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My boyfriend broke up with me

We have had some problems from the begining of our relationship and it didnt really get a chance to move forward…He ended up cheating on me with his ex wich left me obiously very hurt.Within about 3 months i just felt completely useless and ugly…..I ended up leaving him for my sons father due to the fact that i felt unwanted by him.Within a few months from then i realized what a mistake i had made and that i should try and work things out.So i contacted him…Sucked up my pride and told him that i was wrong for walking away.He let me know after a while of torture that he was talking to someone else who lives far away!!Told me to leave him alone and that he never really loved me and to just go away..So after about a week of trying ..Flowers/notes on his car………I took the hint!! I moved on slowly,and found someone else..it was nothing serious as i was still feeling hurt.Just like a rebound..So this girl he now “loved” who he had never met…just a online thing,was comming to see him i had found out..Within 4 days from that he was all calling me and what not…wanting to know what i had been up to…got back together with me for a year now .To make a long story short he has now left me…tottally unexpected while i was very sick in and out of hospitals,telling me that things i did while we werent together still bother him and he cant get over it…Really a blow to me as i thought our relationship was better than ever? So now i have asked him to just leave me alone…yet he still sends msgs tells me he loves me…but dosnt want me…I feel like this is my fault but i dont know why.He continues to mess with my head.Oh and also says not to move on right away cause he might change his mind..He leaves me hangin on when i dont want to be ..its affecting every part of me…please any advise please….Btw this all in all has been just over three years!!

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Junaid offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Eastbourne, E2, GB | 12 months ago (8 minutes after post)

You can do so much better than him, cheaters are one of the worst types of devils who go around breaking peoples hearts.

Move on and see it as a blessing in disguise, when you find the person you are meant to be with and they treat you as you ought to be treated, like a queen, then you will know to make them your king.

Take care.

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Azrael_ offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (9 minutes after post)

I’m sorry to hear you’re going through all this, and I do have a simple advice for you.

The impression I get is that you’re confused from two men in a three year period(there was so much details, I couldn’t absorb it all! ouch! ). Instead of letting one guy, or two confuse you - make up your mind.

Empower yourself. What do YOU want? Who do YOU want to spend YOUR life with? Work it out. Everyone argues/spats/disagrees/etc. There will always be issues to deal with, people say/do stupid things, and never mean it.

Relationship is an effort. Takes two people to make it work. Put in your share, see if the other reciprocates.

If he does - the relationship has potential. Work with it.

If he doesn’t, the relationship is doomed already. Let go, and move on.

Only you know the answer, and you need to make up your mind.

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gib offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (8 hours, 53 minutes after post)

I think deep down you know what you should do, and NOT do…which is why you’re asking for advice. It’s almost like it’s just too painful to do what you KNOW is right.
Well, you know what everyone here will say!! He he. He is NOOOOOO good for you! Drop him like a badddd habit, and move on honey.
Also, I just wanted to comment real quicky on something you mentioned…
you said you had gone back with your ex, who is your son’s father. Be very careful with that. I don’t know how old your son is, but if he is old enough that going back and forth thing can be very damaging to kids. It confuses them…and you. If you guys broke up it was probably for a reason (ex’s are an ex FOR A REASON!!), it also doesn’t allow you to heal and move on from the relationship.
Anyway, wish you well!! =)

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karenmccullough41 offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 12 months ago (1 day, 5 hours after post)

Thanks for the responces…

The problem is that i know what i want ..or thought..i did. He says he dosnt want me:( But then still wont let me grive in peace.I love him more than anything but i also know that, i shouldnt have to fight to be loved or understood.We are all human and we all make mistakes. I have hurt him in the past(never cheating).And taken full responsibility.He cannot forgive me for these things..I have not completly forgivin him ither for hurting me…But i do not throw it in his face,I love him too much and trust when he explains his feelings to me.

As for the child comment, I know that it is devestating to a child.I just felt like if i could not be happy with the one i truley love, then why not try and make my son happy by giving him his father.Not realizing that he was loseing his mother and stability in the mean time.It was wrong and i have learnt alot from it … But thanks again for the advise im in serious need of some right now

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