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Nj17

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I’ve been coming on here and reading posts, but I’ve not been feeling up to answering them.
Life like always hasn’t been as good as it should be. Every time something good happens to or around me, it never last long before it turns bad or something else bad happens and piles on to what’s already happened.
I don’t have anyone to go to anymore. My long term counsellor is leaving just before Christmas because she wants to further her career and so she can have more time at home than what she’s already getting, which I do understand on her behalf, but it’s leaving me in a terrible state. It took us months before I started to open up to her and feel comfortable about doing it and now she’s leaving. I have the most horrible pictures that I’m not going to do to well without her. I can’t even last two weeks apart when she has her time off work very well.
At home everyone has their own problems and all seem to dislike me. Especially my younger brother (16) who makes horrible comments to everything I say, do and feel. They are all making my home life really horrible and I don’t know what to do or who to turn to.

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Away
I’ve still been coming on here and reading posts, but I’ve not been feeling up to answering them.
Life like always hasn’t been as good as it should be. Every time something good happens to or around me, it never last long before it turns bad or something else bad happens and piles on to what’s already happened.
I don’t have anyone to go to anymore. My long term counselor is leaving just before Christmas because she wants to further her career and so she can have more time at home than what she’s already getting, which I do understand on her behalf, but it’s leaving me in a terrible state. It took us months before I started to open up to her and feel comfortable about doing it and now she’s leaving. I have the most horrible pictures that I’m not going to do to well without her. I can’t even last two weeks apart when she has her time off work very well.
At home everyone has their own problems and all seem to dislike me. Especially my younger brother (16), who has to make a horrible comment to everything I say, do and feel. Him and the others are making my time at home horrible and I just don’t know what to do or who to turn to now.

Nj17 edited this post 1 year ago. Read the previous text »

Away
I’ve still been coming on here and reading posts, but I’ve not been feeling up to answering them.
Life like always hasn’t been as good as it should be. Every time something good happens to or around me, it never last long before it turns bad or something else bad happens and piles on to what’s already happened.
I don’t have anyone to go to anymore. My long term counsellor is leaving just before Christmas because she wants to further her career and so she can have more time at home than what she’s already getting, which I do understand on her behalf, but it’s leaving me in a terrible state. It took us months before I started to open up to her and feel comfortable about doing it and now she’s leaving. I have the most horrible pictures that I’m not going to do to well without her. I can’t even last two weeks apart when she has her time off work very well.
At home everyone has their own problems and all seem to dislike me. Especially my younger brother (16) who makes horrible comments to everything I say, do and feel. They are all making my home life really horrible and I don’t know what to do or who to turn to.

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Cell 54 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 1 year ago (31 minutes after post)

I think you will need to find a new counselor.

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (48 minutes after post)

I was just talking about how I have a hard time with change - even if it is an unknown or positive change. I know how hard it is to find a counselor to start over and feel comfortable with, but believe me the more practice you have opening up about things the better you will get at expressing yourself.

I think you also need to practice ignoring your sixteen year old bro. He sounds just like an obnoxious younger brother/sister who does stuff like that just to be a jerk. Practice avoiding him when you can. When my younger siblings used to be a pain I would shut them out, go off and listen to some music I enjoyed so I didn’t have to interact with them. Its hard being in the same room with someone who is being a jerk.When you do have to interact with him just go quiet - numb yourself to the situation - and let him keep going. Then he ends up looking like a nut.

Anonymous #
1 year ago (53 minutes after post)

You could also try getting out when you can. Take a walk and get away from it. I know you have probably heard this a million times - but all families have their problems. Some days are better than others. With lots of people sharing a space you’re bound to pick up some hostility from time to time whether it is directly or indirectly. Escape when you sense it coming.

notanotherknif #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (6 hours, 49 minutes after post)

I am in the same kind of situation.

I was told by my counsellor today that she’s going to a different school next year.
Only now have I ’started’ to open up with her.
I first saw her 1 year ago - It’s taken me that to open up.
I don’t like opening up to new people.

The counsellor she is, is AWESOME!
If I need help/advice I could just talk to her.
She even comes with me when I need to talk to teachers/people - I’m really shy and don’t like talking a lot. So losing her is a BIG loss!

I was only told today.
Now I am REALLY confused as to what’s going to happen to everything ‘we’ve’ had?!?..
What happens to the files and arrangements that were made!

I AM AS LOST AS YOU ARE!

Msn - NotAnotherKnife(at)hotmail(dot)com…
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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 days, 6 hours after post)

Nj17 , i know you for a long time now . I know how hard for you to open up & talk about your feelings but as you said sometimes life doesn’t go as we planned for it .

All i can say is you are my friend and i will always be upon your request .

You have my MSN , Skype and e-mail address , please don’t hesitiate to contact me whenever you want .

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (2 days, 8 hours after post)

Hello there NJ, i wondered where you have been so i thought i would just wait for you to come back and say hi and now indeed you are back. But lonely and sad. I am sorry.

When you don’t have much of your family’s support, i think it would be best to get another counselor. Opening up is not going to be automatic but as we know people come and go. We just need to get a little sturdy tree to hold on to.

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