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If you feel that way I’d say the meds aren’t working. Can you talk to your doc?

You could talk to us.

start at the beggining

Do you have any religious or spiritual beliefs? I would try praying…pray to your spirit guides, Jesus, Buddha, whoever you feel is watching over you…then talk to your dr.

Listen, its not you , dont make your family apart of you, im not saying that you shouldnt care about them just stop listening to them . and you are feeling an emotion , you are feeling confused. you want to pick the pieces of your life and put them back together right? then first thing is first YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE !
Repeat it to yur self to get it into your head I AM NOT A FAILURE I AM NOT A FAILURE keep on saying it !’
Try getting a job so you can support yur self and then maybe move out?

First off i’m sorry, its hard when you just feel like you can’t do anything and you have alot of weight on your shoulders from your family. but you can’t fail at everything possible. its impossible to do so.
I’ve been in that no emotion state. it sucks, alot. but theres got to be something in this world that will make you happy. all you have to do is find it. it takes time but if you stick through you can find it. whether its some kind of medication or something natural. The numbness will disapear eventually. Time is a real b**** but just keep going it will get better. Just don’t let your family bring you down like that, you can do so much good in life it’s just people like that who bring people down.

Your situation will improve eventually. When you graduate you can get a job and a place of your own. Family stress can be hard, but it won’t last forever.

i know ow that feels. you just gotta stay but. hold those thoughts still! i knows its sooo hard but you can do it. you mind is very powerful, just focus that power on something positive and work to make your life better. if you don’t work your life won’t get better. so you just have to take it one step at a time and try and keep telling yourself you can make it because you can

Once you graduate, you’ll be able to work more and get a place of your own.

What I use to do was stay away from home as much as possible. I would study at the library. When at home I would stay in my room with the door closed. I also cleaned and organized my room so I would have a little safe haven just the way I liked it. One of the few things I could control in my life back then…

you should try to capture a little bit of that feeling that kids have
namely “they have not a care in the world.”
They are free in a sense to just be silly whenever they like.
Don’t do things because you think you have to,but try to do things for the joy of it.

Every being has to live its share of pain. We suffer when we resist taking the daily dose of pain. Our daily resistance to pain postpones the moment of reckoning until we do not have sufficient strength to resist, than the pain will come back in a big chunk as a catastrophe. Good people suffer when they forget to pay the wages to live everyday.
Every breadth we take is on a loan which has to be paid. The good man is deluded into thinking that his goodness will fetch him a free lunch. The bad man is always guilty of his badness and try’s to compensate by selling his pain to others.

Our happiness is relative to how much happiness we give others. If you want to be happy give happiness to others. Take the pain of others so that you earn the right to happiness

That sucks a lot! Can you get a key lock for your door? Buy it, install it yourself when everyone is away. You should be able to have your privacy.

hang onto the thought that you will soon be liberated.
And you will.
Evereyone succeeds eventually.

May I ask what your first name is ?

Wow! Is there anywhere else you can go? Perhaps you are being emotionally and verbally abused. Living in an unfinished basement with only a blanket for a door sounds like neglect to me. Perhaps talk to a school counselor about it. Or call child welfare. A foster home would likely be better than your current situation.

Have you talked to the counselor at your school?

# The name of “Amanda” has given you an appreciation for many beautiful and refined aspects of life–music and art, literature, drama–and the outdoors, where you find much peace and relaxation, but it creates a far too sensitive nature.

# You sense and feel much that you do not understand, and sometimes you are alarmed at your thoughts and wonder about their origin.

# You rarely experience the tranquility that comes with stability of thinking or emotional control.

# At times, you are very inspired, desiring to be with people and to entertain others as the “life of the party,” while at other times you are aloof and choose to remove yourself entirely from association.

# You crave understanding and affection but your intensity of desire and your self-consciousness prevent you from finding the happiness you desire.

