Love help: I need advice.

Molly :]

I need advice.

I have a friend who has asked me out a few times. I used to like him. But it didn’t work out, we never got together.. My birthday came up recently and he bought me a love heart necklace and my other friends heard him talking about asking me out one last time. What should I do? If he asks, should I say yes once and for all, and see how things work out? That way I’ll know that I’ve tried to make it work. Or should I be honest and tell him that I don’t like him that way anymore? From time to time, I’m crazy about him.. But then I get totally turned off him.

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Molly :] 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

I’ve been analyzing my feelings for months now. We always get really close, and then I pull back. It’s so mind boggling, because I used to be totally smitten with him. Now I don’t know how I feel..

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Barbyman 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (11 minutes after post)

go for it..

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daddiesdarlyn 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (12 minutes after post)

what can one date hurt?

people go out with people they hardly know all the time,
so i don’t see how a date with a friend could possibly go all that bad. :]

lizze_rocks 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (14 minutes after post)

im going to pass on some advice that my friend told me……….. “would you rather keep him as a good friend or would you rather lose him due to a relationship??” …………….. and maybe you should tell him the same thing. (:

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Molly :] 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (17 minutes after post)

Yeah.. One date wouldn’t hurt.. But as lizze_rocks said, there’s the risk of losing everything. And we’ve been good friends for years now..

I just feel so bad because everytime I turn him down, he comes back again and tells me all this cute stuff.. UGH! I dunno what to say..

I love him. But I don’t know if I love him as just a friend, or as more.

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Step666 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (18 minutes after post)

If the feelings aren’t there on your side, don’t do it.
You can’t force yourself to feel about him the same way he does about you and you run the risk of losing a good friend.

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daddiesdarlyn 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (20 minutes after post)

i do completely agree with lizze_rocks, but on that same exact note, i have a best friend who i love completely, only as a friend, but when he asked me out, i turned him down in fear of losing him as a friend, and everything was fine for a while, until he started dating another girl & now i hardly ever talk to or see him because his focus is else where. so actually i still lost him, so it’s a tough decision.

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Molly :] 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (24 minutes after post)

Yeah.. Thanks Step.. That’s really what I needed to hear.

And daddiesdarlyn, that happened to be before, with the guy I’m talking about. Like, he asked me out twice, both times refusing him. Then he got with this other girl, and I can’t admit that I was VERY jealous that I’d missed out. But I kinda got used to that he was with her, and happy. But they broke up a few months ago, and he’s came back to me again.. I want to know if he’s actually into me a lot, or if I’m just his rebound girl.

He’s a wonderful guy, good looks aren’t on his side, but then again, looks are certainly not what I go for. He seems to be a really sweet boyfriend too, from what I saw of him and his ex.

There’s just so much I have to consider. Not only is our friendship at stake, but I’m in my Leaving Cert year too, so study is vital this year, and I’m afraid of commitment in case I mess up by being too side tracked.

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daddiesdarlyn 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (26 minutes after post)

then i’d have to say it sounds mostly like you have too much on you plate & that you probably aren’t really all that sure so maybe just stick with the friendship.
i’m grateful to still have my friend around from time to time & have a boyfriend whom i love, so hopefully things work out in a positive manner for you as well. :]

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Molly :] 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (27 minutes after post)

Yeah. I think I’ll just explain myself to him if it does come up.

Thanks a million daddies! :)

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daddiesdarlyn 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (28 minutes after post)

you’re very welcome molly.

i wish you the best! :]

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