friends help: I’m really upset right now.. - Help.com

They best thing to do, or at least, what I would do, would be to confront him about it. Tell him EXACTLY how you feel about his hurtful behavior via telephone or to his face. He may be going through rough times and need your support (partying and drinking is a way that some people deal with things). But if he won’t listen to what you have to say, you’ll have to end this hurtful relationship. If he doesn’t put in any effort, he’s not worth it.

Hello,
I agree with above replies, you should talk to your friend about how you feel, and find out how he truly feels about you, maybe as anongirl said he is going through hard times, or maybe he is being threatened not to see you, I don’t know, but the one thing I do know is that you should talk to him.

Have you tried telling him that this is hurting you to the point of tears? Since he is your friend he probably doesn’t want to hurt you! You should tell him, maybe there is something going on that he’s having a hard time with. I don’t know, just talk to him :)

Ty 33
He was going through a bit of a hard time, his mum threatened to send him away and he started to cut himself again. I got him to stop though cos I said ‘I stopped for you’ and I think he actually realised that I did care about him…
I told him I was there for him whenever he needed me but he really doesn’t like to show any emotion… at all.
I don’t know. I know that it seems like he wouldn’t be worth it but he is worth it to me…
Which is why I keep trying to keep it together…

Wow, it sounds like he has a lot going on with him right now. It sounds like he doesn’t know what to do. He probably doesn’t mean to push you away or hurt you he’s just confused and hurt. You should really sit him down and talk with him. It might be difficult but in the long run it could really help things alot.

True. Thanks.
But, do you have any idea what I should say to him?
And how do I just let go of all the anger and sadness I’ve been feeling lately?
If I’m talking to him, then I don’t want to point out all of the things he’s done and make him feel too bad.
But I’m really bad at forgiving and forgetting.

Try asking him what’s going on in HIS life, first. Then, once you have an understanding of how he feels and where he’s coming from, try telling him how his actions hurt you. Without communication, neither one of you will understand the other.

Anonymous wrote:
True. Thanks.
But, do you have any idea what I should say to him?
And how do I just let go of all the anger and sadness I’ve been feeling lately?
If I’m talking to him, then I don’t want to point out all of the things he’s done and make him feel too bad.
But I’m really bad at forgiving and forgetting.

I really don’t know your relationship that well but a suggestion would be to tell him how much he means to you and ask him whats going on with him. That his actions are hurting you becasue you care so much about him. If you don’t tell him he’ll never know. Commnication is the key honey. You never know until you try! As for the anger and sadness hopefully just talking it over with him can decrease that. Getting it off your chest and resolving these feelings will make you feel better! He’s lucky to have someone that cares so much about him as you do!!!!

It is important that you care about yourself and your feelings. It is not ok, for you to accept someone lying to you or standing you up. This situation allows you to see, how you really value yourself and you can’t develop an effective relationship with anyone until until you appreciate yourself and how you utilize your time. Once you establish this everyone will respect you and will not stand you up.

Barbara

Try to remember that anytime you get angry it has to do with the attempt to contol others.

I hope things work out for you dear! If you ever need to talk we’re here! :) Good luck xoxox

Thankss so much X