Love help: My boyfriend is very good to me. - Help.com

It is understandable that with no friends and family around you that you are slightly insecure. To overcome this you must get out there and find some hobbies and meet new people. You will benefit from this in so many ways, not just that of your relationship.

you are not the most pretty girl in this world ^_^ it aint that bad :D , it means that there is always a girl who is better looking than you , it doesnt mean he will cheat on you for it’s not all about looks now is it ^_^ , you have to really trust your bf that he wont cheat on you there is a difference in saying i trust my bf and really trusting him, words are easy, action speaks louder than words tho…

do yoga or something :P if you cant keep ur mind off thinking you either have to get ur mind busy or change your perpective, the second one is harder than it sounds :D lol

We’re in the same boat Katie. We’ve got to get out and find some hobbies and make new friends. What are we waiting for?

I think it’s natural to feel that way; I do any my man would never cheat on me. Just try not to let it seep into your relationship. When you feel some “crazy” coming on remind yourself that it is irrational and don’t say anything. He doesn’t need to know.

it doesnt matter if he is good looking or bad looking , if he is going to cheat he is going to cheat , it doesnt matter if he is social or not … cant you see ?

I went through this same thing. It’s like..you trust him completely, but you don’t trust the people around him. Several of his friends that are girls confessed their love to him because he is so kind and amazing..and a great listener too…I started out pretty insecure about all that. But then I had to remind myself (when I got those bad feelings) that I’m the one he chose to actually be his g/f…nobody else. He wouldn’t have done that if he wanted anyone else. It took awhile, but I got alot better about that. I started painting, actually. Also, jogging is a great way to clear your mind..you get rid of alot of frustrations and think things through while doing something good for your own health.

Katiebug637 wrote:

tricky wrote:
it doesnt matter if he is good looking or bad looking , if he is going to cheat he is going to cheat , it doesnt matter if he is social or not … cant you see ?

Yes i can see that, and if he cheats on me then he doesnt deserve me and i can move on. I feel much much more better seeing it in writing..

the world is endless so chill try to seperate your happiness on this world dont put it all in one person and than be so afraid to loose that person, find the happiness in this world and spread it all around

Katiebug637 wrote:
You look like a handsome confident guy, how are you in the same boat?

deye’in n’side wrote:
We’re in the same boat Katie. We’ve got to get out and find some hobbies and make new friends. What are we waiting for?

Thanks for the compliment but I’m not confident at all. And I don’t have many friends either and I get the jealous bug too. It’s hard being home alone while your lover is out having fun. But it’s time to make some friends. Don’t ask me how…

I know it’s hard to keep it inside but give it a shot sometime. Resist at all costs to say anything! Come up with an excuse to leave home for a while if you have to. Or, if he is an understanding guy, tell him how you know your jealousy isn’t necessary and that you are trying not to make him suffer. He might cut you some slack. You could also go out with your girlfriends when he goes out for a boys night; there’s no need for you to be stuck worrying about it. I’m lucky; I’m a crazy jealous person but so is my boyfriend so we understand what the other is going through!

kitt e wrote:
I went through this same thing. It’s like..you trust him completely, but you don’t trust the people around him. Several of his friends that are girls confessed their love to him because he is so kind and amazing..and a great listener too…I started out pretty insecure about all that. But then I had to remind myself (when I got those bad feelings) that I’m the one he chose to actually be his g/f…nobody else. He wouldn’t have done that if he wanted anyone else. It took awhile, but I got alot better about that. I started painting, actually. Also, jogging is a great way to clear your mind..you get rid of alot of frustrations and think things through while doing something good for your own health.

Wow that would be hard with girls saying how great he is! I don’t know if I could deal with that! Get this- my hairdresser told me that at her wedding her now husband’s best friend (a girl) confessed her undying love to him and tried to get him to call it off. He didn’t, obviously, but what a disaster!

veg_head wrote:

kitt e wrote:
I went through this same thing. It’s like..you trust him completely, but you don’t trust the people around him. Several of his friends that are girls confessed their love to him because he is so kind and amazing..and a great listener too…I started out pretty insecure about all that. But then I had to remind myself (when I got those bad feelings) that I’m the one he chose to actually be his g/f…nobody else. He wouldn’t have done that if he wanted anyone else. It took awhile, but I got alot better about that. I started painting, actually. Also, jogging is a great way to clear your mind..you get rid of alot of frustrations and think things through while doing something good for your own health.

Wow that would be hard with girls saying how great he is! I don’t know if I could deal with that! Get this- my hairdresser told me that at her wedding her now husband’s best friend (a girl) confessed her undying love to him and tried to get him to call it off. He didn’t, obviously, but what a disaster!

Yeah, this happened THREE TIMES. All of them right before I came along. He was leaving one job and going to another, and one worked with him, I guess she confessed her love on his last day there..one was his old best friend (before me:) ) and the other I don’t know. But he said he just didn’t feel the same way for them and when he met me he just knew we had to be together. Of course, he doesn’t hang out with those girls after they did that. He offered to continue being friends..but I’m not so sure if he gets how awkward that can be for the girls…just one of them still tries to keep in contact, but she’s backed off ALOT since I came along. At first she didn’t…but I told him how she acted and talked to him made me uncomfortable..and he understood that. Anyways, yeah. It’s not like that anymore! :) Otherwise I’d be crazy girl by now!

Get out and get some hobbies x

Hi Katie, sorry so late.

I think that I can relate to you and to deye’in n’side. I’m not worried so much about being cheated on, but that I am perpetually not good enough for anyone. I’m feel confidant about so many things, my fitness, my intelligence, my class, all kinds of things. But I just can’t convince myself I am good enough to deserve to be with anyone. I just don’t know where I get it from either! Everyone tells me that I’m great. I guess I’m a good guy and all, but no matter what happens I just can’t convince myself. If I was in a relationship, I suppose that I would run the risk of being very jealous also. When I don’t have someone around to distract me I can feel quite horrible, I can somewhat imagine what it must be like for you Katie. Perhaps building our confidence up is what is necessary to help us overcome these things. Maybe that way I would feel more deserving and you would worry less about losing him. Does anyone know some good ways to help build confidence for Katie, deye’in, and I?