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Im anorexic.

After a year of wishing i had it, admiring the willpower, dreaming about the looks. I got what i deserved. I got the desease that starts out by giving you everything you wanted, looks, happines, beauty. But i now know that anorexia is two faced, it draws you into it and the more weight you lose, the more it grasps hold of you untill there’s no way out. It turns your own brain against you untill all you can hear is the voice, that voice that i KNOW is corrupt,i KNOW will hurt me. But now its all i have, Its all i can hear and its the only thing i care about. I have become anorexia.

Before this started i was 5ft 7 and 10st 6. BMI 23. fat.
This is the reason anorexia could affect me so strongly, because ihad the SUPPORT of my family and my friends. I was overweight to start with so everyone though me losing weight was a really good thing. Untill i took it too far.

Im now 5ft 8 and 8st 4. BMI 17.1. Anorexic.
Im not trying to say im a really dramatic case, i know i am still not THAT underweight, and i dont think i look or am anorexic at all. but i started getting help a month ago and since then have lost 4.6 kilo’s and last week i fell into the anorexic catagory. I don’t believe it. I still have a long way to go. alot more weight to lose. But their taking it away from me bit by bit, their trying to help me but all its doing is making the anorexic voice stronger and stronger as they slowly take away all my control, they also take away the part of my brain that was still me. the old me. And by doing this the basically are throwing me up into the air and its just a matter of chance as to who catches me. Them or anorexia.

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kyleschwent offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (0 minutes after post)

go eat some taco bell. probem solved.

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Xeno Dragon offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 73 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (3 minutes after post)

Eat food.

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kyleschwent offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (4 minutes after post)

ha, yeah. u dont even have to bother reading the whole post for this. Anorexic? eat food. next question!

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JesusMurphy offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (7 minutes after post)

Anorexia or suicide. Choose.
Either die right now or slowly, painfully, later.

Or,

Get help.

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ƒ∂ƖƖεи tears offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (9 minutes after post)

lol. my friend would say poetry. anyways….
i couldnt find the question.
anorexia is more mind over body. you have to will yourself to eat. not junk food coz your metabolism is broken and you will start gaining again. eat a healthy breakfast at least. your favourite fruit or something. even the smallest bit. if you cant will yourself. FORCE yourself.
if you find you cant force yourself to eat no matter what you try you need some serious help before you end up in hospital with sugar getting pumped into your blood

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ร๏๓ƹฬђƹг offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 125 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (12 minutes after post)

Hi there…dont worry abt these things so much!!!
Just stay calm and think about solution. All the problem has some solutions.
So just thing wht u can do.
There are lots of ways to solve.
So dont get tensed or think somethin’ else

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ร๏๓ƹฬђƹг offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 125 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (19 minutes after post)

hey…..if you have problem inside..just try talking with someone with your friends or anyone else.
Just let it out!!
Its u r mind, try to solve and change it.

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rai offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 hours, 55 minutes after post)

You’ve done the hardest thing already: admitting that you have a problem. Now, make an appointment with your doctor and get this thing under control before it gets any worse. Otherwise your life will be miserable.

Also, don’t go by BMI. I’m 5′ 8″ and I weigh 11 stone 6, giving me a BMI of 24.1. According to you, this would be fat. But I weigh so much because I’m a cyclist and a runner and I work out a lot — it’s all muscle.

And as a fyi if you do go by BMI, the range between 18.5 and 25 is normal weight.

Cudos to you for recognising that anorexia could have you in its grip. Don’t let it take over and get help!!

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Vjj offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (6 hours, 31 minutes after post)

When I was fourteen / fifteen I went through what you went through. I’m now almost seventeen and I’m better. I’ll give you a run down and if anything strikes you as something you want to find out about then just let me know. I’d really love to help you, because I know this is so hard and horrible, and no one deserves it. If you find this boring and think I’m babbling on, don’t worry XD

I have never been fat. When it started, I was nearly eight stone and five foot four. Skinny. Never dieted in my life.

I was fourteen when I got ill. Just a normal illness. No reason, I just woke up one morning and threw up. I’d not eaten so I retched stomach acid and burnt my nose and throat. It was horrible. After that I tried eating but all my food immediately came back up. My stomach was so unsettled I’d be sick four, five times in a row. I spent a lot of the day watching TV. An advert for some fast food place came on and just watching a person eat a burger made me start to be sick again. I felt so weak and helpless.
I hated food.

I refused to eat for the next eight days. I wasn’t sick anymore. I put the two together. Not eating = feeling okay. That’s not the kind of thing I would say. It was almost like there was a voice in my head, telling me food was the enemy. Not eating was the answer.

So for the next couple of months I didn’t eat. My parents asked me why; I said I still felt bad from when I was ill. They took me to the doctor. The doctor gave me pills. I took them anyway, even though I’d been lying about still feeling ill. I just didn’t care about my body anymore: a pill wasn’t food but it was edible. Maybe I was ‘allowed’ to eat it.

This started in October.. In January I collapsed in class at school. When I was carried to the medical room people started to notice how light I was. I got interrogated when I woke up, getting asked again and again why I was so thin. I said was ill. I said I was taking medication for it. My mum picked me up and took me home. I didn’t go back to school for a long time. I got referred to hospital.

Hospital did nothing. They couldn’t find out why anything was wrong with me. I told them I still felt ill and eating made it worse. I didn’t say I didn’t want to eat. I wasn’t hiding from what I was really doing in my head, but I didn’t want to admit the truth to anyone. That made it real.
You’re so strong to be able to see what you’re doing and admit it.

