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He’s not telling you everything.

dude you screwed up but you might be able to fix this. not by begging. i mean come on u cheated for a month. you need to show your bf how f’n special he is and how much you love him. maybe he was thinking of ways to make time for you when he was busy you just may have needed to wait…

Finding an apartment, buying a puppy and booking a hotel room doesn’t take that much time. He’s not being entirely truthful. And yes, you’re at fault for cheating, but it sounds like he’s trying to make you feel guilty, when he may have a bit of guilt himself.

Trust is something that is easily broken and not easily repaired. The best chance you have is to talk things out with him, explain to him how you were feeling. Don’t try to make him feel like it was his fault. Be honest and sincere. And if he doesn’t take you back, don’t be surprised. You’ve wounded him.

why didn’t he just tell you not to worry that every thing was ok, why did you feel like you were suddenly alone? You knew something wasn’t right. Give yourself some compassion for that deep knowing. If you are to be together it will be. Take each day as it comes and stay out of blamming yourself for anything. Don’t be so willing to take all the guilt. if he is really there through thick and thin and really loves you and you love him you both can work through this. Again you just need to take one day at a time.

well.. i have to say… cheating is not condoned in my world… so i have no hard feelings for you losing him…

but.. i agree with sans… doing what he was doing isnt going to take that long to do… and if he loved you enough.. he would have made sure to make some sort of time for you..

He’s kind of a control freak if he doesn’t care when you tell him you need help, and does something else. So maybe you would not be happy with that guy.

Sweetie, I think there are pieces of the story you’re not aware of. If he were doing all those things for you, why would he just ignore you? Something’s not right and you need to find out the whole story. Ask around, but for god’s sake be tactful. You don’t want to tick him off even more if he’s thinking of changing his mind. I had a fiance’ that did almost the same thing to me. He and I were both truck drivers at the time, and he asked me to stay at our new home for a while and get things set up while he stayed out and kept the paychecks coming in. Guess what? I ended up leaving him after only 3 months in our new home because I found out he had been cheating on me with his ex. I’m not saying that he’s done that to you, but you really need to do some thinking before you go begging for forgiveness again. Maybe fate didn’t want you together forever.

well he is taking me back. says he is so angry and hurt.. but doesnt want to let me go. we both know and understand how much we have together… and im so happy. im moving in a week. bad idea or not, i believe everything happens for a reason and you learn something from all situations. and if it doesnt work out i guess i learned not to cheat on people. getting out of the state is a big thing for me too. a fresh start. i may be leaving a job i have and the family and friends, but its a dead end job, and my family is and has been in such a rut of bad choices that they are bringing me down.

i love this guy and know i can make it work. i know i can. and i think that him kind of leaving me and my cheating showed us both not to take anything for granded in our relationship. he is sorry and understands he drove me to that point.. but i still take full responcibility for my decisions.

i hope it works out. and thanks for the help.

I’m glad you have both come to terms with your roles in the mess that was created. Good luck to you and I hope everything works out as planned.