Love help: Should I wait to have kids?

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Should I wait to have kids?

I believe in traditional marriage and I want to have kids but I have no prospects. I’m already 27 and I don’t want to be in my 40’s with young kids. Things don’t seem to be getting much better in my love life. I’m really conflicted on whether I should be looking for a mate for life or just one to have children with. I feel like the clock is ticking or something.

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kemmy 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (7 minutes after post)

27 is still very young. You could meet your future wife in the next few years, so if you jump the wagon and have a kid now, do you think that future lady would accept your child? Do you think having a child with someone just to have a child is a good idea? What if there are issues with the mother?

Luckily for you, youre a man. So your clock is a little different than a womans lol :)

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¡ʎuɐɟɟıʇ 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (45 minutes after post)

Although I’m not as old as you are, I can see where you’re coming from. I’ve always wanted to have kids early on, no older than 25ish.

You should definitely wait until you find someone who you are completely in love with and vice versa. Too many kids are already growing up in disfuctional families. Wait until you meet someone great who you really want to spend your life with. The kids will grow up seeing how much you love and adore eachother and it will just make them happier and (I think) more successful in life.
Don’t have kids and let them live in an unstable environment, or with seperated/divorced parents. The right girl will come along, just be patient. :)

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Mayor 166 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 19 minutes after post)

♥ tiffany! wrote:
Although I’m not as old as you are, I can see where you’re coming from. I’ve always wanted to have kids early on, no older than 25ish.

You should definitely wait until you find someone who you are completely in love with and vice versa. Too many kids are already growing up in disfuctional families. Wait until you meet someone great who you really want to spend your life with. The kids will grow up seeing how much you love and adore eachother and it will just make them happier and (I think) more successful in life.
Don’t have kids and let them live in an unstable environment, or with seperated/divorced parents. The right girl will come along, just be patient. :)

I never wanted to have a child out of wedlock but it starting to look like Mrs. Right isn’t going to happen. Should I still be waiting for her? Isn’t it naive to put my life on hold waiting for the right woman.

kazb36 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 32 minutes after post)

u should not settle for a breeder instead of love if u do it wont last

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¡ʎuɐɟɟıʇ 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (3 hours, 31 minutes after post)

It isn’t naive. I’m not sure what there is to do around where you live, but get yourself out there. Not intentionally to try and find “love” but to meet new girls. You never know where you could find your perfect match. I’d stay away from bars and clubs though. You’re not going to meet any decent women (usually) in there.

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kazb36 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (3 hours, 33 minutes after post)

my sis set me up with my true love. u never know when or where.

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hey...iknowyou 18 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (13 hours, 11 minutes after post)

It’s cool that you want to start a family, but it’s not just what you want that you need to consider. If you get with someone just to have children with them, than things don’t work out, who looks after the kids? What if she wants complete custody? That wouldn’t be fair on you or the kid(s) in question.

Also, if your ever even a little bit unsure about a decision that has permanent consequences, I’ve always found it best to say no until you ARE 100% certain.

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dormanchik2 5 #
Greenville, SC, US | 1 year ago (16 hours, 23 minutes after post)

you shouldnt have kids just yet if your not 100 completly sure you can handle,or really want kids.

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gib 2 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 4 weeks ago (1 week, 3 days after post)

My advice would be to wait. Children are a HUGE responsibility. You are still very young!! Besides, you seem to really want “whole package”…love, wife, kids…
So do you really think you would feel fulfilled if you have kids out of wedlock? And maybe because who knows what the situation with the mother would be, you don’t even get to live with your child?

Umm, maybe for now you can adopt a puppy! he he!!
:)

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