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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost
8 months now and for about the first 5 months we were always happy and he cared about me so much he would come up to me from behind and hug me or just put his arm around me or kiss me or anything all the time and he would do sweet things like sit down outside with me to see the stars and he would tell me how much he cared about me. I’ve told him many times that the way he acts affects me completely so I would do things like that back to him, we would give each other little letter and leave cute messages on the phone and was the best boyfriend ever and made me feel so good about myself. Since about 2 months ago all of that changed. I started crying myself to sleep every night thinking about the boyfriend he used to be. Now, he is constantly mad at me for something, we start fights all the time and he always blames them on me when Im the one that tries to stop it all and he thinks Im like bipolar for being in a random good mood after we were just in a fight when all Im doing is trying to brush away those little arguments that we have about nothing. For a while I thought all the fighting was my fault, but after thinking about it for the longest time, I realized that he was just acting very immature about everything and he doesn’t realize the way I feel and I don’t think he ever will because he never listens to me. Every time I try to tell him how I feel, he just talks over me or just doesn’t listen and then asks me what I said knowing that I would be frustrated and not want to say it again. He always says “whatever” to everything I have to say even though I listen to everything he has to say. He tells me to shutup now almost all the time, he kids around and makes fun of me way to much, whenever we are play fighting and he hits me by accident too hard, I say “hold on” or “that hurt” , then he’ll make my feel guilty and says “then I won’t play fight with you anymore because Im such a horrible boyfriend and I constantly hurt you” and I always have to go up to him and say things so he knows hes not a bad boyfriend for doing that, every time any argument happens he says “well Im just gonna go” and he turns his back on me and walks away and then I stare to see if hes actually going to leave, then he turns around and says “so I guess you want me to leave then” or something like that and it causes another fight. Every time we’re on the phone something ends up happening and he says “well then Ill just go” and then if I say bye he gets mad that I don’t want to talk to him but If I say wait dont go he says nope and he just counts down and says hes gonna go so I don’t know what I am supposed to do. And now also whenever I tell him i love him, he says yea right and I get pissed off that he doesnt believe me because I love him more than anyone in this world, and then he gets mad that I took it seriously because supposively he was just kidding, many other things have happened but I’m too mad to think of them all, do you see why I miss his old self so much. I can’t break up with him because I love him too much but everyone is telling me to take a break I just can’t I just want him to see how I feel and go back to his old self so everything can be good again and I can be happy again because now it causes me to be depressed all the time. What do I do??
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