college help: I am trying so hard to ignore me wanting to cry. - Help.com

i feel your stress. my first ex-gf used to have the same problems with you. but she did had good grades, still the university she tried to apply for, refused her. And now, she is only working, and taking some senior courses.

but yes, what is your main problem? is it only math? or what?

and becoz of her school stress and anger..we could not go back together again, till we moved on.

Mary, you have good grades in general. Unless you intend to major in math, physics or engineering, your problem with not being the world’s best mathematician is no problem. You’ll get into a great school. Stop stressin’.

*!MaryChan!* wrote:
Yes math is my only problem. I can’t handle having so much work. Sometimes I feel that I am under sooooooooooooooo much pressure from school and home and friends that I just wanted to die…. But I feel pathetic for thinking liek this..but I can’t stop.. I feel liek I’m stupid too stupid for switchign math classes. and i don’t know.. I just feel like crying. because it’s too much,

i tell you something. no matter how grealy educated teachers are…sometimes or maybe, “THERE IS NEVER A SMART STUDENT, WHEN THERE IS NOT ‘real’ SMART TEACHER, AS IN TUTOR!!”

get me, so dont always think its you. its never about you, girl. its about your stress, anxiousness, nervousness, etc…

do you have any interests?? like, volleyball, singing, etc?? why do you like them? why is it your interests/hobbies?? how did you learn them? what method did you use? girl, cant you see, everything is by heart, not in your brain.

sometimes, we gotta follow our heart. lets say “kung fu”, if you’re really born or willing to learn kung fu. you do not need big muscles to learn it. all you need is STRONG ‘Concentration’, ‘Focus’, ‘Believe’, ‘Trust’, ‘Confidence’, Patience’, etc..

get me?

and remember, NO ONE IS PERFECT, unless we believe in our self-perfections!!

*!MaryChan!* wrote:

Sans wrote:
Mary, you have good grades in general. Unless you intend to major in math, physics or engineering, your problem with not being the world’s best mathematician is no problem. You’ll get into a great school. Stop stressin’.

I guess so..But I can’t help not worrying. I feel like I’m losing everything.. my friends. my family myself. I feel like I am always a last choice. no one talks to me unless they are bored out of their mind.. I can barely talk to my own family without starting some sort of problem. and I just don’t know who i am anymore.

girls, i think you are needing more attension. yes, friends and someone to lean on is very very important. but think of it. now you’re sharing that your life is going down. but you seem like focusing more on people putting attension to you more than bringing ur life up again. being young and growing up is always hard, and will always be hard in many any ways.

now, since we’re talking about you education; try solving ur education first. there is never needing of always being famous to people around you. dont be a loner, but give yourself some time to think of yourself, and what is really you ‘NEED’ and is IMPORTANT, NOT what you ‘WANT’.

and after you’ve settled your education… and graduated successfully, im sure you can get an efficient career..after then, you’ll be a successful person..

and those who mostly ignores you, and who ended up ‘NOTHING’, will be chasing you lik a hundred times a day, and it will be up to you, if you would give forgiveness or tensions to them. so live in the future, dont live in the pain, nor present pain. understand?

Just to chime in, Mary, I barely squeaked through Algebra I , II and geometry and then took a computer programming course to replace math my senior year in high school. It was a little embarrassing, cause my sister was all Calculus IV and Trig expert, but hey… Although I certainly would not have made it into an engneering school, I found a fine liberal arts college… and, to make a long story short, ended up with a graduate degree in English. This is just to say, not excelling in one subject is not the end of the world.

Just do your best, build on the strengths you have and try not to let the stress get you down. Just look at the class change as a way to have a less stressful senior year… and focus on enjoying the last year of high school as much as you can ( of course, keep studying too :-) )

Cause god is always wathcing you! or at least lets say; “if you do down today, you will still go up tomorrow!

Cause god is always wathcing you! or at least lets say; “if you do down today, you will still go up tomorrow!

believe it or NOT, you wont be sinning, but…IT IS TRUE!

Heaven yeah, it will happen!

*!MaryChan!* wrote:
o_O

okay…..?

hah, dont worry! Keep smiling, no matter what, the future will always be the future. all you gotta do is to keep your chin up!

