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What to do if your partner is more in love with you the you are with them?

I love him, think about him, and care about him alotbut i’m not sure if i’m in love with him. His really serious about us and speaks about us having a future together. I’m so young and feel as though being too serious with one person is far from my mind right now.
There’s always someone in the relationship that loves harder and i’m not that someone. I feel terrible about it and wish that I could understand how deeply he loves me.

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Victoria Sponge offline Verified User (6 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Fritwell, K2, GB | 4 years, 6 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Some people say that makes the best relationship!
I think you need to talk to him. Explain that you can’t look to your future you want to live in the right now and enjoy it, let him know you want to have fun and want him to have fun (if you do)
I know how hard it is to get talking to them, but it will be the best thing for the thing for both of you

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Katiebug637 offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 6 months ago (26 minutes after post)

Seriously..i wish my bf loves me as much as yours love you.. makes me so sad how people are so blessed but takes it for granted sometimes. i am not judging you, but i would do anything to be in a relationship with a partner who is madly in love with me.

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An Unknown Location | 4 years, 6 months ago (53 minutes after post)

thanks for calling me an idiot….i’m only human!! and i cant help how i feel

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Katiebug637 offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 6 months ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

I know you can’t. For now though i think you should focus on yourself.. i know it will hurt him but its better to hurt him now then for him to be in a relationship with someone who doesnt feel the same way. it is not fair you know..

go have your fun, live your life to the fullest and when you are ready and you find that man…hopefully you will love him as much as he love you and everything will be perfect.

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Katiebug637 offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 6 months ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

Sadly for me, ive always been the someone who love harder in relationships..

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enjoyingnaturepd offline Verified User (4 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 3 months ago (2 months, 1 week after post)

A love relationship between partners really can’t stand on one persons shoulders more. It maybe be that he loves you fully, but not in the way you expect love to be for you. Can you accept his version, or will you take the risk to keep your dream alive.

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An Unknown Location | 4 years, 3 months ago (2 months, 1 week after post)

sorry…I meant will you take the risk of letting him go to pursue your dream of what equal love should be like.

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