the first and utmost important thing to avoid the so called ‘awkwardness’ is that you should just relax! chill! take it easy! be confident and no stuttering or the such.
go up to him and just say something ‘how are you mate?, my name is cdog, aren’t you the guy i met the other day on the bus?’ or just a simple ‘hi’ and take it from there.
just remember, breath and relax. cheers!.
If I shared that story with him somehow, would that be ‘akward’?
like i said mate, it all really very much depends on the ‘how’ you are saying it to him, for example i can say something like ‘i hate you!’ to a friend in a way that he would laugh for it, even when i say ‘no, seriously, i really hate you!’ and they’d just laugh up even more, and on the other hand i can say it in another way that would lead us to a fight… do you understand what i’m trying to say?
but basically, i really don’t reckon it would be very awkward…
No, if I literally showed him the paper I wrote, would that be awkward?
on the first time you come up to him?, yes, that would definitely be very awkward, at least for me. but, if you just wait, until you both become mates, which i reckon won’t take longer than a week or so, then it wouldn’t be so awkward.
it could somewhat ‘naturally’ come up in one of the casual conversations, something like ‘oh yeah, did you know i made a little paper about our first meeting on the bus?’
hi again there. i’ve just read the whole story, yet i still reckon it wouldn’t be that awkward, so there you go, you really should just talk to him. im just curious though, all this nervousness of yours got me wondering, are you actually have sort of a feeling for him? and im not actually saying you shouldn’t here, and it’s definitely none of my business, thus feel free to refuse to answer, ok?. good luck. cheers!.
sure thing mate. like, the sort of feeling you want to be ‘more than friends’ maybe? and just to clarify further, i certainly didn’t get such impression from your story
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Though, now that you mention it, I did have this conversation online with him and I’m wondering now if I’m sending off some kind of ‘more than just friends’ vibe:
ME:why were you whispering my name in class yesterday? and what’s with the ‘double thumbs up’?
be honest, i won’t be offended. and please don’t say anything about this. I won’t bug you anymore.
HIM:it was a joke im not gay haha u thot i was gay i thought ud no i joke around alot by now
ME:no, I never thought you were gay, i thought you were making fun of me. why would i think you were gay? i thought you were trying to pretend to be my friend in front of your real friends and make a fool out of me. why, were you pretending to be gay?
HIM:no what? whatever im relly confused
im sorry i did that but i do it 2 everyone it wont happen again tho
sorry
ME:you don’t have to apologize, i should have just ended the conversation after you said that. i was second guessing your intentions when i shouldn’t have, so it’s my fault. keep being yourself and forget i asked anything. have a good freshman year.
Should I reiterate that? Do I come across as ‘too interested’?
ah, i should’ve figured that one out already…
your writing was great btw, i’m no great literary critic, but i enjoyed reading your story. i reckon you should keep doing it, you have a talent there.
now, the idea is, the more you fuzz about it, the more you are showing that you are ‘too interested’, therefore if you said anything further about it (reiterate, nice word btw) the more you are fussing about it… got my point?
because you see, to be honest, i just thought that like if one always has to justify and explaining themselves overly that they are not gay, most of the time, they turns out to be gay… whilst the rest of us, the thought of it was just did not even occurred in our minds to even question it, know what i mean?
once, i had a friend, he was a friend of another friend at first, i just got to know him accidentally on the mall. from time to time, he hang out with me and my friends more often, and from my friends who knew him longer than me, they always called him stuff like he’s gay and such.
at this point, i just thought it was merely a silly goofing off, just a joke, he’s fun to tease anyway. he even got a girlfriend to boot. turns out, we have more than one thing in common, than we just hang out more, to the movies, his garage and so on. i even ask him outright once, just to tease him actually, and again he denied it very much, we had a laugh after. until one day, in all seriousness, maybe because i was leaving to study abroad, in all seriousness, he asked me to go into bed with him, he was sh*tting me of course i thought, but then he was being persistent, and keep on insisting on doing it very soon… then, he sort of admit it, the whole thing i mean… to my utter surprise, outright gay he was…
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