Year help: Should parent’s show their support emotionally? - Help.com

The father may be feeling pride, but not showing it because not everyone shows emotion. Especially men.

Yep men are sometimes good at hiding emotions, but me … um yep Id be screaming it from the rooftop probably , but hey that’s just me :P

I don’t think verbal recognition is enough, at all.
‘Actions speak louder than words’ ..if you get my drift. This is true especially for younger kids, I think.

No offence, but I’d hate having parents like that.

Yep I have to say my kids get kisses n hugs just for bringing home a good report card. :-)
mind you I’m a tactile mom anyway. I think if it were me Id have to ask the question,”Are you proud of me Dad ?”

Has your Dad usually been a huggy dad Archie ?

I think it depends on the parent really, if they are often giving random hugs then yes he would, like if Im out with my daughter Ive usually got an arm round her shoulder,hanging onto a belt loop on her jeans, her arm hooked in mine, I think your either tactile or your not, not everyone shows affection in that way some show it just verbally and don’t know how to express it any other way.

I think some men grew up being told that crying or other strong emotion is feminine or weak.

Id say in his own way he’s darned proud of you,he’d be a fool not to be :-) Im proud of you, and your nothing to do with me lol well done you !! ))))) hugs.

Thats very true yoda, some think showing affection in that way is weak, but when it involves their child, they need to get over it, kids need to be shown a hug now and then is good for their esteem.

I think outwardly affectionate parents generally have a better method of raising kids, and are probably closer to them as well.

yodaluv12 wrote:
I think outwardly affectionate parents generally have a better method of raising kids, and are probably closer to them as well.

I agree. 100%.

I have to say Im very close to both of my kids, we talk about anything and everything, I have a house full of teens most days, I wont say we don’t get the occasional problem because we do, but its all a matter of how its handled really, the important thing is we have lots of love and hugs I think as long as you have those , you cant go far wrong :-)

Emotional support from a parent is a valid & vital need but since your an adult this shouldn’t be such an issue

It depends on the culture, age, and gender. Depending on different ages or cultures men grew up in, not a lot of them are emotional—especially in the US. This doesn’t make it right, but you could always talk to him, let him know how you feel.

I don’t think verbal recognition is enough from a parent. Some people do not like to show emotions but I prefer to let my daughters know how I feel about what they have done to provide them with a feeling of doing something well, “I am proud of you” accompanied by a smile and a hug always feels better than “I’m proud of you” than going back to the newspaper. Everybody needs proper praise and reassurance no matter what age or gender they are.

As mentioned by others, men don’t always show the emotion women do. Pride runs deep in a man however, and to have him say that means something. If you keep your ears open, the true test would be is he bragging about you to others :)

Now to the question should a parent allow emotional support? Of course. It’s sad when they cannot (or chose not) but I think it’s important. I agree with Times… it’s something that can be and should be discussed.

Bright blessings ~ Richard