Love help: Fancied the same girl for 6 years now… - Help.com

Among you’re friends, I care for you the most. Among you’re friends, I love you the most. Among you’re friends, you hurt me the most. ‘Because I know that’s all I am to you… among your friends…

you must speak to her face to face, practice before you meet, so you do not freeze up

First off, I wish it were 2:30 Pm here. It’s barely 10 in the morning!
And secondly, you’ve planned all these things, giving her chocolates, talking to her, yet you’re so shy none of this has happened.
Being shy around someone you like is normal. In fact, I think that’s what attracts us to them even more. It’s mystical. Anyways, you should just get it together one day and go for it. Go up to her and say something.
You can think in advance what you’d like to say if that helps or just go on impulse…it may not be too late right now but if you wait any longer, you could miss your opportunity. Give yourself a mantra, “I can do this. I can do this. I can do this…” Something like that

go for it…. i bet she wud accept the chocolate box and u as well… coz as u have already written that she looks at u, tries to talk to u n all…. these are fair signals…she wants u… dnt be shy just take it as now or never…although there is no never… but think it so that it give u courage… but make it quick coz she mite be loosing her grip…

and yes forgot to say…. BEST OF LUCK!!!

do it!!
talk to her imediately.
what have you got to lose?
if she doesn’t want to know. forget it.
you won’t even know her in a few years time probably.

x

6 years is a long time to invest in a person based on attraction like this, I know, I have been there :)

I also know too well just how quickly the heart starts racing and pounding away at the very last second before you meet and are unable to say anything. lol

If you are serious about this girl, and I mean really serious, then you need to be aware of your own intentions and act accordingly and appropriately. I would think it is preferable to be alone with this person rather than around friends, because they can let their guard down and really be just themselves on their own with you - if things are meant to be. In this regard, walk up to them, smile and ask if they would like to go for a walk.. the idea is to get into a comfortable environment where you can stop and talk, facing each other.

There is some good news for speechless clowns like you and me - about 90% of communication and attraction is based on body language, not your speech or the content of your words. So don’t worry if you just need to be the ’strong silent type’, but do make eye contact, smile and make some ‘knowing’ facial expressions (like raising and lowering your eyebrows for example). Do whatever comes natural, but don’t be afraid to let her know what you are feeling in your heart, through your gaze.

One final bit of advice I would give, don’t muck about and waste time like I did. You don’t know what the future holds and so you should seize the moment and appreciate the blessing you have in the present and make a go of things. After that, what will be will be.. you are only responsible for trying, not the outcome. You will probably make mistakes along the way which are easily overlooked, but don’t make the biggest mistake of doing nothing at all. Live life without the ‘what ifs’ and be the best person you can be. I wish you all the success in love, life and faith.. I hope things work out for you for the best. Take care.

Well said Junaid

sorry this is a bit of a late response man, and with any lucky your going out with this girl by now! :P

i started out in a similar situation to you about 5 years ago now, i really liked this girl, like you i went really shy in front of her and babbled random things to her. in the end after months of wanting to be with her i decided to send her a letter telling her how i felt. she soon got back to me after a couple of days telling me how she likes this other guy and things about him all the time and what not, i thought i would hate her but i dident. i still couldn’t get her out of my head and 2 months later she was with this other guy, even then i still really fancied her (obviosly i dident like the other guy a hell of a lot) i couldn’t think why she would want to go out with him there so not right for each other. over the next few years ive had about 2 (kind of) serious relationships, but in the end those girls just dident belong with me, there is only one in my mind that did.
just over a year ago i found out that she had broken up with this guy. all i was thinking was “yes this is my chance again finally” but i dident wanna seem like a weirdo and jump in right away and i haven’t even spoken to her in about 3 years as i just kinda drifted away from her.
A lot of things had happened in my life in the time she was with this other guy and when it came down to it, i still fancied the her like crazy.
while im waiting for my opportunity to make my move she decides to go off traverling for a year leaving me feeling like a **** cause i wasted all that time not asking her out properly.
she came home last week and i said to my self ok im gonna do im just gonna get in contact and see if she wants to meet up and see how things go, but she says she is off traveling again in under 3 weeks, Basically i got no chance now unless i wait for ever until she comes back and hope she hasn’t found someone. but i guess she is happy doing what she i doing and i need to respect that.

basically, just be straight with her from the very start, luckily for you your girl is still around, i dont even no what to do.