Love help: Ok so i did something stupid,i told one of my friends how i really feel about them. - Help.com

first of/f are you male or female?

really wow,,,you legend you………may i ask how it went wrong?

ok so how did you do it…?

no, not really, you did the right thing in expressing your true feelings. just give him time, don’t apologise for what you done, because then your lying to yourself. tell him that you want more for the both of you, but you want his companionship as a friend. but dont be pushy,,,tell him by talking to him, not by email or text.

You straight out told him you love him?

well good for you if you did,,,,its about time some one on here did!!

oh that might be the problem right there……trying to describe love to a male friend,,,might have been to deep. sometimes we get scared. instead you might of told him how you feel without using the l word.

Maybe something changed.
Not trying to get too personal here (I’m just trying to figure it out) what did he say before you said you loved him?

Yes, the “L” word is a big deal.
If I were in this situation ..and a guy said the L word, I would be freaked out.

there is one easy way to find out how he truly feels about you…….if you fnd yourself on your own with him,,,,you have already done the hard part,,,,so why not just kiss him??!!! he will either engage with it, or try and push you away?!

maybe he’s just in shock and needs some time for it all to sink in

He wanted to make a life with you?!

do you have his number? if so would he meet up with you if you asked him to?

Yeah, I understand. :/
I just don’t quite understand why he would say all that ..especially since you aren’t together yet.
May I ask how old you both are?

if he cant accept how you feel he isnt a true friend. would u really want to go out with someone like that? either that or hes embarrassed or flattered or something like that.

ur worth more than some guy whos going to ignore you. u did the right thing telling him how u feel, well nothing wrong. if he cant deal with it, his problem.

I say just give him time to let things sink in. Once you do talk to him, let him bring the subject up. See where it goes from there.
Obviously, if he doesn’t bring it up for awhile, you should politely ask what the deal is..

Wow, this is confusing. So he said the “L” word to you and then a couple months later when you described your love and feelings for him he freaked out? Maybe after he told you he loved you and those months went by without you saying how you felt he figured you didn’t feel the same about him? And then when you told him now, he was shocked.

I admire you for your courage to tell your friend how you feel. I wish I could do that. I am absolutley in love with my friend from school and I wish so much I could tell him… I really admire you. I know this doesn’t answer your question but…

I would suggest to give him some time. Don’t contact him, let him come to you. If he cares about you, he will. And if he doesn’t…well, he wasn’t such a catch after all. Good riddance!