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I hate my boyfriends son, and it makes me feel like a horrible person.

Its not that I’m jealous of the attention the kid gets from his dad, and its not like there’s anything wrong with him, but his parents don’t discipline him well, and the kid is all ways in need of a bath. I understand its difficult raising a child in a split family. He is only two years old, maybe I should cut him some slack? I’m not sure how these kids normally act, I’ve only ever been around this one. He is loud and obnoxious and runs out into the street, throws fits, and I actually had to clean up the table at a restaurant when my boyfriend went to the bathroom because I was SO embarrassed. There are no problems between me and my boyfriend accept when the kid is around, Perhaps he feels like I’m giving him parenting advice, when the thought of having my own kids repulses me. We’ve been together for a while now, thinking about moving in together. I still haven’t figured out the kids schedule, seems to be about 2-3 nights a week, but my boyfriend says if we get an apartment, he would need a 2 bedroom for his son. UGH the thought of that child wreaking havoc in my home is unbearable, I hope its something we will both grow out of, or a relationship that I can grow into. If I don’t figure something out soon, It’ll tear us apart.

Also, I do not know ‘Baby mama’ as he calls her, Not even her name. I know he pays child support and have no idea how the custody thing got worked out, but Right before we started dating, when we were still getting to know each other, they were talking about getting back together and I kind of hindered that/steered him away from that option because I don’t believe in second chances. I’m head over heals for this guy but I’m afraid this woman will try something to get back with him, she’s talked to him about it before but he said no because he’s with me, and she doesn’t want to talk to him or sleep with him… just have a relationship? still not sure how that works, but I’m keeping my fingers crossed that all goes well.

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