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Do you have any family that would be willing to help you, mom,dad, sister, brother?

I mean let you live with them

Well first of all you did the right thing in leaving him, no girl should ever be treated like that by a man or by anyone for that matter..

I’m assuming your parents or family know about the situation and there gonna help you out, I know around here single moms can get grants and stuff for school, i would suggest maybe looking into some community colleges around there and getting an assosiate degree in something your interested, it only takes two years or so and you can get a great job with those and always add on to the education when you had time, there are also all kinds of guys at schools, your bound to meet somebody…

just a suggestion though.

Right now i wouldnt worry about finding another man, just get your stuff together and the rest will fall in place in due time,and you need to know their is NOTHING wrong with you at all! Its not your fault. dont forget that! you did the right thing for you and your girls. trust me on that.

anyways you will find someone way better out there that will love you for you and be faithful..don’t give up hope, just take it one step at a time.

I agree with Braad

I agree with what braad says as well. You did the right thing. But you don’t know when another guy is gonna come into your life so you need to take action to support your kids.

I feel you on the finding someone part, it hasn’t even been a year for me but sometimes it just feels hopeless and like it will never happen. But then I realize that in time things will happen, just as I hope you do.

Take this time to find yourself and make your life and your kids life better. Find out what you’d be interested in doing. Motivate yourself. Theres always something

I am 31 and am a single mom of three. i am single by choice because my standards high. i am currently in a long distance relationship that has made me happy and he is more than willing to take care of me and my kids after his contract with this job is over. you can and will make it. times can be hard. i think waitressing was the job that supported us the best do to the tip factor. as for child care, switch off with other parents, that are possibly having the same problem. I have been raising my kids since i was 16. you CAN do it

well, right now my mom is living with her father because she is at a place in her life where her previous training isnt enough, and my dad and his new wife are alcoholics and fight constantly, one of me sisters is in italy trying about to go live with my other grandparents because her and her air force husband are divorcing, and my other sister is struggling through college. The other thing is, i cant figure out one thing that i could go to school for and be good at, school was never my thing, i’ve looked into it, but i just cant make myself do it. i dont know whats wrong with me, but the thought of going to school tortures me and overwhelmes me for some reason, the only reason i even graduated was because i was pregnant and got into a school that lets you graduate early. And basically they give you the answers. it may sound sad and pathetic but im useless doing anything other then what i do. And i really dont want to be in a relationship ever again, but at the same time i do…i feel lost and hopeless, pathetic and useless, and every other crappy word you could possibly think of.

you sound like me. I’m almost completely unmotivated and it always feels like I can’t do anything. And I was good in school for the most part. But there is always something you can do no matter what you think. I am trying to find out what I want to do still and yes it is overwhelming. Your not the only one who thinks like this if thats a little more comforting to ya lol

You will figure something out. I know as a mother you will.

I mean you as a mother, not me I’m a guy lol

well if your good at childcare, there are some careers in that field, at my college their is a 2 year course called early childcare development. i think you can manage daycares and teach pre school and all kinds of interesting things with that degree..college is a little overwhelming, it was for me when i first started, but once you get into the groove, its not that bad, i’m still not sure what i wanna do…ill figure it out one way or another though or if i cant figure it out ill get 2 degrees..

your not hopeless, you got two pretty girls that love there mother, thats something alot of people would die to have.. i don’t think your pathetic at all, you stood up and made a postive,hard change in your life, that takes guts..and as far as being useless, it sounds to me that you are a wonderful mother, who cares deeply. thats something to take pride in.. your going through some rough times, but you will pull through it, keep that chin up and look at this as a new start.. like i said earlier just take it one step at a time and try and look at some positive things.

Braad wrote:
well if your good at childcare, there are some careers in that field, at my college their is a 2 year course called early childcare development. i think you can manage daycares and teach pre school and all kinds of interesting things with that degree..college is a little overwhelming, it was for me when i first started, but once you get into the groove, its not that bad, i’m still not sure what i wanna do…ill figure it out one way or another though or if i cant figure it out ill get 2 degrees..your not hopeless, you got two pretty girls that love there mother, thats something alot of people would die to have.. i don’t think your pathetic at all, you stood up and made a postive,hard change in your life, that takes guts..and as far as being useless, it sounds to me that you are a wonderful mother, who cares deeply. thats something to take pride in.. your going through some rough times, but you will pull through it, keep that chin up and look at this as a new start.. like i said earlier just take it one step at a time and try and look at some positive things.

that will also give you the chance to be a stay at home mom, they also have certificate programs

I’m in the ARMY. You can go talk to a JAGS attorney. They WILL help you. Being that your husband is in the ARMY, and you are a stay at home mom, he not only needs to take care of his children (financially), but you aswell. It’s in the ARMY REGS.
I’m not sure where you guys are stationed out of, but trust me, the help IS there. You just have to go out and find it. You also have all your benefits for being a spouse, including education benefits.

I agree also with everyone else that has posted. Try and seek help with whatever family and friends you might have. Maybe you can even seek out a job (for starters) in a day care that will allow you to bring in your girls! That would be ideal. But, yeah, my first advice would be to go to JAGS and get some good and much needed advice. Once you get the ball going and see all the options you REALLy DO* have, you will see you have the strength to make it on your own, for yourself and your girls.

I wish you ALL the best, I really do. If you have any questions or anything you think I might be able to help with, you can contact me at my email.
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God bless you!
~Gaby~

Umm, my email was taken out. Guess you can’t post them on this website.
Well, it’s my name,
Gabriela-Isabel at hotmail dot com
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