Love help: Do you like your relatives? - Help.com

The only thing you can do, without annoying your entire family, is to be civil.
You don’t have to smile at them, or speak to them.
Go through the motions.

Cant have any of my relations
U know wht they say u can chose friends but not ur relations

i somewhat understand what you’re talking about, i don’t exactly hate my relatives, but just would so much prefer if i don’t have to meet them. then, i just leave the country right after i graduated from high school, but i do feel ‘obligated’ to visit them whenever i came back to my hometown, which luckily only once every two years.
but the fact of the matter is that, they are the sort of people that you must invite to your wedding, whether you want it or not, that’s just ’society norms’ for you.

Woah- back up. We all, at some point or another, feel the same way you do, but before you boldly declare how much you hate your relatives, take a minute to think about these people and why they may act the way they do. Could it be because they are facing struggles in their own lives? Is it something about other relatives that makes them, well, them, in the way you view their personalities? Find out more about these people before you judge them, and you just might end up disliking them a little less. After all, you are a part of them, and you can’t change that. Everyone in your family has a unique history (Sound familiar? It’s your history too!), so give them a chance to explain it. No one deserves to be hated, especially your family. And no one is useless.

no

What?

Well, in answer to your first question, I can do without a few of my relatives, and then there’s some I wish were closer to me. For example, my parents, I can do without, but my aunts from my mom’s side (especially my favorite one) I’d gladly give my life for in less than a heartbeat.

In answer to your query. Like, mackie said. Try not to be too quick to judge them unless you know how they tick 100%. Dislike them yes, but hate is a very strong word. So unless your relatives are sick paedophiles or murderers, hate really shouldn’t be a word used.

set boundaries if they evr come to ask you for something. tell them how you feel letting them know they are having a negative affect because they probably do love you and don’t relise the consequences of their action. my father was the middle out of 5 (one is mentally ill, 2 druggies, the other idk anymore) he supported them his mother, his nephew and us: me my mom and my two older sisters. when he died they expected my mother to keep supporting them and bailing them out but my mom couldn’t do it so they bankrupt my grandmother twice because she cant say no. you have to stand ground i personally have no respect for them and feel for my grandmother but i had to seperate my self because watching them was hurting me

thanks for your replies. it made me realize that i am not the only unlucky one in terms of relatives. i guess i just have to be civil with them. yes, hate could be a strong word. maybe i would just dislike them. after all, disrespecting/ fighting them would only cause disappointment and hurt to my dear mother. this weekend it will be my mother’s birthday party. i don’t really like to see some of my user-friendly relatives, but what can i do. my mother wants them to be in complete attendance and is happy with them. who am i to prevent her happiness. i might not just talk to some of them/ ignore some. but i will attend it. i deserve to be there. it is my mother’s party.

have fun and happy birthday to your mother.

thanks buddy!

It sounds to me like you’re taking the more responsible approach to this. I commend you. :)

If it all gets too much for you during the party, perhaps go outside for a few minutes for a breather. I know what it’s like to have overbearing families sometimes. My family is all mixed with different ethnicities and backgrounds, German, Dutch, and Italian, are the most prominent. So you can imagine how loud it is when they all get together and someone starts complaining or whining. They all jump in, and our conversations and debates start where a normal family’s arguments would finish. It can get entertaining, but it drives me mad after a while.