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Your not pathetic, ur just feeling very lonely at the moment and i dont blame u, Counselling may help you, i feel that u have had alot of problems in the past which is contributing 2 how bad and crap u are feeling now.
If u dont like uni? y go? think about studying a different course or take a year out and work. y stay unhappy.
You need 2 think about what makes u happy, sounds like u need a break from everyhing then see how u feel in a few weeks time

You’re not sad and you’re not pathetic.
Life is difficult and it can be all too easy to end up overwhelmed, especially when you’re at such a tumultuous time in your life. University can exacerbate feelings of loneliness and exclusion so, like Davy suggests, some time away might be the answer.

If you feel intimidated by counsellors, then a service such as the Samaritans/the Suicide line the robot has suggested/a similar service where you live, might be worth using.
They’re anonymous, there’s no face-to-face element and the people there do care, they give up their time to help others and they won’t treat you like an idiot or anything like that.

Also, I would say that you should give your mum a little more credit - if you reach out to her, really reach out, then she will understand. That’s what mums are for…

I read this and I just had to comment back on this. First off I just want to let you know I am only 28 and not much older than you. I am also a mother of 2 boys, so I am going to give you a mother’s point of view also.

Ok, I don’t know what you look like so I’m not going to give you the same ole BS and say you are a beautiful person when I don’t even know you. I just want to let you know I am going to be completely honest with you ok.

I have been depressed or still am I don’t know. Anyways, my point is, when I look in the mirror, I sometimes see a big fat blob of ugly staring right back at me. I once had a counselor tell me to look in the mirror every morning and say 3 things good about myself. It was really hard at first, but then, I started seeing those things. You can start off small like I guess the color blue does bring my eyes out a little more. Before you know it, you will see you aren’t so bad.

Another thing, when people get mad, they say horrible things. My ex husband told me I needed to be embarrassed of myself and when I was going to sleep with a man, I needed to have the lights off. That nearly killed me, but then someone said something brilliant to me. He is just trying to make himself feel better. I am a mean person, I admit that and that was his way of hurting me. He knew how to hurt me. Besides his belly is bigger than mine. hehe

Look, your not pathetic. You are really unhappy with your life or situation. Is there anything you can change? Change schools or even just try going to work. Be around people. You will get to know people. It takes time, but you will. If your unhappy with your life try changing something. Even if it’s just small. You are not going to get out of your sadness if you just keep up the same routine. What is it you have always wanted to do? Go do it. Hey you are lucky, it is just you to worry about. Girl, go treat yourself. Go get your hair cut or even a go to a movie. Do something for you! Go do something that makes yourself feel pretty.

Ok, here is a point of view from a mother. Tell your mom how you feel! It sounds like you really love your mom. Therefore, I am going to assume you can tell she really loves you. A mother will do anything for her child. ANYTHING!!! If you tell her, I know she will not say you are pathetic. She WILL care. No mother wants to see their child hurt, so I can’t see her turn you away. Has your mom not always been there for you? It sounds to me that you are really dieing to get this all out and off your chest. Tell your mom you lied to her about the friends and being happy because it is just too hard to tell the truth. It is just a face you put on to make everyting seem ok, but it is not.

Counselors can be really hard to talk to. Especially because you don’t know them, they don’t know you, and it can seem they are judging you. I guarentee it if you just have a heart to heart talk with your mom, you will feel so much better. Who knows you better than her? Also, I guarentee you she knows something is up. Mom’s always do, so when you tell her she may not be suprised.

Also, wouldn’t it be good to get it all out, have a nice good cry, and have someone to hold onto the hole time and cry with you? Wouldn’t it just be nice to have someone to tell you they love you for you and no other reason. That’s what mom’s do. I know if one of my boys had a problem, I would be more than happy to just listen or try to help. When you need someone to talk to, your mom can be someone to lean on. It might be hard, but believe me when it starts pouring out, it will get better.

Please don’t get me wrong and thing that maybe I have a great relationship with my mom and this is easy to say. I have no mom. The only family I have is my two son’s and husband now. I would give anything to sit in my mom’s lap again and cry. I would give anything! I am a mom, so I know how mom’s feel. Also, if you killed youself, your mom would die inside. Please don’t do that. I know if anything happened to my child, I would probably kill myself.

Ok, I know this is long so, I am going to say this last thing and let you think about things. As far as your dad, it’s his loss. He doesn’t know what he lost and he will know it oneday. My son’s dad doesn’t have anything to do with my boys, but you know what? They are better off without him. They will probably be better men. See what I am saying? It’s not your fault. I’m sorry he feels this way. I really am. I’m just saying it’s not your fault he couldn’t be man enough to see the precious person HE created. If he wanted to leave and not be a dad, that is a reflection on HIM and not you.

You are young and you have plenty of reasons to be happy. But it is natural for human beings to feel empty and alone at times that is because somewhere within us is the need for God….but most of us are not aware of that. Some people feel empty because they have not acknowledged God’s existence in their lives. How about you?

Well.. I don’t know who you are nor what you’ve been through that has caused you to sink so low.
And while I am going through some serious depression **** myself right now I won’t pretend I know what you’re going through, that would be foolish, all I can say is that what you and I have in common is that we are both of the same age, both of us are in school and it looks to me like we both share some suicidal tendencies…
I would love to have somebody to talk to, although I am not sure if it would be a good thing for two suicidals to talk.. hehe, but I am willing to give it a try.

Write to me at listyd AT gmail DOT com
(it’s not me real email address of course, I am a little paranoid about revealing my name on the net)

Good Luck

Please have the will to go on. There have been so many people who have gone through miserable lives but they were able to overcome. Have faith…God will see you through!

Hello,

I understand how you feel and it’s a good thing that you have your mom with you. I suggest that at this time you think of positive thoughts…thoughts like you are blessed for having your mother with you as your very reason for living…. Another positive thought is the fact that you study and you have a computer. Many young people do not have the blessing that you have…..some don’t have mothers, some can’t study, while others don’t have computers. Think of positive things for positive things can make you happy. How about helping other people? Helping people can make you happy….since you are always online may I suggest that you access a certain website and help….I tell you when it comes to helping people…….the feeling will be different. By the way, I just can’t remember the site for I’ve just come across it. I promise, i’ll send it to you.

Another thing….how about God? Have you poured out yourself to God? God is good and He loves you very much. With your situation, God has the best solutions to your problems. Try God now!