*!MaryChan!* wrote:
o_O

okay…..?

and im just trying to cheer you off your sadness. why not read some jokebooks sometiems…

*!MaryChan!* wrote:
It’s a lot more than keeping your chin up.. -_-

umm, now i can see how down ur feelings are. but dont worry, we will never how it feels to be up, when we never go down. its faith, girl!

We all need people we can hang out with. Just remember when there’s no one else, you have us crazies.

dertenbee wrote:
CAUSE GOD IS ALWAYS WATHCING YOU! or at least lets say; “If you do down today, you WILL still go up tomorrow!”

dertenbee wrote:
believe it or NOT, you wont be sinning, but…IT IS TRUE!

*!MaryChan!* wrote:
o_O okay…..?

Wha?

Mary, really, not to deliver platitudes, but if you concentrate on your own strengths, I think you will do fine.

It may help you feel better if you call the admissions offices that you are interested in. Do not start with the negative… emphasize your strengths, then say, oh and by the way, I am not a “math person,” but I have done quite well through Algebra III.

I think you will find that if your plan is to major in something non-math related, you will not face as much of an obstacle as you might think after reading that “disclaimer” you were handed.

About the family…. have you thought of taking aside the person you trst the most and telling them how you feel?

You might come across so “fine” and “together” that they might not realize that you are feeling this way. It happens a lot to people who are expected to be star students.

*!MaryChan!* wrote:
Yes..but when I need you all the most I don’t have access to a computer. And I am not going to get on at school even though I Am able.

Good for you for not getting on the site at school. You also need a friend in the real world. It’s not a race. Find one who has brains and character, instead of social standing. High school society won’t matter soon enough anyway.

*!MaryChan!* wrote:
Yes I have thought about it. But it’s too hard to get out, or the person I do tell how i feel they turn around and say “oh sorry, hey, my brother’s birthday was today.” Or..” you’ll get over it.” … some help

People can be so dense.

*!MaryChan!* wrote:
What do you mean by that?

lol, you’re being ironic, right?

dense means thick-headed, dumb, slow. maybe it’s an old word.

Hey, don’t worry about it! I got a D in trig my senior year and a D in geometry. I just did well in the other subjects, and I’m at a pretty good college right now! They offer remedial math classes here (because you need two semesters of math to graduate) and there’s one class called “logic” that you can take as one math class! So I got a D in calculus, and now I’m all done with math. Don’t worry if you have one bad grade or lower class; it shouldn’t affect you too badly.

*!MaryChan!* wrote:
oh.. Sorry.I’m stupid.

No you’re not. You have a problem with self-esteem. For a girl who’s attractive and intelligent, you seem determined to find the worst things you can about yourself and fixate on them.

No one is ugly! There is not a person in this world who is ugly. Ugly is just an opinion- and there isn’t a person in this world who is attractive to everyone. If you take care of yourself and feel good about yourself, you will look attractive to others… But first you have to see it in yourself.

*!MaryChan!* wrote:

Sans wrote:

*!MaryChan!* wrote:
oh.. Sorry.I’m stupid.

For a girl who’s attractive and intelligent,

I’m not though.. my brother calls me funny looking. people call me ugly they call me stupid and a whole bunch of other names.. I know they’re true. Cause i can look in a mirror and see it.

yodaluv12 wrote:
No one is ugly! There is not a person in this world who is ugly. Ugly is just an opinion- and there isn’t a person in this world who is attractive to everyone. If you take care of yourself and feel good about yourself, you will look attractive to others… But first you have to see it in yourself.

Yoda, you’ve seen Mary’s photo on her av before haven’t you? She’s as cute as any girl on this site, even you (and that’s saying something). Little brothers can always be counted on to insult their sisters.

If brothers thought their sisters looked good and vice versa, we’d all have IQ’s of 50 and be dragging our knuckles.

Unfortunately I don’t remember Mary’s previous avatar, and thanks lol :P.

My younger brother tells me that I look like a man because I’m tall, he calls me (email removed) as a nickname, laughs at me because I have freckles around my mouth, and says that I could pass for the girl from The Ring since I dyed my hair black.

Sure, I’ve seen unattractive people before, but their problem is that they don’t take care of themselves- bad teeth, gross hair, body odor, etc.. If you take care of yourself and become happy with your body (why not, it’s the only one you have), then you will definitely be attractive.

You’re obviously intelligent because you care about your future.

lol! that was supposed to be fat a&& where it says email removed :]