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I’m not coping with my life very well.

I don’t know what exactly with, everything I guess. I’ve bottled up all my emotions and I really need someone to talk to, I’ve got some friends that I’d trust to talk with but none of them are here (or online) right now, I don’t know where to start either.
So anyway, I’m 14, and I’ve pretty much always been a bit of a loner, I have friends but apart from my closest friends pretty much everyone hates me. I hate myself too. To me, I’m just a fat ugly weird failure who doesn’t cope with stress. Other people tell me I’m pretty/beautiful and I’m not that fat or whatever…but I can’t bring myself to believe them. I hate myself so much, and I don’t know how to change. I’m not suicidal or anything, but I have hurt myself a little bit before.
Another problem I have is, well, I’m scared. Of a lot of things, too many. Spiders, water, fire, heights, the dark, etc. And anything new. And I get so nervous around other people, I hate it, I’m really awkward in social situations and I never know how I should be acting.
One of my bigger problems is my family. I just feel so out of touch with my mum, I think it’s because she’s so much older than me (she had me when she was 42) and she has such different ideas to me. She’s never supportive (like, telling me I’m fat and nothing I do is ever good enough). And I don’t know, we just don’t get along. The rest of my family is a little bit like that too, they make jokes and stuff and either they don’t understand that I don’t think it’s funny or that even if I’m pretending that it’s okay it’s really not.
At school, this year I’ve been getting straight A’s. (I’m pretty smart, but everyone else just seems so much better at everything than me) and I don’t think I can keep on getting A’s. And that I’ll be disappointing everyone and not being good enough again.
I’m hardly ever happy, my moods are usually either hyper, or depressed (like now). And I’m confused so much, and I never feel good enough. This was mainly a rant (and a rather long one, sorry ’bout that) but I really needed to let everything out, otherwise it’ll all spurt out at once and I’ll end up hurting someone, either myself or someone else. (probably a punch, not murder or anything, btw, lol). I just feel so crazy and nothing make sense, I need some comfort. Please. I said this was mainly a rant, but if anyone has anything to say to help, that would be greatly appreciated. Cheers. =)

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The average teenage girl looks in the mirror and says to herself, “Ugghhh! What I need is a good killing!”

Really, it’s true.

Hey, you’re 14 years old. You’re not expected to deal with mountains of stress. You’re still a kid–really, you are. And now, to top it all off, hormones are now coursing through your body, changing it and creating feelings you’ve never experienced before.

Through all of this you are asking yourself, “Who am I? Who am I going to become? How do I get there from here?”

You’re seeking your identity, and you worry that you won’t be pretty enough or smart enough or sociable enough, or have good friends, or have a boyfriend, etc., etc.

The girl is the mother of the woman. You have your own destiny in your hands. And you’re doing a pretty good job right now, I’d have to say. You realize that school is important. You’re doing well.

Do not compare yourself to others. That’s like the trapeze artist in the circus comparing himself to the strong man, or the clown comparing himself to the lion tamer. Guess what? Each has his/her own unique talents. Each has found the perfect niche in which to use those talents. The lion tamer would fall off the trapeze, and the clown would be eaten by the lion if he tried to be the lion tamer! (Hmmmm. Maybe the strong man COULD compare himself to the bearded lady . . . )

Anyway, kid, don’t take yourself too seriously. If you think you are a little overweight, just reduce your food intake and exercise more. But do it for YOU, not other people. You could weigh 300 lbs and have a happy life . . . albeit a shorter one.

Just take it easy. Keep doing well in school and have fun with your friends. Set attainable goals, e.g., to get into college, and pursue those goals. Think about how you want to contribute to society. Determine what your unique talents are, and develop them.

P.S. Your mother isn’t the “old fogey” you think she is. Talk to her. Just talk. You’ll be surprised at how “modern” she is!

The average teenage girl looks in the mirror and says to herself, "Ugghhh!  What I need is a good killing!"

Really, it's true.

Hey, you're 14 years old.  You're not expected to deal with mountains of stress.  You're still a kid--really, you are.  And now, to top it all off, hormones are now coursing through your body, changing it and creating feelings you've never experienced before.

Through all of this you are asking yourself, "Who am I?  Who am I going to become?  How do I get there from here?"

You're seeking your identity, and you worry that you won't be pretty enough or smart enough or sociable enough, or have good friends, or have a boyfriend, etc., etc.

The girl is the mother of the woman.  You have your own destiny in your hands.  And you're doing a pretty good job right now, I'd have to say.  You realize that school is important.  You're doing well.

Do not compare yourself to others.  That's like the trapeze artist in the circus comparing himself to the strong man, or the clown comparing himself to the lion tamer.  Guess what?  Each has his/her own unique talents.  Each has found the perfect niche in which to use those talents.  The lion tamer would fall off the trapeze, and the clown would be eaten by the lion if he tried to be the lion tamer!  (Hmmmm.  Maybe the strong man COULD compare himself to the bearded lady . . . )

Anyway, kid, don't take yourself too seriously.  If you think you are a little overweight, just reduce your food intake and exercise more.  But do it for YOU, not other people.  You could weigh 300 lbs and have a happy life . . . albeit a shorter one.

Just take it easy.  Keep doing well in school and have fun with your friends.  Set attainable goals, e.g., to get into college, and pursue those goals.  Think about how you want to contribute to society.  Determine what your unique talents are, and develop them.

P.S.  Your mother isn't the "old fogey" you think she is.  Talk to her. Just talk.  You'll be surprised at how "modern" she is!

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