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Im confuzzeled..

Ok i’ve been mates with this girl for like 10yrs+ we’ve never really had a fight or fell out, but a few weeks ago she sent me a message saying that she ‘has weighed up how much she likes me and how much she hates me and thinks that it’s not worth being my friend anymore’ I was really upset because it totally came out of the blue no warning or anything. now shes blanking me but every now and then she’ll pass me things through a friend like a box of cookies for my birthday and a drawing she did of me and my boyfriend. it’s really confusing because when i try to thank her for them she just runs off like she’s scared of talking to me. I really dont understand whats happened, i’ve asked everyone she’s friends with if they could explain it to me but no one will say a word.

i have no idea how to act around her and i’ve got to see her almost everyday. any ideas?

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evansent:) offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 696 #
GB | 1 year ago (2 minutes after post)

sounds like your friend might have a little crush on you

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9584 offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (2 minutes after post)

Nah, she’s straight and so am I

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evansent:) offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 696 #
GB | 1 year ago (2 minutes after post)

how long you been with your bf?

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9584 offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (3 minutes after post)

oh poo there goes the anon…

2-3 months

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evansent:) offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 696 #
GB | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

maybe she feels left out
why your with your bf

have you noticed any changes in her lately?

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9584 offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (6 minutes after post)

she’s pretty much the same as she’s always been, quiet, shy and ditzy
I spent the same amount of time with her as i always have i make sure of that and i try not to talk about my b/f that much too

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evansent:) offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 696 #
GB | 1 year ago (7 minutes after post)

maybe she likes your bf
feels guilty about it
therefore calls her friendship off
due to temptation???

just summising here…

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9584 offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (11 minutes after post)

I suppose that might be it. but it doesn’t really sound like her, she doesn’t really like my b/f that much, she spends half her time saying what a ’stupid meat-head’ he is… (she may have a point now and then :)

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evansent:) offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 696 #
GB | 1 year ago (13 minutes after post)

mm thats how they usuaally cover their tracks

i think you need to speak to your friend
ask her outright what is going on

tell her your not moving till you get an answer
tell her your friendship means too much to throw away!

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9584 offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (16 minutes after post)

I’ve tried that but she ended up screaming at me saying that i didn’t understand..
which is true. unfortunatly her screaming drew the attention of two police officers so that was the end of that convo..

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evansent:) offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 696 #
GB | 1 year ago (20 minutes after post)

i think im right lv
she has a crush on one of you
i would put money on it

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9584 offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (22 minutes after post)

oh poo.. (#_#)

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evansent:) offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 696 #
GB | 1 year ago (24 minutes after post)

question is which one :/

good luck lv :)

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9584 offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (28 minutes after post)

thanks, i’ll interrogate the boyfriend he pretty much has a radar for when it comes to people liking each other unless it involves him.. :P

thanks angiebabe. :P

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evansent:) offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 696 #
GB | 1 year ago (31 minutes after post)

your welcome lv,anytime :)

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charis_m offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (37 minutes after post)

you poor thing,
sounds like you have been behaved perfectly, maybe she has issues. my advice would be civil and dont ask for an explanation from her- you cant reason with unreasonable people, and do something just for you- something really exciting outside you usual friendship group- maybe a sports club or an evening course or something! i hope everything works out

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9584 offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (49 minutes after post)

i think i will, thanks charis_m

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