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Can I be in love with a boy I’ve never even met face to face?

And do you think I’m too young to even be in love?

Ok, so i know it was a retarded idea and stuff, but last year especially I was really lonely because school was going bad and my best friend had moved away a year or so ago and stuff, so I started playing online multiplayer games where you can talk to random people and stuff. Which is weird, because I’ve never been the type of person to meet people online, let alone start more than jjst a friendship with them.

I met this guy on one of them, and he randomly asked me to go out with him online. It was what alot of other people on the site I was on were doing. I know it was dumb, to date someone onlinee who could be some weird 60 year old pervert, but I was just like ‘oh, ok, that sounds fun’…

So, we were ‘going out’ for, like, two months and I really liked talking to him and fooling around with him and whatever, but apparently some part of me was still sane because I didn’t want to take our relationship beyon the site. Like, I wouldn’t give him my email or anything, although now I give out my email to alot of people.

But then one day I left the site because I thought he was ‘cheating’ on me with another girl on there, and yeah…

But now I still think about him, like, a lot. Thinking about how nice it would be to talk to him again. Although I don’t even remember a lot of our conversations, except for the important ones. I keep feeling really weird about him, like I still really like him, or even love him. But honestly I don’t see how I could really be in love with someone I had never even met. Especially since met him around the time when I turned twelve, so technically I was still eleven (and a lot more innocent)for part of the time I knew him. Things have changed a lot since then. I don’t even know how the person I was only a year or so ago could’ve gotten into this relationship. Especially since he was nearly fifteen.

So I guess what I’m asking is will this feeling ever go away? It was just some stupid relationship when I was really too young for a relationship, right? So why do I keep thinking about him? Do you think I’m actually in love with him, or in love with the idea of actually being in love with someone and them actually loving me back?

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Step666 offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (1 minute after post)

You were 11 at the time?
How old are you now?

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Can I be in love with a boy I’ve never even met face to face?

Ok, so i know it was a retarded idea and stuff, but last year especially I was really lonely because school was going bad and my best friend had moved away a year or so ago and stuff, so I started playing online multiplayer games where you can talk to random people and stuff. Which is weird, because I’ve never been the type of person to meet people online, let alone start more than jjst a friendship with them.

I met this guy on one of them, and he randomly asked me to go out with him online. It was what alot of other people on the site I was on were doing. I know it was dumb, to date someone onlinee who could be some weird 60 year old pervert, but I was just like ‘oh, ok, that sounds fun’…

So, we were ‘going out’ for, like, two months and I really liked talking to him and fooling around with him and whatever, but apparently some part of me was still sane because I didn’t want to take our relationship beyon the site. Like, I wouldn’t give him my email or anything, although now I give out my email to alot of people.

But then one day I left the site because I thought he was ‘cheating’ on me with another girl on there, and yeah…

But now I still think about him, like, a lot. Thinking about how nice it would be to talk to him again. Although I don’t even remember a lot of our conversations, except for the important ones. I keep feeling really weird about him, like I still really like him, or even love him. But honestly I don’t see how I could really be in love with someone I had never even met. Especially since met him around the time when I turned twelve, so technically I was still eleven (and a lot more innocent)for part of the time I knew him. Things have changed a lot since then. I don’t even know how the person I was only a year or so ago could’ve gotten into this relationship. Especially since he was nearly fifteen.

So I guess what I’m asking is will this feeling ever go away? It was just some stupid relationship when I was really too young for a relationship, right? So why do I keep thinking about him? Do you think I’m actually in love with him, or in love with the idea of actually being in love with someone and them actually loving me back?

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Kangerlussuaq, 01, GL | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

You’re in love with the idea of having someone to love. You don’t know this guy. I’d say stick to real-life relationships in your teen years!

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (11 minutes after post)

love with the idea of actually being in love with someone and them actually loving me back.. bingo answered your own question, and yes it will go away, don’t worry and if it is love, you don’t love once and thats it, you will love many times in your life, each time special and individual, so don’t worry about it.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (51 minutes after post)

okay. lol actually I had a situation like this once when I was about your age.

I met someone on a internet chat room and I would talk to him almost everyday on AIM messenger. I really liked him and we started to talk as if we had feelings for him..we would talk on the phone ect. I thought I “loved” him and the relationship actually got really weird like he would tell me he was in a ‘gang’ and I remember one night while I was talking to him he made this HUGE thing up like he started talking like someone else and the person was like “I have him and im going to kill him and your going to have to pick where he gets shot!” it was really weird..but anyway we talked for almost 2 years and then I kinda just realized this is so lame..So I blocked him off everything, changed my number. At the time I thought it was neat to have met someone I liked but then after the years and as I matured I realized it was kinda creepy and he lied ALOT about stuff so I ended it when I was 14.

Anyway!! I do think your way to young to be meeting someone online. Its just not safe especially at your age.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (3 days, 16 hours after post)

To fall in love with a person you never met face to face is possible. When there’s the chemistry between you and him, it can happen but to me what you’re feeling is not really love. You feel like you miss him because you don’t find anyone else who’s interesting to talk to. Over time, the feelings will go away when you found someone new in your real life. I think he’s the first guy you’re close with and that is why you feel that way towards him.

You’re still very young. At this age, enjoy your life. Love will come to you.

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