Year help: Ugh i feel horrible at the moment. - Help.com

You dont. how old are you?
your mother should not be hitting you! a little slap when you have done wrong is acceptable, but hitting you and swearing no.

how old are you, male or female?

dont feel bad its a natural human response. it is not your fault.

female, 17

You have nothing to apologise for! She was abusing you and you defended yourself. Never ever think that you have anything to apologise for, because you don’t.

Why does your mom hit you? What do you do to provoke such fury? I don’t think children can actually do anything to provoke their parents to actually hit them. But that is just me. I would never think of hitting my children.

Anonymous wrote:
female, 17

it isnt right what your mum is doing

do you have or live with your dad? or are your parenst seperated? or is there any other family member or friend you can talk with about this.?

You’re being abused.

No matter if you’re 5, 17, 27 - no one deserved to be treated like that.

Do NOT apologize to her. Your mother is the weak one here, and you need to be the strong one.

After your mother calmed down, try open up a dialogue about it, be upfront, and gentle about it. Remind her you do not want it to escalate, and should it continue - it will, and you need to make a wise decision.

Ask her if anyone can help.

Is she drinking? on drugs? has a mental/emotional disorder?

Now what happens? If i keep defending myself we will end up killing each other. She is like that when she has a bad mood I’m used to it, im just scared il lose my temper again.

NotLost-Undiscovered wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
female, 17

it isnt right what your mum is doingdo you have or live with your dad? or are your parenst seperated? or is there any other family member or friend you can talk with about this.?

My parents are married but my dad works two jobs so i barely see him. My sister (she’s 20) is at work and then hangs out with her boyfriend after so she won’t have to go home and fight with her. I have school and work as well, but today i went out with a friend and when i came back she just started hitting me. She smokes, doesn’t drink or do drugs.. She is just angry everytime i see her.

Sit down across from her when she’s calm, and ask her what’s bothering her.

See if she starts to vent decently rather than physically or verbally abusing you.

She’s obviously harbouring a lot of negative issues, and is taking it out on you.

Now it’s time for the daughter to become the mother.

then its not fair.

anyone would be angry in your situation, you say your scared of hurting your mum, then dont you think the right thing to do would be to get some help?

please try childline, it sounds scarey and stupid, but they will just talk to you they wont call the authorities, it can just help to talk to someone who will listen and get some advice about how to resolve issues, please try it. 0800 11 11.

The problem is finding her when she’s calm and able to talk, cos when she’s calm she is on the phone with her sister (my aunt) and if i try talking she will swear at me and tell me to leave her be.

NotLost-Undiscovered wrote:
then its not fair.anyone would be angry in your situation, you say your scared of hurting your mum, then dont you think the right thing to do would be to get some help?please try childline, it sounds scarey and stupid, but they will just talk to you they wont call the authorities, it can just help to talk to someone who will listen and get some advice about how to resolve issues, please try it. 0800 11 11.

Are you on good terms with your aunt? talk with her…maybe your mother told her stuff about you.

this way you can learn more indirectly about your mother’s state of mind.

I just need to try and not lose my temper. In just one year, i will move out of the house. I told a friend about what’s hapenning and the second i turn 18 she wants me to move in with her and her parents until we find a place of our own.

azrael242 wrote:
Are you on good terms with your aunt? talk with her…maybe your mother told her stuff about you.this way you can learn more indirectly about your mother’s state of mind.

My aunt just thinks my mum has a temper, nothing other then that. And my aunt is a lot like her. They were both hit and sworn at by their father (my grandpa) when they were young, that’s all i know. But this has been going on since my grandma died in 1997.. But recently it’s gotten much much worse.

My grandpa used to drink a lot, that’s why.