happiness help: Why can’t I be happy to be single?

rai

Why can’t I be happy to be single?

I get very lonely being on my own. Any tips on how to cope with being single and how to just be happy to be alone? I can’t stand it. Not because I think I need someone else to define me, but because I hate to be alone.

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mihrei 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (3 minutes after post)

most of us feel the same way, but as the saying goes ur never truely happy with some1 until u r truely happy being alone.

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Anonymous #
1 year ago (10 minutes after post)

Get a dog or a cat. I have always preferred being by myself. I don’t have to cook if I don’t feel like it, or do the dishes, or laundry or any thing else. On the other hand, when you do clean the house it stays much cleaner longer. I have tried marriage a few times and just don’t think I’m the marring kind. I can come and go as I please. You have to like who you are.

alcove87 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (16 minutes after post)

I know how you feel, I haven’t had a boyfriend in a while and now I’m starting to think it’s because there’s something wrong with me or something. It makes me think I wasn’t meant to find Mr. Right.

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littlenick 143 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (20 minutes after post)

How old are you?

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rai 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (21 minutes after post)

littlenick 143 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (22 minutes after post)

You’re way too young to feel like that. When was the last time you had a long term relationship?

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rai 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (26 minutes after post)

My boyfriend dumped me a little over a month ago. We were together for 2 and a half years. I guess I just need to get used to being on my own, but it’s not nice. I like company and I like being there for someone else.

littlenick 143 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (27 minutes after post)

If you don’t mind my asking, you don’t have to answer, why did you guys break up?

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mihrei 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (28 minutes after post)

my gf dumped me recently 2 so i know wha u r going thro

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WillaTree 26 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (28 minutes after post)

Way too young to feel alone (littlenick)???? I think some people, like myself, find great solace being in couplehoodum. I can’t stand being alone, although I grew up as an only child and should be used to it! I at least am content with being alone…wouldn’t say happy.

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rai 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (29 minutes after post)

He dumped me because he was fed up with me and our relationship. He agreed to move in with me and then two days before we were due to move into the flat, he left.

littlenick 143 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (31 minutes after post)

I’m just saying, there’s plenty of time to find somebody else. Don’t be hasty about meeting somebody else. Now is when you have to give yourself options. Meet different people. Now that you are single, is like going to a buffet and deciding what food to eat. The same goes for being single. You have a choice of men and who you want to go out with and be with. Enjoy being single for a while. Don’t rush into another relationship right away.

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rai 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (36 minutes after post)

I agree with you littlenick. I don’t want to just see someone on the rebound. It just sucks to have a complete lack of company :(

SlightlyUnique 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (39 minutes after post)

ye - but its necessary - and soon enough you will be fine - the best way is to spend time with freinds and familly - it makes things easier!

Elahayethryn 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 18 minutes after post)

The best thing to do is to form a strong support network with the friends and family available to you. A romantic partner isn’t the only cure for lonliness!

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rai 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

Yeah. I do spend a lot more time with friends (family…I’m pretty much estranged from them) but it’s at times like this in the wee hours of the morning that I wish there was someone here with me.

Elahayethryn 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 hour, 23 minutes after post)

That makes sense and I empathize, but literally and metaphorically speaking, pick yourself up, go get a bagel and coffee- and hey you never know who you’ll meet : )

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gotanychyp #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (7 months, 3 weeks after post)

Gah my life sucks

I’m 19 and I don’t or never had anyone. I know that is completely abnormal. I need to find someone. i’m desperate and lonely.

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