy that I do get the butterflies and clumysyness with, so don’t settle. There is someone out there with the power to make you feel this way!

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