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My mother is the biggest self-serving, self-pitying conniving asshole ive ever met.

This is just from tonight. She goes out the door to see a client, and says that while shes out we may as well order pizza and she can pick it up. So the last thing we say to her as she walks out the door is, “call us 30 minutes before you leave.” she said ok and left. now, half an hour after shes supposed to call us, she calls me and is all pissy because we didnt order the pizza yet. So when i try to talk, she just hangs up and wont answer her phone. Were finally able to get a hold of her 20 minutes later, at which point shes already done what she KNEW we didnt want her to do, and went to the actual pizza hut and ordered without us, and big surprise, she got the wrong fucking thing. And just to make herself more of a martyr, she refuses to actually wait in the restaurant, instead waiting in her car without the power on. She then proceeds to say the whole thing is my fault, and i tell her we didnt ask her to do this, and as a matter of fact, we asked her NOT to do it. I asked her to get what we actually wanted to order, and she goes off on a tangent about how much shes suffering. Finally after about 10 minutes of incessant bitching, im able to say goodbye and hang up, at which point my dad (in the same room) proceeds to tell me that its all my fault and how much HES going to suffer listening to her bitch all night. Great. maybe ill just keep myself barricaded up here until they both go to bed and i can eat in peace.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Seems like a good plan to me….

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

Me 2 ha
Hope u have a microwave 2 heat the pizza up :)

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Winnipeg, MB, CA | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

Oh well. At least you’ll get pizza?

Some parents are a lesson in how not to act.

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Gloversville, NY, US | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

oh no bacon… so sorry to hear that you have to deal with this…
its normal for parents to be upset with their jobs and such… but its not right to take their anger out on their children… ever!
if your mother can not handle the things that she is doing such as she did tonight.. then maybe she needs to take a look at her life and make some changes…

hugs..

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

It seems to me that to call your mother and let her know that you have ordered a pizza for her to pick up is a rather small request. She is the going to work to see a client right? You and your father get to stay at home and not be burdened with anything.

Your Mom sounds like she is under a lot of pressure. Maybe if you would talk to her and show her some concern she would be different.

My mother had my sister and I to support all by her herself. Yes, she came home sometimes and if everything wasn’t done to her specifications she would have a hissy fit. I thought she was mean until I grew up and had 4 children to support. Now I get it and I found out that she was trying to do her best with what she knew how to do.

I sense you are lonesome and feeling neglected. I think you would like to be closer to your Mom but, don’t know what will make her happy. When you tried before to make her happy it didn’t work. All I have to say is keep trying. She will eventually come around when some of the pressure is off her back.

Good Luck.

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

yes, the fact that she has flexible hours and can cancel on a client whenever, and my dad has to get up at 4:30 each morning to go and do 12 hours of manual labor means nothing i guess.

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Gloversville, NY, US | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

do you think that maybe mom is stressed out with her job and such.. i mean, still no excuse.. but sometimes when you are stressed out, it does a lot to not only your emotions but to your character and memory..

my suggestion is to catch her on a good day.. and let her know.. listen.. i feel that you are taking your anger out on me and it really bothers me… because sometimes, we dont see how we are treating others when we are so over whelmed..

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11 months, 3 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

you complained about the wrong kind of pizza??

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

I am just mentioning your Mom and I think your Dad is doing fine work. The fact is your anger is at your Mother right now. I think you and her need to talk and see if you can bridge your relationship. Tell her how she makes you feel. Wait for a time when perhaps she is getting ready to go to work and seems calm. Perhaps then she will have time to talk to you.

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11 months, 3 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

poor poor you

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An Unknown Location | 11 months, 3 weeks ago (49 minutes after post)

It sounds like everyones passing the buck, all blaming each other for their own actions when in healthy relationships each person is responsible for their own actions and feelings.It’s dysfunctional and immature. Im not judging I came from the same and tended to do the same. What Im saying is you all just need better communication skills.Maybe try hodu.com

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