Person help: I’m an International Baccalaureate student and I’m obsessed with getting staight A’s.

anacris_h

I’m an International Baccalaureate student and I’m obsessed with getting staight A’s.

The problem is that I don’t succeed at this. I have ALL of the motivation in the world, ALL of the desire to work and dedicate myself to studying/homework…but I have zero time-management. I regularly sleep-deprive myself because I’m so perfectionistic about my work (focusing on details makes me lose a lot of time), etc. I just can never win. The only person who’s ruining my dreams is myself.

How do I become good? My consistent lack of success is driving me crazy - making me hate myself and practically feel suicidal (even though I do not intend to follow with suicidal thoughts). I try so hard, probably harder than anyone should, and gain nothing.

I hate feeling sorry for myself but I just don’t know what to do. Help.

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What'sInaName 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 years, 5 months ago (12 minutes after post)

You said,” regularly sleep-deprive myself because I’m so perfectionist about my work (focusing on details makes me lose a lot of time), etc. I just can never win. The only person who’s ruining my dreams is myself.”

being a perfectionist is not a good thing. I hope you know that. It comes from the place of anxiety and other such illnesses.

Maybe you arnt since you didnt spell the word correctly, I’m not being mean, just thinking.

Being careful and conscientious is the goal. a Perfectionist is just a careful person that has flipped.

I take this theory a bit far. I’m an 80% gal, myself. bit sloppy, but I am fast and really rather good.

you know that you have to trust yourself more, and relax a bit.

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What'sInaName 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 years, 5 months ago (14 minutes after post)

oh , I apologize, you spelled it correctly. sorry

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What'sInaName 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 years, 5 months ago (15 minutes after post)

ohhhh you congegated it.. lol.. darling!!! Sorry Im on my own little path.

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DannyB 0 #
GB | 3 years, 5 months ago (18 minutes after post)

In part, you have answered your own question!

You have bags of motivation, but never enough time because your are a perfectionist. You already know what the problem is which is great news because now you can start to work on it!

Higher learning is as much about self discipline and as it is about gaining knowledge and if time management is your weakest link, that’s what you need to focus the most of your efforts into improving.

It also sounds to me like you feel that you have something to prove to yourself or to others. Why does it matter so much that you get straight A’s anyway?

Trying to be the best at everything all the time must be exhausting and very limiting. Think about your life aims and how you can get to where you want to be - and be realistic! Nobody has to perfect all the time, and trying to be will only drive you crazy!

Haro 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 5 months ago (2 hours, 28 minutes after post)

That sounds like me… except I’m still in Pre-IB classes.

Don’t have goals that are too hard to achieve… try to focus on 3 core subjects and take it easy on other classes.
What you need to do is probably relax….
Stress isn’t gonna help

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Ruby Soho 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 years, 5 months ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

Get out of IB, that **** never did anyone any good.
You can still succeed in normal school.

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Haro 2 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 5 months ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

IB is good if you consider going to college in other country….
Right?

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abcd #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 5 months ago (1 week, 4 days after post)

I’m a perfectionist also. I got straight A’s in 9th, 10th, and even 11th grade. But now that I’m in my second year of IB it has ruined my life you. I have had reoccuring anxiety attacks the past two years and now that it is drawing to a close I have lost all of my friends and spend every moment in front of the computer trying to finish my essays because I expect them to be perfect. My best friend(one of the only friends I have left) is in a psychiatric ward because she just tried to kill herself. If you are still in your first year of IB get out of it. It is a very rewarding great program but for a perfectionist it will ruin your life. If you are in your second year and have to deal with all of your internals right now then I just recommend learning to put finishing above perfection.

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nimrodsso #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 2 months ago (3 months, 1 week after post)

Work on time management and the control freak / perfectionist bit. Work on yourself. Get help. Get balance and focus in your life.

If you are not as arrogant as Scriptease is (note how she saw non-existent flaws in your writing and then bragged shamelessly about being “really rather good” and then she goes and misspells “aren’t” and “conjugated”) and you are starting to lose your mind, GET THE F*** OUT OF IB and/or just do the “partial” IB option.

I am sick of hearing about IB student suicides. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELVES, KIDS! LIFE IS TOO F’ING SHORT!!!

And Scriptease, I am fed up with arrogant know-it-alls like you. You make me sick. You would do very well in an IB program, though. The arrogant kids who tear apart the others always do.

–an ex-G/T / IB / magnet student

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HOTDOG #
An Unknown Location | 3 years ago (5 months, 3 weeks after post)

IB IS EVIL.

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HOTDOG #
An Unknown Location | 3 years ago (5 months, 3 weeks after post)

smoke weed and just hang out mannnnn just ignore that IB bullcrap. no one needs it , cant really upgrade your university chances! Plus taking IB is just a test, if you leave it you pass and instantly get in uni tbh! We have a messiah at our school who has set an example for us all! He left and now he is happier then ever! Sure he had to walk to the field carrying a cross on his back whilst the IB teachers threw shizz at him. But he said by it had all ended, and started doing A-levels it was the best thing ever. IB = IS BOLLOCK :P acronyms ftw

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HOTDOG #
An Unknown Location | 3 years ago (5 months, 3 weeks after post)

since joining IB i have had seven strokes, four heart attacks and extreme diarrhoea.
do you want this future?
**** going in means **** coming out.
END IT NOW!

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fckthi #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (2 years after post)

Ib has ruined my life> i had all 98 and 99 in honors and ap courses during freshman and sophomore year, but when i was selected for ib, i lost everything i once held in my hands…

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zainab_farook_78 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (3 years, 2 months after post)

im totaly f*****. I just got my report the other day. Im an IB student. I totally hate it. :(…im a 16 yr old femaleand i just feel i cant handle the stress. I havnt even had a good grade this year. c’s, d’s e’s and f’s. I HATE IB. Its a stupid course. I realy want to get out of it. My parents the pressure its just too much to handle. Ive been pretty suicidal after this report and its driving me crazy.

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imantsziedoni #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (3 years, 3 months after post)

Ib is hellllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll!!!!!!!!!!!!

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