Sibling help: my sister in law lives with my mother and i and she steals from us we have confronted her 3 times i cant stand it no more what should i do? - Help.com

Kick her out.

Make ground rules.

Has your mom talked to either one about it?

What has she said when you have confronted her. Is she sorry, concerned?? Did she promise not to do it again?

santosjom wrote:
nooo not even !nothing she says it wasnt her!n we catched her in the middle of the act

then mom is allowing it,guess it doesnt bother her as much as it bothers you. Does she steal your things?

Maybe your mum needs to sit down with her and ask her why she is stealing? I think if you are angry at her or she feels guilty she will retaliate by denying what she is doing and carry on doing it? When your mum is calm, I think it would be a good idea that she asks to speak to your sister - then say she isn’t angry, but she just wants to know why? Hopefully a calm discussion to get to the bottom of it would help your sister. If she is stealing money, she may have drug or drinking problems. Hopefully you can work out a solution by talking to her or by your mum talking to her.

Does she have a job? What exactly is she stealing? Has she ever said why she’s stealing or looked generally remorseful about it?

Well you need to put a padlock on the clothes. The food I’m not sure about but hide your money. Eventually she’ll not be able to go out and enjoy herself and realise she has to work for a living not steal off those who love her. Does she have her own kids or are is it just your kids and your mom and brother? If it is your kids, I very much doubt she can take them away. She would get in trouble with the law. If I were you I would say to her - “you are digging yourself into further danger here. I’m not prepared to put up with this much longer and if you steal from us again I will report you”. She takes advantage of your kind nature and your mums for not reporting her and doesn’t respect anything you both say. You’ve tried talking like adults but it doesn’t work. I would hide everything and threaten to report her if it happens again. Social services won’t allow her to steal your children. She can’t provide for herself, she drinks and steals - if that was reported they would simply not allow it. I think she doesn’t realise how lucky she is living where she is right now.

Sorry padlock on the wardrobe with clothes, make sure she has nothing to go out drinking with - no money, no clothes. It’s time to stand up to her and be tough!!!