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You have no idea how much work kids can be…………
Nappies …………Feeding………… Sleepless nites…………..etc etc etc etc etc

Try babysitting

i a have been babysitting since i was 11……. and my brother had a kid last year, hes 20….. and i took better care of his kid then he did! (im the poster)

and i still do tkae better care of his kid then he does.

ill retype it. lol

i have been babysitting since i was 11 i babysat my aunts twins…….and my 20 year old brother and his girlfriend had a baby last year and i have and still am takeing better care of his baby then he is…… i love kids a lot and this summer, before, and after i go to eroupe i am going to voulenteer at a kids day care. :) (poster)

It is normal to want it. but, you will just have to wait. You are not ready for a child. You are a child yourself.

Oh geez, girl. Wait a few years before you even start THINKING about it.

Also, unless you’re Angelina Jolie or Brad Pitt type status, adoption is a slim chance. Agencies like to place babies and orphaned children into the care of parents who can’t have their own children rather than give them to parents who can. That’s not fair on the parents who are wanting children.

Babysitting is a LOT different than looking after your own child. Believe me, I know. I was a teen parent, and while I love my kids, I’m not going to say it wasn’t hard as hell. You seriously have NO idea how hard it is looking after a child if you’re wanting one at your young age. Babies cost at LEAST 50,000 a year for the first 5 years of there life. Do you have $200,000? Do you have a job that even pays HALF that much? I very highly doubt it.

Trust me, wait. Even in your 20’s it’s hard as hell. If it’s hard then, you’re NOT going to cope at 14. No matter how many daycare centres you volunteer at (for the record you need training and coursework before that is even valid as a proper job) how many babysitting jobs you do, and no matter how much you try and sit here and convince us you’re ready. You’re 14 and you’re trying to think about having children when you haven’t finished high-school, and your English is atrocious. That makes it clear that you aren’t ready.

Do yourself, and your future child a favor, and WAIT.

……….. i know i cann’t spell that good. im sorry……. and as if of right now i cant have a child.

You can’t adopt either at your age. With or without your parents permission.

I wasn’t attacking your spelling to be mean, I was just making a point that you’re still in school. You’re still learning in the early stages of your life. You’re barely just out of childhood and you’re wanting to raise a child? That’s certainly not a good idea.

Like lucif said. It’s ok to want children. As most of us know, us as women develop a life and family aspiration much much early than boys do. We have our whole dream wedding dreamt up and imagined by the age of seven. We’re playing mommies and babies as early as 5. But to talk about something like this seriously at your age is extremely dangerous. For you, and for said child.

Please, for now just have the desire to want kids in the future, don’t make any descions. You WILL regret it, believe me.

Don’t lose your childhood caring for a child! I know at 14 you’re not a little kid but you will miss out on all the great teenage and 20-something fun you can have before children. If you adopted a baby now when you are 30 it will only be 16! There will be a time for you to adopt; when you have a partner to raise a child with and a stable home and income. Your time to be a mom will come! Enjoy your time as a 14 year old.

ohkay. thanks everybody. :)

I don’t think it’s a bad thing that you love kids. Kid’s are great, I love them too. You are way too young to want to have one of your own though. There really isn’t a rush, enjoy being young before you have a young one of your own. Take care of your responsibilities that you have as a 14 year old right now. You will have plenty of time to have adult responsibilities in the future. As you had said, you are 14, so how would you expect to financialy take care of a child? I don’t think you would be able to. So just keep in mind that it’s something that you want in your future. It will probably be that more apreciated if you wait till ur an adult anyways.