# You have suffered many disappointments and misunderstandings because of your inability to express your inner thoughts.

# You could experience sensitivity in the heart, lungs, or bronchial organs, causing tuberculosis, asthma, or depletion of your energies.

Tell your therapist about you’re living condition and family situation and see if she can suggest anything.

Seriously, they need to respect your privacy. Your therapist should tell them that. I couldn’t live that way.

gypsy-corner wrote:

spiratec9 wrote:
# The name of “Amanda” has given you an appreciation for many beautiful and refined aspects of life–music and art, literature, drama–and the outdoors, where you find much peace and relaxation, but it creates a far too sensitive nature.

# You sense and feel much that you do not understand, and sometimes you are alarmed at your thoughts and wonder about their origin.

# You rarely experience the tranquility that comes with stability of thinking or emotional control.

# At times, you are very inspired, desiring to be with people and to entertain others as the “life of the party,” while at other times you are aloof and choose to remove yourself entirely from association.

# You crave understanding and affection but your intensity of desire and your self-consciousness prevent you from finding the happiness you desire.

# You have suffered many disappointments and misunderstandings because of your inability to express your inner thoughts.

# You could experience sensitivity in the heart, lungs, or bronchial organs, causing tuberculosis, asthma, or depletion of your energies.

Got me almost to a T!

you might consider changing your name it can improve you life
dramatically
please see:

http://www.kabalarians.com/index.cfm

type in a name you interested in

What?!

You need a better environment. I suggest you tell your therapist how bad it really is. Who wouldn’t feel depressed living in a basement with only a blanket for a door?!

Your home environment sounds like it is really contributing to your depression. IDK either.

You need to talk about these things with someone closer to your situation.

no, its not crazy.its unhealthy in all ways though and your health should be top priority. YOu say you fall 3 steps back.as with any addiction, its about the steps, the decisions, every time you choose NOt to cut it may not seem like it but you are becoming stronger and stronger.Put it off, do other things, confront the people and situations, tell them your secrets, getting things out in the open.Keep your eyes on your goals and stay in therapy.this is just off the top of my head,you have many options so keep talking, browsing some of the posts on the subject may help too, focusing more on the replies rather than the posters replies.Maybe my posts will help too.I have some on feelings related to cutting. And give some serious thought to talking to someone close you can be open with and trust. we will be here for you too {{HUGS}}

Keep telling yourself this is temporary, it will pass. , things change all the time. Write down your goals if you already havent and read them when your down.take one day at a time and dont give up.your overwhelmed and stressed which is normal for whats going on but when you deal with them one at a time and put them in priority weeding out the small things or the things you cannot change the stress will decrease.

trying to change thing is the ‘wanting the cake and eat it too.If something doesnt work its time to do something different.’Maybe the following will help.;;The things we watch, what we think and how we spend our time are the
“secret places” Satan can and will use against us. Yet often we continue
in our secrecy, afraid to reach for Truth. /Why?/

Secret places seem safe. Secret places are familiar. Secret places feel
comfortable to us. So we cling to them.

It’s not that we don’t want to be honest and get real about the secret
places in our soul. It’s just sometimes easier to keep the truth hidden
than it is to get real about things from the inside-out. Though most of
us crave authenticity, our fears of being “found out” are what keep us
living in secret, exactly where Satan wants us to stay. The crafty,
conniving one knows that if he can get us to continue to bury our secret
places deep within our heart, we can’t be effective for God. He knows
that thoughts of our private sins will eventually eat away at us,
causing us to feel fraudulent and unworthy of the love and acceptance of
others, and most of all, our Heavenly Father. But the truth is, we are
the ones who don’t love and accept ourselves. Not God.

When we no longer hide in our “secret places,” we can venture down a
different path of greater authenticity and truth, bringing us to a place
of ultimate and lasting freedom. And it is in freedom that we find no
value in being a secret keeper any more.

suggested prayer;
Lord Jesus,Please give me strength to do what is right and just. thank You for knowing me completely, and loving me in spite of my short comings.
Amen