Being checked up on and spending all day doing nothing at home made it wore at first. It was like a competition, to see how skinny I *could* get it I tried. It had never been about losing weight at first, it had been about not eating = feeling okay. But my mind had become twisted towards weight loss. This is four months later. I was five foot four and a half, according to the hospital. According to the hospital, I was six and a half stone. According to me, I just wasn’t skinny enough. According to me, I ate two crackers at tea time and that was too much.

I only found out a couple of weeks ago when casually talking to my mum, but if I’d lost two more kilograms I would have been hospitalised. I would have been put on drip to be force fed and sent to a psychiatrist. Just two more kilograms.

*continued*

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Vjj offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (6 hours, 32 minutes after post)

But then one night, when it was all getting too much, and I started to realise how screwed up I was becoming and how much I missed my old, healthy life, I locked myself in the bathroom with a bottle of bleach. I intended to drink it. I never did. I also started to realise that I was anorexic, ANOREXIC. I started to realise this wasn’t my doing, it was an illness. I it was an illness I could get better. I admitted something was wrong and started trying to make it right.

It was hard to eat at first, really hard. My stomach had shrunk and I just couldn’t take a lot of food without being sick. And I was so scared of being sick now. If I ever was I’d cry and have panic attacks. Being sick was my greatest fear. I was ill recently, just with a cold, but because everything tasted like cardboard I kinda stopped bothering with eating when I didn’t need to. First just snacks, then breakfast, then just eating one meal a day.. It reminded of just how hard it had been to start eating again all those months ago. I’ve been walking around with a rumbling stomach, with a small voice telling me it’s ‘cleansing’ to be hungry. Then I’d sink my teeth into some fast food and instinct would tell me how much better it was to be satisfied. We’re meant to eat, and that desire will eventually help you beat this. It’s good to eat.

If I had to give you any advice, like if I could go back and tell myself what not to do, I’d say this: Don’t read books, magazines or websites about other anorexics. Don’t watch documentaries. Don’t take note of everyone else’s weight and height and age… Don’t compare yourself. There’s only two things this does. If you’re ‘better’ than the person you’re comparing yourself to you feel proud of what you’ve done. If you’re ‘worse’, then you want to try even harder to be skinny. Neither of these are good.

I hope and pray you’ll get better.

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lollipop offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
GB | 1 year ago (2 days, 3 hours after post)

I’m the same as you were. They say my stomach has shrunk and i can only have very small amounts of food, but i have already started to see a phyciatrist and dietician and they have put me on an eating plan. It seams like so much food and i can barely handle it. I spend all my time feeling full, bloated and sick and i feel like i can’t do it anymore.
I also have the voice in my head telling me not to eat and i can feel it getting stronger and louder. Now its pretty much all i can hear and i cant ignore it. Im also 15.
What you said about not reading magazines or blogs or watching documentaries is really good because i do that alot at the moment, so now i know it might help i will try to stop. Also i will try to stop comparing myself to others i do it ALL the time. Im constantly assesing others and seeing myself compared to them.

Thank you so much for your help, i really need it and youve given me new hope that i can do this.

Thanks xxxxx

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Vjj offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 days, 3 hours after post)

It’s a pleasure, I know how horrible all this is and understanding the pain makes it even worse to see other people go through it. If you ever need someone to chat to just get in touch :)
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Vjj offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 days, 3 hours after post)

Fyi I don’t ‘get’ this site XD if you wanna talk I have myspace?
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lollipop offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
GB | 1 year ago (2 days, 5 hours after post)

i dont :( facebook?

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Vjj offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 days, 9 hours after post)

Ah no! Facebook is my nemesis. Haha.
Okay, is there any way this site does private messages?
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Xeno Dragon offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 73 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (2 days, 9 hours after post)

Shouts aren’t private, but no one really reads them. Click the little megaphone next to someone’s name to send them a Shout.

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Vjj offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 days, 9 hours after post)

Crazy stuff. i’m so reading all of yours :|

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Xeno Dragon offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 73 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year ago (2 days, 9 hours after post)

^_^

I don’t mind.

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Vjj offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 days, 10 hours after post)

Haha, half of that didn’t send, the full version sounded less creepy XD
But…
Omg! PersonalPandaParty said fifteen!
Right, I’m gonna quit the spam on this… constructive thoughts! :)

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An Unknown Location | 1 year ago (2 days, 16 hours after post)

I have never actually been anorexic, but when i was in 6th grade i weighed sixty pounds and i was about 5 feet 3 inches.
i hardly ate anything because my stomach was always in pain (this turned out to be chrons, but i didn’t know that then). anyway, everyone thought i was anorexic, and so people tried to make me eat. My parents would take away certain preiveleges unless i ate more. this didn;t help me, like maybe your “help” isn’t helping you, because they all were acting like they knew me. Like they knew what i was going through. and they didn’t and i couldn’t really explain what was going on.
what did help me a little though was not eating the normal three meal a day plan. I ate “snacks” throughout the day, including the three meals my family ate. this might be helpful for you becuase then what you’re doing is just eating good, healthy snacks, so you trick your brain into thinking your not eating because you’re not eating meals, but really you end up eating a lot because of your snacking, so you’ll slowly gain weight. That was probably confusing, but i hope it helps. in the end though, those who try to help, regaurdless of how much they understand, really care for you and want you to get better. trust them, and do your best to get them to understand what you’re going through.

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lollipop offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
GB | 1 year ago (3 days, 6 hours after post)

Thanks that really help, i’d try to o that but my ‘help’ have put be on a 3 meal a day and 2 snacks eating plan and i have to stick to it :(

To Vjj: email me!!!! i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>!

xx Thanks all xx

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lollipop offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
GB | 1 year ago (3 days, 6 hours after post)

oh bum

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